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The Types (as viewed from the subjective experience of an individual ENTP):

Everyone has been making posts about their different experiences with the types so I’m gonna make my own because I’m jobless and hate being left out yayyy

ISFJ: So cute. So warm. Truly the nicest people out there. I always spot you guys because I get majorly protective over you for no reason. However, the closer we get the more likely things are to go…well downhill to be honest. We’re polar opposites and eventually it starts to show. I’d still die for you guys though.

ISTJ: I.. really cannot relate to you. Like at all. Your epic skills in organization as well as your ability to seamlessly fit into societal norms and expectations honestly freaks me out. I’m sure you’re good people but I always think “surely this is fake. Surely there’s an alternative and crazy personality hiding underneath this creepy exterior perfection”. You can take this as a back-handed compliment I guess. Anyway, y'all weird me out.

ESFJ: Ahh, I always find you guys in my orbit somehow. I attract this type frequently. I keep you guys amused and you’re always an excellent soundboard for my wack ideas. ESFJs either really like me or really hate me, there’s no in between. It’s a fun friendship until the ESFJ realizes that I’m genuinely like this allll the time and that my character is not, in fact, a persona.

ESTJ: I can chill with you guys more easily than with ISTJs. You guys are actually willing to have conversations and frankly? When you guys wanna let loose and have fun? You guys are WILD. We’re usually fine with each other when we’re at a safe distance.

ISFP: another adorable type. It usually starts off awkward because the ones i met are so shy and quiet and it makes me all the more invested in you. We’re extremely different in every way but you guys are so chill and the differences never seem to create any trouble. I love you judgement-free hippies. I want to protect you too.

ISTP: I’m not even sure I know any tbh. From the stereotypes though, you guys sound lit. And by lit I mean i’d literally seek you out to light a joint and chill for a bit.

ESFP: oh boy. I’m always attracted to you guys against my better judgement. I’ve gotten attached to TWO esfps in my life and I’m not even sure how that happened. We legit have nothing in common but I always get so soft on this type. You’re so confident and full of life and it excites me. Things just always seem to be temporary with you and our differences catch up to us eventually. Best flings. Also voted: Most Likely To Break My Heart.

ESTPs: Fam. We’re the same, but different, but still same. You guys are the cooler, more level-headed version of me. Don’t think for a second though that I’ll take your arrogant bullshit. I live for the snide back and forth with you. I think we make an excellent Power Duo.

INFP: babies. I know you guys aren’t ACTUALLY the way the stereotypes make you out to be but you really are super cute. I really like talking to you. Surprisingly detached exterior. Kinda awkward at times. Gets attached to people super easily. The INFPs I know I would’ve never guessed to be INFPs. Also, plot twist, they’re not manic pixie dream girls/boys. They have their shit together, but only on the surface.

INFJ: I just want to find my INFJ soulmate and live happily ever after. One of the few types who truly takes my bullshit and still cares about me in spite of it. Great conversationalists. Excellent social chameleons. Super intelligent and perceptive. It’s pretty clear I like you guys a lot, heh. Also, the psychiatrist stereotype is true. Please stop trying to expose my weak side, it stresses me out.

ENFP: either extremely stereotypical or shockingly different from what you expect. You march to the beat of your own drum. Softies but you’re still much tougher than people think you are. Like INFPs, some have a detached exterior. Can be shockingly pragmatic and efficient when they put their Te to use. We get along so well with occasional Ti vs Fi clashes. Both ENFPs and ESFPs are really not as emotional as they’re made out to be.

ENFJ: some of the friendliest people out there. Always looking to make friends. Seeks a lot of validation and base their confidence on how people view them. I think you’re lovely and I like you guys, I just wish you cared less about what people think.

INTP: the quieter, less obnoxious, possibly smarter version of ENTPs. I love you guys so much. We get each other and conversation is always excellent.

INTJ: god I love to piss you off. I know one INTJ and we had such a rocky start. I really couldn’t stand her and we always took jabs at each other whenever an opportunity was presented. We became friends when we realized our similarities but the jabs stayed. I don’t feel the need to be nice to you and I love our debates. My INTJ definitely thinks I’m an idiot at times, and I think she’s a know-it-all. We love each other though and we’ll die before admitting it. It’s a very funny dynamic.

ENTP: you’re me. I am you. We are one. I don’t care what anyone says, i think we’re great fun and we’re fucking hilarious. Stay awesome, my dudes.

ENTJ: heh, I love pissing you off too. But really, we have great conversations. Also, I’m super impressed by your dedication to your work as well as your creative approach. Very admirable people. Too stubborn and fixated at times.

This is all SUBJECTIVE so please don’t come at me with pitchforks if you don’t agree.

