Sugar resources and experiences

I'm Olivia, a Boston - based new sugar baby returning to the bowl after a long hiatus. I’m also an expert on online sw and often bounce back and forth between escorting and sugaring, please feel free to reach out! personal tumblr is queergolddigger

[oliviasugarbabe]

how does instagram know to suggest i follow the random couple i hooked up with the singular weekend i spent in cananda and met at a bar and don’t have their last name or contact info????

[oliviasugarbabe]

I am once again uncontrollably attracted to a new roommate :( why do I always do this!!!!!!!!! this is the THIRD TIME! she’s the perfect effortlessly masculine gay vibes woman I’ve been looking for!!!!! we just spent over an hour sitting in our dark empty not yet furnished living room talking about our plans to play with a ouija board and she was teasing me about how I have to believe for it to work and then talking about starting a cult and just silly stuff cracking up and it was so flirty and she looked so good tonight and like i swear I’m already counting down the end of the lease when it’ll be okay for us to hook up and i also hope she’s cool w the fact that I purely coincidentally already had a thing with her like best friend LMAO

[oliviasugarbabe]

i’m always the first person people call when their relationship ends 😂 and babe I am always here

[oliviasugarbabe]

i swear all women have a specific skill of making men (or women if you’re queer) do whatever you wanted them to do from WHAT YOU POST ON INSTA. That tweet that said “women’s version of sliding into DMs is posting a pic” is so freaking true. I need to schedule a dick appointment as part of a long-term plan with this really hot guy but I didn’t wanna just text him so I was like I’ll post THIS EXACT PIC to make him text me and ask to hang out. And bitch 9 seconds after that pic is posted he’s the first to like it and immediately texts me. I’ve always done this with men and women in my circle of dating and it’s so funny how well it works, like to make someone jealous, to make someone ask to hang out, to make someone curious, to remind someone of you who you haven’t spoken to in a while. So fun

[oliviasugarbabe]

I’m facetiming with my sister out of nowhere while I’m wasted because she’s freaking out driving around after having a big fight with her bf and then her bfs dad had to go to the hospital so she has to be there but is also mad at him and trying to set boundaries and also not allowed in the hospital w him cause of covid so she’s yelling and driving around looking for cigarettes and a place to pee and this is so chaotic bc it’s hard to be there for her while I’m super drunk :( i’m so glad I’m single and only have relationships with men for money

[oliviasugarbabe]

could’ve shopped this nicer to hide the b*obs and tattoos but look how hot I am right now

[oliviasugarbabe]

Can I share a rather bleak bad story that happened to me that I can’t share or talk about anywhere else??? I’m gonna do it. TW for sexual assault!!!!

When I was 17 I was raped by my (at the time) boyfriend’s best friend. I was also close friends with the friend’s girlfriend. I was blamed by my boyfriend, by my friend whose boyfriend raped me, and by the whole friend group lmao. I never had time to even process that it was rape because I was busy being punished and trying to get my boyfriend to “forgive” me for it. I was still locked in a pretty intense emotional abuse cycle with him - he cheated, briefly went off with the other girl, and his best friend saw his chance when I was wasted, crying, and vulnerable one night. I said no and tried to leave his room several times. It’s pretty fuzzy. Looking back it’s of course unbelievable that I still wanted to be with my evil cheating boyfriend and actually felt guilty for what had happened to me.

Years later I finally processed it and finally accepted it was rape after a long time of saying “practically rape/practically date rape/having sex with me while I was vulnerable”. If there’s one thing I can thank my ex boyfriend for, it’s that his severe traumatic abuse, serial cheating, and gaslighting completely overshadowed the rape at the time and still does so I’m actually not that traumatized from being a rape victim. I’m totally kidding - but it’s definitely true that the rape was totally buried and I didn’t dare think of it much except to try to get him to forgive me, and then years later I am over the relationship abuse and therefore the rape never really hit me hard. The other stuff did, but I think maybe it’s better this way and I’m sort of lucky (in a fucked up way!) that I didn’t have to go through rape trauma directly.

I’ve blocked them all since then - except the rapist and his girlfriend (my friend). They’re now married with a baby. I enjoy seeing that she’s stuck at home with this baby and joining pyramid schemes and unable to hold down a job or afford her own place, and her boyfriend is still watching my instagram stories the second I post them, and SHE’S still stalking me sometimes, while I’m out here living life to the fullest, no baby, college and a career ahead of me, dating whoever I want, and happy. I’m also just insane which is a quicker explanation for why I’d keep my ex friend and her boyfriend who raped me unblocked lmao.

I’ve been dying to get that out!! I’ll go to therapy when covid is over lol. Thanks for being here for me to send out things like this to! Also this is something I can joke about pretty easily so don’t feel too bad!

