In 2019, we stop treating Non Binary people like Trans People Lite™
Care to elaborate on this? I’m a bit confused by this and I don’t mean any of this in a rude way. Just trying to understand more. How would someone treat someone else like they’re trans as well as how to treat someone as non binary? They’re obviously not the same in definition. I assumed treating someone like a trans individual as well as someone who is non binary would be simply treating someone as … a person? With respect? respecting their preferred pronouns, taking into account of not only race and the mass amount of struggle behind that but checking yourself for your privilege and protecting those who are a minority, asking if anything you do or other may do offends/triggers them in any way and make changes, asking if theres anything you can do for them if uncomfortable so they feel less self conscious, out of place or anything else they may feel and minding your business about obvious subjects that don’t involve nor require you.
People often don’t see how deep a Nonbinary identity can permeate. (whether the person considers themselves Trans or not)
Many see either a pastel nonbinary or completely clean skinny masc nonbinary. Nonbinary identities often get divided into masc or femme leaning.
Masc nb people are often treated (and viewed by many cis people) as a lighter version of being a Trans man rather than its own thing entirely. It’s seen as a way to be a soft rather than “real” transgender person
^^^^ This
A lot of Non Binary people do identify as Trans and when we do, we’re treated “less than” compared to Binary Trans people. It sucks. It’s patronizing. Our identities are treated like phases or like something childish that only teenagers or children identify as. There’s nothing wrong with childish stuff but it comes off as really patronizing and infantilizing.
Despite many of identifying outside the binary, we’re pressured to fit or identify either on the feminine or masculine spectrum. We’re told our experience as someone outside of those spectrum is valid but we’re not treated like it.
We’re always pressured to fit in one of the two spectrum, despite a lot of us identifying outside both or inside both and it sucks.
Also, if your “alignment” is the same as your assigned gender, you get treated like you’re either faking it for attention or you’re a confused gay person. If your “alignment” is the opposite of your assigned gender, you get treated like a binary trans person who just hasn’t figured out yet that they’re 100% aligned with the opposite gender you were assigned to or as a “lighter”, less “real” version of that.
As for the one who identify within more than one spectrum or neither, they’re told to fit in one of them if they want respect. Sometimes people don’t even want to make you choose. They just pick for you.
That’s what I mean by “Lite”.
