[sonic-wildfire]

your tumblr wrapped:

you banned 173,410 trans women this year

you reinstated 98,582 nazi/white supremacist blogs this year

you accused 450,639 black people of being russian psyops this year

you led 27 large-scale harassment campaigns against minorities this year. 26 of them continued on other websites

99.5% of your userbase is white

[shortcircuit908]

beyond parody

[daughter-of-sapph0]

hey bro, cool post about the oppression that all trans people face. quick question, why is it tagged 'transandrophobia'?

[franksfishies]

Serious answer; because often people are talking about their own personal lived experiences. Why is something all trans people faced tagged "transmisogyny"? Why is something labeled as "trans resources" only talking about how to aquire E and which forms work in which ways.

Like we can have the conversation endlessly and its rarely purely malicousness on either side. People think about themselves first on website that's either fandom, art or personal journaling. And before anyone comes at me with "all transphobia is transmisogyny at its base". 1) no. It isn't. That's too broad a generalisation to ever be provable anyway. 2) trans men were encouraged to not use transmisogyny as a term at one point to the extent there are currently 3-4 main terms in circulation describing the intersection of transphobia and being a masculine person. 3) many trans masculine people do not want to use the term transmisogyny as it feels mis/degendering.

[daughter-of-sapph0]

[daughter-of-sapph0]

im gonna explain this real slow for people who dont understand

people who tag posts as "transandrophobia" are no different from the mens rights activists and antifeminists of yesteryear. they exist as a purely reactionary "what about misandry?! what about the sexism men face?!" group, who's only purpose is to make feminists shut up.

there is no lived experience that trans men face that is not faced by other trans identities. however, because of the patriarchal society we live in, trans women and transfeminine people face more discrimination and sexism and misogyny.

this intersection between misogyny and transphobia is why the tear transmisogyny exists.

there is no intersectional oppression between transphobia and [insert made up word to describe the oppression of men] because men do not exist as a marginalized class.

now, here's my disclaimer because i know so many of you are going to get mad:

this does not mean that individual men are never oppressed. i understand that anyone, including men, can face targeted oppression and discrimination. but being a man is not the reason you face that oppression. baring everything else, all other identities being equal, a white man has privilege over a white woman. a black man has privilege over a black woman. a disabled man has privilege over a disabled woman. a gay man has privilege over a lesbian woman. and yes, a trans man has privilege over a trans woman.

any oppression you do face is because you're trans, or because of any number of other identities.

you are not oppressed because your men. and there is no intersectionality between transphobia and whatever word you wanna make up to claim men are oppressed.

and before you ask. no, women not wanting to sleep with you isn't oppression. no, women not feeling safe because of the way you have been shown to behave is not oppression. 'i hate men' isn't oppression, as men are already saying 'i hate women' and perpetuating a society that actively discriminates and oppresses women.

also, you should clearly know that 'i hate men' is a hyperbole, an exaggeration said by someone clearly frustrated at a small amount of specific men. if you don't know her, or if you know you haven't done anything specific to upset her, there's no reason for you to assume she's talking about you specifically. taking offense at what is someone frustrated at the misogyny she's facing, and making it about your own feelings, is a really shitty thing to do.

[isopuppi]

silly thing

just wanted to joke abt it

[isopuppi]

Relevant once more LOL

[mealreminders]

Remember to eat so you have the energy and strength to fight the patriarchy and fascism.

[daughter-of-sapph0]

a lot of people have claimed that gamergate 2.0 is representative of ALL trans men.

i need other trans tme people to block anyone who uses transandrophobia, just as you blocked anyone who posted about "misandry" or "men being oppressed by feminism"

i love and support trans men and all trans people. but siding with misogynists isn't the path to trans liberation. there is no specific oppression for 'being a man' that overlaps with any other marginalized identity. transmisogyny exists for the same exact reason that transandrophobia doesn't exist.

please, for the love of god. just call it transphobia. and realize that your enemy is a transphobic society, not transfeminists

[esthermika]

less than 1 day (1 day!) after sucessfully getting isff banned for a thrid time, these dipshits are already lashing out against other transfem accounts. this is not about justice, it's just cruelty.

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[boygirldogdyke]

I’m so fucking mad. It’s such bullshit. Attacking literally any trans woman and calling her a transphobe and a pedophile. YOU ARE THE TRANSPHOBE. YOU ARE IDEOLOGICALLY ALIGNED WITH FASCISTS

[villainessbian]

definitely the good guy of the story: "I wish we could kill them all that easily for these crimes I just invented"

[jam-does-audio]

"If only the government would wipe them out"

Like it's really obvious how much these people love fascism when they get to kill

[june-egbert-official]

"this is only about white trans women" and the first trans woman they mention is black.

[isuggestlandback]

While I'm being mad at tumblr whites

People freezing to death in the streets is social murder. LGBTQ+ youth committing suicide due to familial abuse and oppression is social murder. First Nations being on boil water advisories for decades is social murder.

Sorry about your blog though.

[taino-ti]

Alot of these people are using tumblr as a fundraising platform in order to pay their costs of living, because they are cut off from employment opportunities and stable, safe housing due to being trans. When they are cut off from these platforms due to harassment campaigns (most of which revolve around them being transfem), this often results in these girls being subjected to many forms of material violence. Yes, this effects trans women of color at might higher rates than it does white trans women, but at the end of the day: When these girls have no money and no access to resources to get money (often because they are cut off from employment due to-- you guessed it-- being transfem), these girls are freezing to death. When these girls are cut off from money, community, and they no longer have access to any sort of resources to change their home situation, familial abuse and oppression are driving them to suicide.