[oliviasugarbabe]

You know one thing I don’t like in the sex work world? I don’t like when some of YOU decide to go out of your way to gatekeep. I believe in paying sex workers for their advice and guidance about starting sex work, and I believe that there’s some things that girls won’t learn until they do it. And I think a lot of girls asking for advice are clueless and not serious. BUT I’ve seen some of you online saying shit like “I learned what I know through trial and error and I’ve been in a lot of dangerous situations and bad experiences before I learned so I don’t like when women expect to just be told the things I had to suffer to learn myself” like are you for real?? You’re withholding information that you pained and suffered for, including information about staying safe and avoiding DANGER, just because you WANT other new girls to have to do that too? To possibly have horrible things happen to them? I personally don’t mind giving advice out. I often will do it for free, though I think girls should sometimes expect to be charged. And I especially would never tell a girl off for asking for advice specifically because I WANT her to have to go in blind specifically about danger and possibly get hurt. If you are wanting girls to suffer and shit just because YOU had to then there’s something wrong with you. If you don’t like giving advice in general that’s fine but why are some of you speaking out unnecessarily just to tell everyone that you’re bitter that girls are entering sex work without enough pain and suffering and danger and assault? I don’t want any woman to go through any of the pain I’ve gone through in my life in general if I can help it.

[oliviasugarbabe]

anyways. to get back to sex work posting. Is anyone else really in a funk? I have this daddy who works the night shift and normally I’d make sure I talk to him at a time we’re both up and stuff but lately I’ve just been like unable to bring myself to text him in a timely fashion because I’m so rarely in the mood to deal w it. I used to just talk to men whenever even when I’m not in the mood ofc but lately I’m like, absolutely not. Im in bed/drinking wine/watching a show/tired/just ate 7 lbs of food/in my not sexy pajamas and it’s just not happening. AND I’ve found that big requests from online customers almost cause an energy hit. Like, a guy asked if I was available to talk on the phone and I was like yeah not only am I not available to talk on the phone cause I’m in bed and shit but I also think that sounds like the last thing I’d ever wanna do now that you mention it. Online sex work is possibly not even my thing anymore after all these years. I can’t wait for a vaccine! Gotta start dating older rich men irl again.

[oliviasugarbabe]

but still I’ve decided to never let a man get comfortable with me again. fwb comes over last night and guys I still have bruises and bite marks from the last time and then this time.....what did he do? nothing. Came in 3 mins. And I WAS ON TOP THE WHOLE TIME ugh....I’ve always done this thing where I tell men it’s totally fine to cum quick, I like it, it’s hot etc because it makes them more comfortable and they pay you back heavy later instead of being all whiny and self conscious but maybe it’s time to start shaming them again because this man had the audacity to just leave it at that

[oliviasugarbabe]

every person I’ve had sex with (which is a lot) man or woman tells me I’m the best sex they’ve ever had, that I’ve ruined kissing/sex with other people for them, they compare me to long term ex partners and shit. I also get told “i love you” in the middle of sex a lot. I just can’t believe my power and I wanna be young forever

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Londone Myers at Rodarte SS19

[oliviasugarbabe]

I’m reading creepy pastas all alone at home and I’m so spooked :( but I can’t stop

[oliviasugarbabe]

i assume this message didn’t send through and in case it didn’t, i just wanted to thank you again (this is the fandom writer asking about the sugar lifestyle!) for your response!! it’s really helped me with getting started and i’ve been researching quite a lot about the topic since you’ve really piqued my interest! i truly appreciate your answer and how much detail you put into it and i hope you stay safe and healthy during this time! 💓💓💓

of course!!! I’m so glad you found it helpful and interesting!!! it’s definitely a whole world, I remember how cool it was when I first discovered the community. Good luck!!

[oliviasugarbabe]

thinking bout the time a girl I hooked up with was leaving my apartment in the morning and she ran into the man I had invited over for sex at the door bc I didn’t leave enough overlap time and I did not apologize to either of them

[oliviasugarbabe]

quarantining for so long has me feeling kinda weird about returning to sex work when it’s over. It’s been so nice being totally isolated cause I’m such an extreme introvert and now when things eventually get better I’m gonna have to use energy on men again 🙄 honestly being alone also has made me super horny so I’m gonna have to do some quick hooking up with normal young guys and gals before getting back in the older man saddle. Also online sex work bores me I’m not even trying to keep up with it anymore so I guess it’s gonna also be good when I can do it irl again

[gagosianwife-deactivated2019120]

Please demand what you want. If a man says no, gaslight him and tell him you can’t believe he’s making it all about the money and then block him. When he demands your time, gaslight him and say, “wow I had no idea most people don’t have lives? They just have all this time to lie around? It must be nice not having responsibilities” and then go back to bed. When he criticizes your appearance, gently remind him that every man before him was a chilesed god with a perfect 8.25 inch penis that made you gush and that reminding him of this, in fact- rubbing it in his face like he’s a dog, is a courtesy on your part. Very kind. And when men try to compare you to other women, their exes or women in the media, let him know you don’t trust his so-called “standards”. Oh the last woman went out of her way for you? Oh no, what was wrong with her? Is she ok? Stop believing men. Stop fearing men. Stop starving yourself for men. Stop playing the game for a text, for a mediocre hookup, to be “liked” or viewed as “the cool girl”. Stop existing for free. No more men belittling women, we are gaslighting, manipulating and provoking emotional terrorism on men.

[oliviasugarbabe]

reblogging this again cause it’s so good. “Stop believing men. Stop fearing men.”