i feel like there is something most, if not all of you are capable of learning, and it's something that can help you understand what recovery actually is and help you get there.
the mantra "what's difference from pocd and p is that the attraction is unwanted with pocd" only gets you halfway there. you have to actually understand why you don't want the attraction.
fear of societal rejection is, in my opinion, not actually the core of this disorder. would it comfort you to know that the rich and powerful in society have been abusing children since the dawn of time and as a rule get away with it? would you want to belong in the country clubs and churches and palaces of the world if it meant you would be protected for this and not rejected? of course not. the concern is deeper. you genuinely care about the children in your life, and it is not just out of fear.
the nature of an abuser's attraction is not just an inborn phenomena, but desire mixed with contempt. in some form or another, they see children as their property, things that do not exist outside of their sexual utility, things whose wellbeing and consent are intrinsically secondary to their own. they fundamentally do not understand that children have valuable lives outside of the abuse. and i think this leads to the most important and effective way to differentiate yourself from an abuser. actively recognize that children have lives of their own, and exist beyond your fear of hurting them. abusers build their lives around their attraction. you will not.
this way, you can find the potential to break free from this disorder next to every single intrusive thought. with any pangs of supposed attraction, you can ask yourself whether or not this really matters. if you've internalized all of the above, then you'll realize that it's literally nothing, just a blip in the radio transmission. the life of a child, and your life, is so much bigger than the intrusive thought of the day.
there are no upsides to this disorder, and i can say that still after 8 years of recovery. but after recovery, you will be one of the very, very few people in the world who genuinely understand the mechanics of abuse and how to prevent it and build a world where it doesn't happen anymore. you'll be a wonderful caregiver and source of support to the children in your life.