Talking like a Lion

Logan 24 They/Them Michigan

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New York Fashion Week, Street Style. Model Sora Choi after the Tory Burch Spring 2019 show.

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Adonis Bosso by Ugo Mozie

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Gina Rodriguez for Self Magazine

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Adonis Bosso at NYFWM S/S 2017 by Melodie Jeng

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[girlnumbersix]

ladies we need to start frantically and obsessively reading books in less than 24 hours again..remember how happy we were

[kaymami]

@indialove

[comradekatara]

“sokka’s master” is such an iconic episode the a-plot is about sokka getting a dope ass sword the b-plot is about iroh getting swole and the c-plot is about sokka’s friends just sitting there talking about how much they love sokka. a perfect episode from start to finish

[capgras-and-cotards-blog]

Valid vs. Justified

Something I struggled with a lot before DBT was differentiating (or even knowing there was a difference!) between an emotion being valid and an emotion being justified.

All emotions are valid: you are allowed to feel how you feel in response to things in your life. Nobody can tell you your feelings are incorrect.

Not all emotions are JUSTIFIED, or they're justified but their intensity is not. For example, someone forgets to acknowledge you and it hurts. You can validate yourself and also at the same time recognize that no, being at 90/100 on the rejected/hurt scale is not justified in this interaction. You can then decide on your response accordingly.

This is part of the dialectic. Two seemingly opposite facts can be true at the same time.

I think I've gotten better at checking my own emotional responses, but they still get the better of me sometimes, particularly guilt and shame.

Taking a second to run through this thought process has often made a huge difference for me, allowing me to respond rather than mindlessly react.

[capgras-and-cotards-blog]

Valid vs. Justified

Something I struggled with a lot before DBT was differentiating (or even knowing there was a difference!) between an emotion being valid and an emotion being justified.

All emotions are valid: you are allowed to feel how you feel in response to things in your life. Nobody can tell you your feelings are incorrect.

Not all emotions are JUSTIFIED, or they're justified but their intensity is not. For example, someone forgets to acknowledge you and it hurts. You can validate yourself and also at the same time recognize that no, being at 90/100 on the rejected/hurt scale is not justified in this interaction. You can then decide on your response accordingly.

This is part of the dialectic. Two seemingly opposite facts can be true at the same time.

I think I've gotten better at checking my own emotional responses, but they still get the better of me sometimes, particularly guilt and shame.

Taking a second to run through this thought process has often made a huge difference for me, allowing me to respond rather than mindlessly react.

[teesadutta]

[madamelefern-blog]

HER NAME IS MARLEY DIAS AND AT AGE 11 SHE STARTED A CAMPAIGN TO HAVE MORE RELATABLE BLACK GIRL BOOKS AT HER SCHOOL INSTEAD OF JUST STORIES OF “WHITE BOYS AND THEIR DOGS” SO SHE STARTED #1000blackgirlbooks WHICH WAS SUPER SUCCESSFUL AND ENDED UP DONATING BOOKS TO A BUNCH OF SCHOOLS AND LIBRARIES AND ALSO DID I MENTION SHE’S 11

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[so-sick-of-17]

She also worked with her friends Briana and Amina. They were BAM. They used to have a blog but I can’t find it anymore.

[13th-hokage]

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[ahs-64]

u ever get jealous over something u have no right to be jealous over so u just sit there like… ok