Actually, you should. It’ll make me feel like a cool evil and selfish queen whose people finally decided they’ve had enough and it’s time to revolt.

Wow, that was oddly specific.

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Somebody: Why don’t you talk or think about literally anything else?

Me:

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How do ENFJ's act around their crush?

Good question. I think it’s different for every ENFJ, and because ENFJs are such chameleons, it will depend upon the person they are crushing on.

For example, if the crush is someone they don’t know very well, the ENFJ might admire the person from afar. Very conscious of social constructs and with the knowledge of how to not act creepy, the ENFJ will try to spend as much time around their crush as possible without seeming desperate.

If the ENFJ knows the person better, they will probably act a lot differently. Speaking from personal experience, when I have a crush on a friend, I will tease them, try to talk to them often, be really sarcastic, and behave in small, subtle ways that demand attention. ENFJs usually compliment everyone, but be on the lookout for more and extra meaningful compliments or comments.

However, if an ENFJ is afraid of scaring off their crush, or they don’t want their feelings to be made known, they will be very good at acting just the same around this person as everyone else. ENFJs might even actively (or subconsciously) seem to ignore their crush… while casting longing, sideways glances.

Hope this helped!

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ENFJ crush

ENFJs can be too externally focused which makes it difficult for them to sort out their own emotional life. When it comes to romantic involvements, the degree of emotional investment is very important for ENFJs. They usually have no problem acting confidently and boldly around those people they have little emotional investment in. However, once an ENFJs starts to see a crush as fitting their ideal for a long term relationship, they will feel increasingly invested in this possibility and struggle to contain the emotions and excitement that come with it. The inner whirlwind of emotion is likely to make them feel awkward or unable to behave normally around the person. This can cause them to doubt themselves or worry too much about being judged. Less mature ENFJs are likely to be much more guarded because of lack of confidence or fear of rejection. They may try to analyze the situation and their emotions to find a path forward but come up empty. More mature ENFJs will probably be assertive and use their natural relationship building skills to deepen the relationship as quickly as they can, until they feel confident enough to express their feelings honestly.

From the other person’s perspective: ENFJs tend to be warm and interested in getting to know most people, so it may be difficult to tell if they like you. Generally speaking, if they like you, they will not only show general interest by asking you questions, they will also want to explore deeper ideas, topics, or feelings with you. It is usually a good sign if an ENFJ is willing to reveal their most private emotions to you because they generally avoid doing so for fear of being disruptive or judged negatively by others. With Ni, ENFJs want to honor their own sense of meaning and truth but this often conflicts with Fe’s focus on social values and expectations, so it usually requires quite a deep level of trust for ENFJs to reveal their true selves. With Se-Ti, ENFJs are also concerned about social status and being seen as competent and intelligent, so they are often very sensitive about admitting flaws, shortcomings, or weaknesses. They tend to have a fear of being vulnerable or getting hurt, so if they ever allow you to see that hidden side of themselves, you can be sure that they hold you in very high regard.

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MBTI TYPES AS QUOTES. yeah. I know this has been done millions of times. just. read. pls.

ESTP - ‘’I tried so hard to be a nice lady, you taught me its okay to be crazy’’ - Lana Del Rey

ESFP - ‘’Eventually, you’re going to die. Everyone you know will die and you will be forgotten. So why get mad? Why waste time? You should live, because as far as you know, this is your only life’’ - anonymus

ISTP - ‘’Have some fire. Be unstoppable. Be a force of nature.’’ - Grey’s Anatomy

ISFP - ‘’Been trying hard not to get into trouble but I’ve got a war in my mind’’ and ‘’I’m not mad, I’m hurt. There’s a difference’’ - Lana Del Rey

ESTJ - ‘’Efforts and courage isn’t enough without action and direction’’ - JFK

ESFJ - ‘’Promise me you’ll always remember: you’re braver than you believe, you’re stronger than you seem, you’re smarter than you think’’ - Winnie The Pooh

ISTJ - ‘’Time flies. Time waits for no man. Time heals all wounds. All any of us want is more time. Time to stand up, time to grow up. Time to let go. Time’’ - Grey’s Anatomy

ISFJ - ‘’No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again’’ - Buddha

ENTJ - ‘’Kill them with success and bury them with a smile’’ - anonymus

INTJ - ‘’So do it decide, is this the life you want to live? Is this the person you want to love? Is this the best you can be? Can you be stronger? Kinder? More compassionate? Decide.’’ - Grey’s Anatomy

ENTP - ‘’Accident is the name of all of the greatest inventions’’ - Mark Twain

INTP - ‘’Perhaps one does not want to be loved so much as to be understood’’ - George Orwell

ENFJ - ‘’Despite of everything, I still believe that people are really good at heart’’ -Anne Frank

