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olive, 23, they them, lesbian, here 4 adoptees ❤

[red-envelopes]

when an adoptee asks someone to stop doing something that hurts them and other adoptees, you'd think it'd be common courtesy to simply stop doing the thing that hurts adoptees but noooo it has to be made into such a huge deal by non-adoptees. just because you cannot understand their pov does not mean it is wrong, or attacking, or that adoptees are too sensitive. Adoptees can be made up of anyone. Please stop silencing adoptees. Please start listening without attacking.

the ignorance surrounding adoption is so infuriating. start listening to the lived experience of adoptees and learning what is it like.

[oliveptee]

people genuinely being like "but but.. Nazis can change!!" I do not fucking care my God. Also "redacted wasnt a politican... He wasnt that bad" He propagandad racism, made money off of it, and made this country 100% more racist. also his wife traffiks little girls. Why TF shouldn't people be happy his dead.

[oliveptee]

it's so amazing how people are like "but people who vote red have less education!" and except queer people to care about people that want us dead, extremely misogynistic and racist. you can not expect minority groups to care about our oppressors even if the opressors are targeted by the true evil of politicains.

[oliveptee]

I sincerely hope in every universe my parents ivf fails and I'm their kid in every universe 💗

[oliveptee]

having children needs to be deromanticed so fast. giving birth is a terrible process that isn't good for the body, it's miserable and the whole "pregnancy glow" bullshit needs to die. adoption needs to be treated the same as having biological kids, "just a thing that happens."

having kids is a lovely thing only when people are ready and going to be good parents. the romanticism of birth needs to be abolished.

[abluescarfonwaston]

Spy x Family is fundamentally an adoption story.

Obviously Anya is adopted. We all know this. She knows this. She loves her family but knows it is incredibly fragile.

But unlike most adoption stories (say Natsume Yuujinchou) Anya is not adopted into a loving functional family who's main goal is to support and love her until she heals from all the hurt she has been through.

Because Everyone in their family is adopted.

Yor enters thinking she is entering an existing family dynamic of a man and his daughter. She is the step mother, eagerly wanted but a definite outsider. She does not know about how they lost Loid's first wife. They both Never mention her but Anya clearly has Huge feelings about her Mommy that she cannot touch. Because Loid refuses to acknowledge her. Which means she's not allowed to.

She's a wife brought in to solve a problem. The fact she adores Anya and loves Loid (eventually) doesn't make her any less of an outsider from her perspective. To Yor she's the adopted family member.

Meanwhile Loid, the one who brought them all together almost instantly finds himself on the outside of the family. He works too much and doesn't make it home for dinner frequently. He struggles to connect with his 'daughter' and wife. Can't understand either of them despite constant efforts. Something incredibly distressing for him.

Yor instantly connects with this child when he struggled to hold her hand in public. In his eyes Yor and Anya are a family and he is the outsider only there for the mission. The man who is destined to Not be there. He too often fills the role of the outside child brought into a happy family. One he constantly feels he is fumbling or failing. (If I'm not good, if i'm not perfect- my family will leave me. So I have to be. I have to figure out how to be better)

They are a family of adopted members all holding so tightly to each other. Each one of them chooses the others over and over again. Struggles against their own limitations and fears to be a part of a family they're all terrified to really call their own.

But it is that choice that makes them a family. Not blood or marriage or any certificate. That they all keep trying to be a family to the others. I'll be a good girl and study hard Papa. I'll be a good wife, I'll play my role well so don't abandon me. I'll be a good father and husband, I will try to be a good husband and father if you both will just stay with me. Please. I will figure out how.

Spy x Family is an adoption story.

[clarissecagliostro]

not found family! adoption! --an adoptee

[oliveptee]

the reason i hate ivf so much is that its mainly used as an excuse to hate adoptees even more tbh. its anything but adoption. its biologicalness matters more than how i raise and love a child. people so often dehumanize adoptees and see them as inferior. i wouldnt hate on people making a family if there wasnt so many kids in foster care, and looking upon adoptees as less than. "They could have mental issues" so could your kid, do you know your own genetics and every issue you will have? i cant help but see it only as an excuse to hate adoptees tbh. i try to get away from the argument of "having a bio kid is harmful because theres kids in foster care" but its more "if you think of kids in foster care + adoptees as less than and believe your genetics are more important than how you raise a child + wanting a mini me (and all the harms of mini ((bio)) mes have) then you shouldnt be a parent"

But the cost of adoption!! stfu people will drop 100,000$ on ivf before ever considering adoption. which the price of varies for like a million different reasons anyways. its barely EVER the cost. Its just seeing adoptees as inferior and less than.