INFJ - ‘’The truth is, everyone is going to hurt you, you just have to find the the ones worth suffering for’’ - Bob Marley

INFP - ‘’The true sign of intelligence isn’t knowledge, it’s imagination’’- Albert Einstein

ENFP - ‘’So come with me, where dreams are born, and time is never planned, just think of happy things and your heart will fly on wings, forever, in never, never land.’’ - Peter Pan

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Why I Love the Types

INTP: They always ask the most interesting questions, and will consider your point of view and explore it thoroughly before judging if it is valid or not, their thirst for knowledge is super interesting and complex, and their open-mindedness is unparalleled, they act like they don’t care but they are capable of being incredibly selfless, also their minds are AMAZING, so complex and logical, and just lots of love to all the INTPs out there, you’re great people! X) also, whatever you create is always eerily fascinating, how ever do you come up with that?

ENTP: You guys are incredibly witty, which makes it hard at times to be mad at you for being politically incorrect, as you have the capacity to understand and respond to almost anything, which makes you great at advising people, and you’re really fun to be with, your confidence empowers people to feel good about themselves, and the quality of conversation is just incredible, so we love you very much beside the fact that you’re infuriating sometimes ;) you’re ultra-smart, too.

INTJ: So F-types using Fi can be annoying but hear me out: I profoundly respect your aptitude to think things through and to sense what the best decision to take would be, you’re incredibly knowledgeable (like htf do you know so much!), your drive and vision are empowering and could truly change the world, and you are silently capable of anything. I basically respect you guys so much, you rock! Oh and your subtle humour and occasional passive-aggressiveness? That’s another great thing ;)

ENTJ: First of all, your organisation skills are unparalleled, you can find a plan for anything in a matter of seconds, and there is ALWAYS a solution, even though you’re a bit scary you’re really easy to talk to when we get to know you, the way you talk about the things that interest you makes it fascinating for the person listening too because of your drive, when you’re patient you can spend hours explaining things ever so clearly to people, you’re really cool ;)

INFP: You’re all so sweet, but this should not be misunderstood as a weakness, since you hold your values very close to your heart and whoever fails to be kind and understanding of others, or who persistently underestimates you, will be irretrievably lost, which makes you very loyal, and very complex. The way you relate to other people although you’re different, your empathy and perception of life are truly inspiring! :) also, your writing skills are very impressive.

ENFP: ENFPs are as capable of making people cry from laughter as they are in search of the deepest truths of their mind and personal understandings to see the world from a completely different perspective, you’re crazy in the best possible way and you speak from the heart, you find meaning in the seemingly smallest and worthless things, and your outlook on life -although it can sometimes be nostalgic or sad- is always breathtakingly beautiful, it’s amazing :)

INFJ: Where do I even start with INFJs, you people are so wise and oftentimes very old souls who genuinely care for other people that they know AND don’t know, you’re always ready to help, sometimes more than you can directly handle, and your concern for the welfare of mankind is incredible. You understand people better than they do themselves, and thank you for listening to our endless rants, and having so much compassion you sometimes feel like it could kill you. We love you lots, really

ENFJ: Not talking about me but about other ENFJs, because that’s what we do, but you people are the rays of sunshine of our lives, the extra mother we didn’t know we needed -badly- and your patience, added to that “fighter for peace” mentality, helps us through our darkest times and makes us stronger. You can always, 24/7, be counted upon to get out of your way to help a friend or make time for someone if they need to talk, and that’s fricking remarkable, you’re a great person -remember that.

ISTJ: You save our asses ALL THE TIME, which would honestly be enough for me, considering how many times you do so, relentlessly, on a daily basis, you also work so hard to get what you want, you’re determined and nothing can make you stray when you’ve found the right path, your loyalty and strong sense of morals and duties are truly remarkable qualities that teach us many valuable lessons, and thank you once again for your notes, and your checklists, I don’t know what I’d do without you ;)

ISFJ: I’d already mentioned it somewhere but you guys are simply adorable, you care so much, and you excel when it comes to organising birthday parties and family gatherings. You remember little but meaningful things about people, but please stop beating yourselves up over things you don’t consider perfect because clearly, the fact that you’ve put so much of your time, and care into doing something we all see as amazing is way more than enough to any of us!! :) love you guys, take care

ESTJ: You guys are like these old professors from British colleges you see in films, you have your habits, you know your facts, you like cosy warm rooms where you can read and learn at ease, and your pun-based humour is hilarious. You can be completely hyper like you can be calm and smooth-spoken, and you always thrive to take the best decision, which is admirable. We love you for your patience and practicality, and just thank you for being a responsible person - even though sometimes you’re clearly train wrecks but that’s cool with us x)

ESFJ: Stereotypically you’re bubbly and happy to be alive, and I find that that’s actually true for most of the ESFJs I’ve encountered so far :) your organisation skills are epic and you use them to help people as well, so that they can have an organised and healthy lifestyle, which is great. Your positivity has an impact on the quality of my day, at least, and your compulsivity to hug is adorable, we love you so much! ^^

ISFP: You guys look quite serious from afar but when we get to know you, you’re about five kinds of crazy and six kinds of fun ;) You can be energetic and inspired and full of life, like you can also be perfectly chill and quiet -and just to be clear, you have the most amazingly awful taste in music; like I would want to hate it, but I can’t? Thank you for listening to my rants for hours on end and being cool with it, and for just being an awesome YOU

ISTP: You people act like you don’t care but deep down, you’re just fluff x) thank you for fixing just about anything I constantly break, and for being my Eye-roll & Sarcasm buddy. You also have a veritable sense of responsibilities, and will protect the people you care about with your life. Small acts of kindness is your way of showing love, and your strong opinions strive behind your unyielding determination and independence. You be you ;)

ESFP: The palette of emotions you often display is pretty intense, and it makes great art works, that it be in dance, poetry, drawing or painting, as it also contributes to making you fabulous, and fabulously unique ;) You have style and you have opinions, and you’re not afraid to show it, and that fierceness and wildness is what makes you so damn inspiring. You’re full of beans, and completely crazy, and your party spirit is much appreciated. You also care a lot about your friends and family, and would do anything for them. You go, girl!

ESTP: You guys are driven, cool, aaand have like five different passions which have completely taken over your life and that you constantly think and talk about x) your sense of thrill and danger is also exciting as hell, and your persistent need to set up pranks and make trashy jokes is kind of awesome, but you will literally destroy anyone who tries to contradict you, which comes in really impressively when you defend your friends and look out for them. You’re like our teenage older brother, and you’re awesome ;)

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MBTI Types as Students

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Source : The Uni Bubble

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Things ENFJ's want to hear

“It made me think of you” “I love that you care so much” “How are you actually doing?” “I trust you so much” “Thank you for helping me understand” “It wasn’t the same without you there” “I really need to talk to someone” “I’m bringing you a tea” “Yes, I did get home safe” “I’ll see you soon” “You always know how to cheer me up” “Can I be honest with you?” “I care about you” “What are you thinking about?” “Slow down, it’s ok” “I know you, and you need to sleep now” “Please eat something right now” “You make me feel so much” “I love how passionate you are” “I miss you” “I love the way you love me” “You’re such a peacekeeper” “I’ve noticed you” “Don’t change, ever” “Your heart is beautiful”

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The Types and Why They Procrastinate

Because they’re not emotionally ready to deal with the task at hand: INFP, INFJ, ISFP

Because the task wasn’t very exciting: ESFP, ENFP, ISTP, ESTP

Because someone needed their help. More like a couple someones, actually: ISFJ, ESFJ, ENFJ

Because they think the task isn’t worth their time: ESTJ, ENTJ, ISTJ

Because they didn’t find the task intellectually stimulating: INTJ, INTP, ENTP

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What's Your Animal Personality Type in MBTI ?

1. INTP: Owl

INTPs are analytical and thoughtful individuals who prefer to work alone and who are often ill at ease in social situations. They are impatient with hierarchies and politics and would prefer that leaders prove their worth with merit, rather than with charisma and influence. Although they are not particularly social, they do have razor sharp wit (and claws), and are often surprised to learn that people do enjoy their company.

2. ESTP: Fox

Dramatic, charismatic, and influential – ESTPs seek the best in life and want to share it with their friends. They are active, spontaneous, fun, and foxy. They are the most adept of any of the personality types at influencing and manipulating people, and they make great salesman and can be wonderful friends if you’re looking for a good time. Read Aesop’s Fables for more information.

3. ISFP: Sloth

Peaceful and easygoing, ISFPs take things at their own pace and live moment to moment. They are considerate, pleasant, caring, and mellow. Their values are important to them, but they are not ones who particularly care about defending or debating their views publicly. Don’t call them lazy – maybe they are just more relaxed than the rest of us.

4. ENTJ: Lion

Independent and logical thinkers who are also persuasive leaders, ENTJs are business-minded and ambitious. They refuse to allow any subjective emotion to enter into their decision-making process, and as a result they can be seen as callous and cold. But these fierce individuals tend to be highly effective, successful, and incredibly powerful. They are truly the kings of the proverbial jungle.

5. ISFJ: Deer

ISFJs are quiet, observant, and thoughtful. They are interested in maintaining order and harmony, avoiding fast-moving cars, and respecting everyone’s feelings. They are often described by the few people who know them deeply as being incredibly sensitive and trustworthy.