I wish i was more lose in this bc i know it do piss some people off but im just so tired of adoptees getting ignored that i hate anything that takes away from that.

[oliveptee]

me because my stupid parents ivf failed years ago and now im adopted by them

# FUCK THEM EGGS!! So glad you DONT exist!!

[oliveptee]

i know younger me would be pissed that i found my bio familes info but i refuse to do anything with it. sorry the world hates your queer disabled ass rn and one of your dumb fuck bio brothers joined the military and you are very anti military and cant hide that fact. You hate your adoptive step family and you think you can be around your bio family whos in it? my mom is a stupid cunt for what she said about "shouldnt say that about people when they die" whatever. sick of you posting "im so healthy now!! Free from abusive men" when you forgot you even had a daughter like okay.

so not male centric anymore so your free from trauma! dumbass mf.

cant help but think about how my siblings are both boys and im a "woman" like i identify with that term but whatever, really makes you think when no one but her knows of my existence. Wanna explain that one ? With all your "im free from men im no longer male centric" posts mom, your forgeetting and giving me away for adoption just looks like you hated your baby GIRL because she was a GIRL. idk! makes you think mom! And you want meeeee to do all the reaching out. Do you even fucking care you dumb cunt?

Im crying now but i wish i could tell younger me she doesnt get how hard it is. Not knowing and being able to dream of a hypothetical perfect birth mom who was young dumb college girl who got drunk couldnt take care of kid and now maybe has kids younger than you is a lot better than knowing your the youngest. Makes me want to smash my hand into a wall if i had the energy. Honestly the concept of my brothers beinf adopted out and being good people with good adoptive families was better than one being in the military and the other looking like a dude that would harass you in highschool ( <- olive judging men for existing hm i wonder why, almost like she got harassed by them) thinking their the nice pretty brothers like in your silly fictional shit, (like cis men could ever be lol)

i get i had to know the truth, not knowing is too much. i get that. im just fed up with it all.

i thought things wouldnt be complicated. I was suppose to be the eldest in every family i was in. I hate that im not.

[oliveptee]

avoiding interacting with birth mom even though I know I should grab medical info from her. One brother is a military nurse? And idk I can't be bothered to talk to my mom who's basically a democratic centrist who said "people were mean to Charlie cunt.."

I already have two stupid parents who arnt involved in politics enough for their queer disabled afab thing. And have to constantly inform them. I can't do it again + you know. Meeting family who didn't know I existed etc. Just so so upset.

[oliveptee]

for a long time I wanted my romantic partner to also be adopted but I kinda realized that would almost never happen tbh. I like the idea in concept with my OCs. I do wish I could have that connection but having that + my other interests and general lesbian anti bigotry.. Yeah.

It's good to cope with it / see it in my OCs + their relationships though.

[oliveptee]

going to ruffle a few feathers with this one

edit: please stop liking and reblog this post, its important since people are extremely disrespectful to adoptees and other groups by calling them found family. thanks.

[oliveptee]

OFC COURSE ANYTIME!! I LOVE MAKING ADOPTEE FRIENDS !! 💖

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[oliveptee]

this is the exact type of wubification and romanization of adoption ive been talking about. While on different extremes this is how "adoptables" "adopt a family" etc feels like. its the exact same but on different levels. its gross. just talk about donations or buying product/deisgn

[hussyknee]

I have arrived in a stage of my life where I profoundly distrust anyone who romanticizes adoption.

[oliveptee]

if you talk about how others (yourself or people you know) want to adopt / encouraging others to, theres always someone that says "I believe in eugenics and adoptees are less than"

[baelpenrose]

Did my masters on the history of adoption. This has been something assholes have been doing for at least 300 years.

[oliveptee]

yep esp since the whole bloodline thing. I wonder what the % of adoptees are AFAB.

"An adoptee could be disabled! " an adoptee is already born, it's not like they give you a random child but invisible disabilities exist. your nonexistent biological baby could have disabilities! but anyone can and will become disabled at anytime!! but their too dumb to consider this.

Reading about adoption and orphanages in the early 1900s makes me so drained but it's good hearing about the first people who cared about adoptees.

people often only adopted to have extra farm hands or in other countries (I know china especially did this) adopted a child so that their biological children could marry (lets not talk about the obvious incest there!)

it's so disgusting that adoptees being human and important is a new concept in human history.

[oliveptee]

if you talk about how others (yourself or people you know) want to adopt / encouraging others to, theres always someone that says "I believe in eugenics and adoptees are less than"