6. INTJ: Octopus

INTJs are independent types, wildly intelligent and creative – but rather un-interested in what anyone else is doing. They are often considered the most independent of all the personality types, and they work best when given freedom. They are acutely aware of their own intelligence, as well as what they don’t know, and their passion often lies in conceptualizing ideas and processing complex theories.

7. ISTP: Cat

ISTPs are an interesting study in contrasts: they are naturally quiet and analytic, often drawn to the field of engineering or trying to figure out how boxes work. But they are also explorers who can easily become bored with a single routin. ISTPs are often closet daredevils drawn to racing, bungee jumping, or jumping off of high countertops. They are “live and let live” types who are not particularly concerned with rules or regulations and would prefer that others not concern themselves with their behavior either. Some have even remarked that “don’t tread on me” is the perfect ISTP motto.

8. ESFP: Otter

ESFPs live in the moment and want to experience life at 100 mph. They are incredibly playful, generous, and optimistic. They love being social and having new experiences. Classroom learning is not their strong suit even though they are intelligent and creative – they would prefer to simply “go with the flow” and have a great time.

9. INFJ: Wolf

INFJs are value-driven individuals who tend to remain mysterious and complex even after you’ve become close to one. They are often creative and inspired individuals. They are good at perceiving emotions and are sensitive to the feelings of others, but they are not very prone to revealing much of themselves until they trust someone completely. That said, they are intensely interested in the well-being of others and are often seen as protectors as well as natural leaders.

10. ENFP: Dolphin

Creative and contagiously happy, ENFPs have boundless energy and an appetite for learning about new things and meeting new peope. They bring joy to others and are keenly perceptive to the needs of those around them. They are vivacious and popular enthusiasts. ENFPs tend to get bored easily, and they are always ready for the latest and the greatest in friends, relationships, experiences, and ocean jumping.

11. ESTJ: Honey Bee

ESTJs are civic-minded workers who strive to improve society and like to be part of organizations and governments. They are often conservative and they are strong believers in the letter of the law, and the importance of procedures. They are practical and straight-forward, and have little use for “expanding their mind” or having new experiences. They are, however, outgoing, and they have no problem with clearly communicating their needs and desires to others.

12. ISTJ: Beaver

ISTJs are logical and word-working conservative types. They enjoy organization and regulation, and have a reputation for being serious individuals who take a practical approach to everything. They are dependable and thorough, sensible and earnest. Like a beaver hard at work on its dam, they are known for being incredibly dedicated workers who will do whatever is needed to get the job done. On the negative side, they have good intentions but can sometimes have a difficult time understanding the emotional needs of others.

13. ENFJ: Dog

ENFJs are social butterflies who are cheerleaders and supporters of a wide variety of friends and acquaintances. They hate bullying and they love to greet their loved ones with a face lick and a tail wag. They feel good when the people around them feel good, and they tend to adapt to the group that they are in very quickly, even adopting the values of whoever they are surrounded by. They are loyal and expect loyalty from others – think of them as the living embodiment of a “team player.”

14. INFP: Meerkat

INFPs are deeply ethical and idealistic, loyal to their family and closest friends, and guided by their desire to live a life according to their values. They are curious about those around them, but will not accept threats to the security of their adorable babies or their morals.

15. ENTP: Parrot

ENTPs prize intelligence and competence over all other things (both in themselves and in others). They are often described as witty, clever, cerebral, and resourceful. They are verbally inclined and they often have a perverse sense of humor. ENTPs like to analyze every side of an issue and are creative thinkers and workers. They sometimes chatter.

16. ESFJ: Elephant

ESFJs are genuine and authentic, and they care deeply about those around them. These are the kind of individuals who bring out the best in those around them, and they are serious about loyalty and responsibility to their families, friends, and co-workers. They are generous and they love to bring joy to others, but they are also sensitive and easily hurt. ESFJs are often blind to the flaws of those they love and they are incredibly trusting and full of love.

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Source: >>buzzfeed.com<<

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Mbti as .... flowers?

ENTP: Protea- curiosity and change

INTP: Hydrangea- heartlessness and honest emotions (paradoxically)

ENTJ: Hollyhock- ambition and fruitfulness

INTJ: Purple Iris- royalty and wisdom

ESTP: Sweet Pea- pleasure, appreciation and departure

ISTP: Bird of Paradise- freedom, magnificence and joy

ESTJ: Gladiolus- honour and integrity

ISTJ: Black-eyed Susan- justice and motivation

ENFJ: Blue/Purple and Red Hyacinth- Playfulness and dependability

INFJ: Freesia- Trust and thoughtfulness

ENFP: Alstroemeria- friendship and devotion

INFP: Morning Glory- love and morality

ESFJ: Larkspur- Positivity, dignity and fickleness

ISFJ: Zinnia- endurance, goodness and remembrance

ESFP: Bouvardia- enthusiasm, excitement and zest

ISFP: Marigold- creativity and passion

Some runner ups that were considered for multiple types that you can check out if you didn’t like your flower:

Anemone- Death and forsaken love

Carnations (purple)- Capriciousness and whimsicality

Chamomile- energy in adversity

Chrysanthemum- Longevity, loyalty and honesty

Goldenrod- encouragement, growth and good luck

Heather- Solitude and protection

Hyssop- Cleanliness and sacrifice

Sunflower- happiness, loyalty and longevity

Lavender- refinement and elegance

Pansy- Free thinking and consideration

Rhododendron- Positivity and uniqueness but also caution

Valerian- strength and readiness

I did far too much research for this and now 99% of the ads I see on google are for flowers. Anyway, I hope you enjoy! Also, please note that there are multiple meanings for all of these flowers, but I picked the ones that I thought were most fitting to the type. (also I may add some runner ups that were considered for multiple types so you can check those out if you didn’t like your flower but maybe that’s too extra…. we’ll see)

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As for sources, I’d list them but there’s about 100+ so…

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SPIDER-MAN: INTO THE SPIDER-VERSE MBTI

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Famous Literature: First lines

ISTP: “It was a bright cold day in April, and the clocks were striking thirteen.” ~1984

ISTJ: “We started dying before the snow, and like the snow, we continued to fall.” ~Tracks

ISFP: “If you are a dreamer, come in, If you are a dreamer, a wisher, a liar, A hope-er, a pray-er, a magic bean buyer… If you’re a pretender, come sit by my fire.” ~Where The Sidewalk Ends

ISFJ: “A story has no beginning or end; arbitrarily one chooses that moment of experience from which to look back or from which to look ahead.” ~The End of the Affair

INTP: “Quietly, like a shadow, I watch this drama unfold scene by scene. I am the lucid one here, the dangerous one, and nobody suspects.” ~Love, Anger, Madness: A Haitian Triptych

INTJ: “It winged its way across the blackness of intergalactic space, searching.” ~World Eater

INFP: “He was born with a gift of laughter and a sense that the world was mad.” ~Scaramouche

INFJ: “The world is a clock winding down.” ~The Infinite Sea

ESTP “The past is a foreign country; they do things differently there.” ~The Go-Between

ESTJ: “It was the best of times, it was the worst of times,” ~A Tale Of Two Cities

ESFP: “First the colors, then the humans. That’s usually how I see things. Or at least, how I try.” ~The Book Thief

ESFJ: “Life changes fast. Life changes in the instant.” ~The Year Of Magical Thinking

ENTP: “It was a pleasure to burn.” ~Fahrenheit 451

ENTJ: “If music be the food of love, play on.” ~Twelfth Night

ENFP: “In case you hadn’t noticed, you have a mental dialogue going on inside your head that never stops. It just keeps going and going.” ~The Untethered Soul

ENFJ: “Ships at a distance have every man’s wish on board.” ~Their Eyes Were Watching God

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How to be an fj to fjs

AKA advice for tps on how to stop Fe draining your fj

You’ll find this a little less complicated than the *ntp here, so here we go, the

top rules:

Try. Anything goes if you’re trying

Don’t do something if they already said they don’t like it. Maybe you wanna buy then ice cream to cheer them up but they specifically said they hate it when you do that - don’t do that. *ntps might want to make a note, cos I know their memory can be NON EXISTENT 😂

Fix the problem. Fjs don’t want you to just listen, they don’t have Fi. They want you to fix the problem - go ahead, Ts!

Add emotional drama to the fj’s words - even if they’re saying it calmly, they’re very upset.

Look at the fj when they’re speaking. Your fj will take you looking around as a sign to shut up.

Don’t cut in and start telling a random story, even if you think it’s relevant. Mbs you can tell it later - but Fe generally doesn’t like hearing about how you’ve had it worse, so keep those stories to yourself.

Don’t just give up when you feel like you’re failing or can’t fix the problem. Your fj wouldn’t quit on you.

Don’t tell the fj to go start a fight with the person who upset them. If they thought it would work they would have done it, believe it or not.

Don’t start a fight on behalf of your fj. Fjs don’t need you to stick up for them, and if they do they’ll ask.

However, if you’re viewing people having a go at your fj while you’re literally RIGHT THERE you are welcome to throw shade. Just a little. Just back off if your fj looks at you pointedly.

Notes for the tps

Would not recommend buying presents to fix a problem you caused - this strikes fjs as manipulative most of the time. Fix the problem first

Learn to give an fj apology. That’s right, you can’t just go from A (I’m sorry) to B (pls forgive me?) to C (friends again!) with fjs. They’re all about INTENT. ACTUALLY, tps, just take this advice and use it with everyone. Skip to the solutions advice.

Read this whole post 😂

Remember how you feel when you’re a little down, or even just happy and/or in love. This is the fj all the time 😂 Don’t worry, they have a better handle on their Fe than you do 😋

Try to picture yourself in the same situation, with the fj playing your role. This will help you work out what to do 95% of the time.

Flipping listen.

What is my fj feeling?

Fj emotions are deep, and they usually have a pretty chill equilibrium. If you get them to either extreme, they will take about an hour at least to go back to normal. This means that if your fj is screaming at you at 9 and then you apologise and they’re all chill again at 9.30, they’re still upset. They’ve just given up on you. They haven’t properly processed their emotions, because they don’t feel like there was a proper resolution to the argument. Skip to the solutions advice.

If you apologise and then your fj still ignores you for an hour in their room, don’t go back in their and complain I JUST APOLOGISE WHY ARE YOU SO MEAN - *coughs* tps *cough*. Your fj is accepting your apology. That’s what it looks like. They just need to fj themselves and then they’ll be good and they’ll likely forget about the problem a week later.

That’s right, fjs forget problems once they’ve been dealt with. If your fj can remember a transgression, you never dealt with it properly. Fjs don’t hold grudges, but they remember who they can and can’t trust with their own feelings.

If your fj is calm looking, this means nothing. If your fj speaks calmly, this means nothing. If your fj is beginning to crack, times it by 1,000 to understand how upset they are. Back off.

If your fj is telling you there is a problem, there is a problem. Not a huge one, but listen. The fj will give you straightforward steps to follow - no worries.

If your fj is telling you there is a BIG problem, you have deeply hurt the fj and must fix it quickly. You must follow the fj’s steps or come up with your own - see the SOLUTIONS advice.

If your fj is quiet, they could legit just be happy. You can test it by telling them a dumb story. If they don’t laugh and look more annoyed, they’re upset with you. You will need to work out why. Chances are they already told you, but anyway… Skip to WHAT DID I DO advice.

Don’t accuse your fj of giving the silent treatment. They only go silent when they’re really upset or feel like you’re just arguing with them. It’s not the silent treatment because it’s not done to manipulate you.

If your fj is genuinely arguing with you (not just discussing), this is not a good place. They are really mad or upset, and you will need to read the SOLUTIONS advice.

If your fj is yelling/screaming at you, you are probably a Tp. An *ntp specifically. You should really know what’s wrong, but you don’t, so skip to TI TRIGGERED advice. You have probably broken the fj’s heart at this point 💔

If your fj is hitting/throwing things and otherwise being erratic, they have run out of ways to explain their problem and you will need to commence FJ REBOOT. Good luck.

If your fj is crying, they are extremely upset. Fjs never show you crying unless you’ve really hurt them (or someone else has). Skip to FJ REBOOT advice.

If your fj is obsessed with tidying up and getting upset by mess, the problem is actually you. Fix the mess, then skip to SOLUTIONS advice.

If your fj is withdrawing and hiding, leave them alone. They don’t know what’s going on, and are likely to start a fight with you if you push them. They don’t want that.

If your fj withdraws but occasionally comes out and snaps at you (nice to know you wanna know what’s upsetting me!), they actually want you to fix them. You may commence FJ REBOOT steps

If your fj says they hate you or something, they want to. Maybe the even do. But their Fe is strong, so don’t be scared you can never win them back. You just have to Fe nurture them for once - read the solutions advice and be kind.

Solutions

After you’ve tidied up any obvious problems (like mbs your mold sculpture in the middle of the kitchen), it’s time to fix your RELATIONSHIP with the fj.

That’s right, especially tps, you’re not fixing the problem. Otherwise composting the mold sculpture and disinfecting the kitchen would be enough - your argument is valid.

You need to fix the damage you did to the fj - and the first step is

Acknowledge its not just ONE THING. Looking at Tps again - your fj is not experiencing emotional trauma just because you built a mold sculpture. That just pushed them over the edge. You’re going to need to think through everything the fj has ever complained about and contemplate if you’re still doing those things, or if you never actually apologised for them. To the fj, your mold sculpture probably hurt them more because you completely disregarded the fact that they spent 2 hours mopping the kitchen floor, and also that they have a life long phobia of mold and sculptures. Maybe it’s more about the fact they specifically asked you to do it outside and you were like ‘yup!’ and then forgot, so they feel ignored. IT’S ALWAYS BIGGER. fjs never get upset over small things.

You must apologise. Having come up with the bigger offence in your mind, you must now apologise for it (hopefully you’re correct. If not, the fj will probably correct you. DO NOT argue about how you’ve never DONE THAT. JUST APOLOGISE). So how does an fj apology go? It’s about intent, so it goes something like: 'Hey, fj, I’m really sorry I built a mild statue in your kitchen right after you cleaned it and right before your parents came over. I cleaned up the mess, and I won’t do it again (don’t say this if you plan to). You must feel like I completely ignored you, and I’m sorry, because I kind of did. I’ll listen next time. Can I do anything to make up for it?’ Then you either do what’s recommended (unlikely to be anything interesting) or leave without begging for forgiveness or arguing about why the fj should forgive you. Ew.

If you have done something so bad that these steps don’t fix the problem (like maybe you blew up the house while building the model sculpture, idk) you need to do something to at least symbolically fix the problem - something that shows the fj you’re willing to sacrifice things for them. Like maybe you could sell your Ferrari and buy them a new house without a mold sculpture, or if you don’t have a Ferrari you could help them by sorting out the house insurance so they can buy a new one… (idk, I was coming up with these examples in the spot). Even if it’s not directly symbolic, your fj will appreciate the EFFORT. Remember, it’s not about fixing the problem, it’s about showing the fj you care for them too.

What did I do

First, I am appalled you don’t remember. The fj almost certainly told you, multiple times. So think about it - has the fj told you something recently? Maybe you thought it was a joke or just a suggestion… Review those.

After review, suggest the problem to your fj. Not like 'are you upset because I keep falling asleep when you talk to me?’ because that sounds like you’re making stuff up, more like 'it must be really upsetting when I fall asleep while you’re talking - I’m really sorry’ then follow solutions advice. The fj will either tell you you’re right or tell you what you did wrong at this point. It’s really not that complicated.

Don’t scream 'I don’t know what I did wrong, WOULD YOU TELL ME WHAT I DID ALREADY, YOU PSYCHO!?’ at your fj. This is another thing you have done wrong haha. Following these steps will always work, unless you have an fj mistype on your hands, in which case everything will be so much worse 😂

Ti triggered

When you’ve Fe drained your fj and they have nothing left to give, it’s personal. How can you tell if it’s personal? When they’re normal Fe users to everyone BUT YOU *GASP*. And they’re not talking about your problems anymore.

Give some Fe/Te love back. Play the role of fj for a while. Give them a good FJ REBOOT.

Don’t try to trigger their Fe for you. They’re done with you specifically, you need to energise them by giving your own Fe back (or Fi, whatever, just be kind basically).

Be warm. Think warm thoughts about them and they’ll feel them - high fe works like that

Be intentional about helping the fj emotionally. Tps, it’s not about fixing the PROBLEM. That attitude will significantly slow your efforts down.

Take care of stuff and take the fj out for fun stuff if you can. Otherwise do fun stuff with them at home, or watch TV or something.

Just to be clear, these steps are to repeated over a long period of time. However, it is possible to un-Ti trigger an fj quickly with the correct attitude, but you’d have to be completely focused on the fj as a person and not fixing the fj…

Fj reboot

Designed to fix stressed or a little upset fjs. A good place to start after the SOLUTIONS advice if you’ve got a really big problem on your hands 😉

Hug your fj. If they push you away hug tighter. If they verbally tell you off, back off.

Be affectionate to your fj - physcisly, verbally, the whole thing,as long as it’s genuine.

Be happy and genuine. But not inconsiderately happy (HHAHAA YOUR GRANDMA DIED HAHAHA!)

Make sure the fj has a tidy, calm environment. This is probably enough to fix a stressed fj.

Take your fj out somewhere fun - basically just anywhere if you’re happy haha. If possible, don’t include other people if you’re trying to heal your own relationship with the fj - they separate people in their mind, and while they might be happy with the others, they can still be hurt by you. So isolated times are best. Otherwise, people it up if the fj wants 😂

Buy your fj a present if it seems natural, don’t force this.

Watch TV or do something quiet with your fj.

Talk about feelings if your fj wants to. Not super likely, but very helpful if the fj decides it’s necessary. Full eye contact and actual verbal input required. Don’t talk abiut your own feelings and stuff, it’s just one day if you do this right

Your fj should be all good after this, in which case, you can sit on your new skills for about 6 months+ unless you’re a young tp still hating on your Fe, in which case 2 weeks tops till you use it again 😂 (this is a joke haha)

Specifically tps, be a tp. Not a mean, argumentative tp, the strangely affectionate tp you can be. Don’t see tired Ti in your fj and give them more ti, give them your Fe. It’s strange and warm, and the fj loves it. (Not pointing out other types like Tjs cos they probably fixed their fj in five minutes haha).

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