That is why they are calling it social murder, because even by your own definition, it is. Whether some of these girls are white or not doesn't make that magically go away. From a fellow indigenous person: if you want people to stop thinking you're a TERF, you should stop talking like one. Sorry about your blog though.

[taino-ti]

This just in: LGBTQ+ Suicide rates don't apply to trans girls because this dumbass said so. More at 11.

[plaidos]

A collection of trans people from the notes that OP is pretending don’t exist. Be careful in the notes though — it’s fucking full of open terfs who isuggestlandback isn’t blocking for some reason

[cross-entropy-dollthing-deactiv]

A very radicalising experience for me happened as I escaped from one abusive housing situation and ended up going out of the frying pan and into the fire. I found some housing alongside with my now-wife and her ex-boyfriend roommate, who were still living together temporarily. I was confined to two rooms in the apartment: the small bedroom my partner and I shared, and the tiny kitchen. Despite working a job and attending school, I became responsible for all cooking, making sometimes multiple meals a day for people, every single day, paid for out of my own pocket using the limited money I had from my very poorly paying job. I was okay with this arrangement initially since it felt better than the situation I was coming from and I always loved cooking, but the reality of it quickly became clear as the weeks went by. The man we lived with would randomly bring friends, who I was also expected to cook for. Meals intended for 4 would be stretched for 6 or more. He would randomly go out with his boyfriend several times a week, never telling me when, yet I would still be expected to cook for everyone every single night because if I did not do so then it would mean my wife would get yelled at for my "failure" (he refused to talk to me and would always blame her for anything I did/did not do depending on his random whims). When eventually I started cooking for just the two of us after a period of several weeks where I had made unnecessarily large meals every single night, he started yelling at her about how he felt like he was left to die and wasn't being taken into consideration at all when it came to food.

There was a lot going on besides this but it's not really my story to talk about. This continued up until he eventually left, after I yelled at him back one day after putting up with this for months and months, after I got permission to fight back from my partner. None of this is really a unique experience, this particular story of abuse through domestic labour is just my particular story, but many, many women I know - cis and trans - have very similar stories. What makes my story unique is that it all happened within the context of the so-called "trans community," and that if I did not mention this fact here, virtually nothing would separate it from the thousands and thousands of nearly identical stories shared by cissexual women about cisssexual men.

[selfpoweredoxygenmachine]

why is thinking harassment campaigns are bad a radical stance

[selfpoweredoxygenmachine]

' you have to help me harass and isolate this user or you agree with everything theyve ever said ' isnt a normal opinion to hold

[depsidase]

[depsidase]

[the-quasar-hero]

Can’t go a day without seething in rage about how “Woke” was coined to discuss the pervasive nature of antiblack racism throughout all societies and got so fucking mangled by the white masses across all political spectrums that it practically doesn’t mean anything anymore. It’s almost a joke of itself.

[the-quasar-hero]

During the height of the Ferguson protests, you’d see posts about how the system is designed to oppress the Black community and being unaware of how it operates is akin to being asleep, so you must stay Woke. (Woke as a term in the Black community actually has a long standing history but we’ll focus on this period of time for now). You have to keep your eyes open to the truth, that’s what it was about.

And now it’s used to discuss whether or not it’s woke for a brunette to wear jeans, or if using your turn signal is woke. It honestly makes me want to puke

[the-quasar-hero]

Okay that’s funny

[rhynee]

this is still one of my favorite explanations for gender

[papercook1e]

Whoever wrote this, slayed so hard with all these statements, truer words have never been spoken

[pocket-deer-belly]

i think part of fat liberation politics is an understanding that "body positivity" is the neutered liberal version of fat politics. "body positivity" is the useless universalized version of "fat positivity" which is already a neutered depoliticized version of fat liberation. being niceys about people's bodies is not enough, you need to understand fat people as an oppressed and disadvantaged class of people, and you need to understand thin people as the ones who benefit from the perpetuation of fatphobia. you need to hear "thin people are an oppressor class" and understand it as a basic principle of fat liberation.

[mesoseven]

yeah I'm curious how this plays with people being able to gain or lose weight over their lives. Like I've been trying and failing to gain weight for a while, if i succeeded would i cease to be an opressor? Somehow that doesn't seem right.

[pocket-deer-belly]

first of all, yes! many fat people who successfully lose weight become fatphobes. thinness inherently privileges your position over fat people no matter what, being fat does not automatically make you *not* fatphobic in the first place. similar to how not all women are like innately born with an understanding of misogyny or whatever. second, weight is not that flexible actually. a vast majority of fat people remain fat their whole lives after weight gain.

fatphobia is a system that privileges thinness *always*. the categories of who is and isn't thin being flexible doesn't change this dynamic.

[estrogenesis-eeveeangelion]

do you think this replier who is contemplating for the first time that a person's status within an axis of oppression can change over their lifetime has never heard of disabled people or children, or merely that they've never spared them a second thought, as they clearly haven't with fat people?

[catgirl-metronome]

although i think it would be inaccurate to say that I ever benefitted from misogyny the same way say, a cis man does (since the force of transmisogyny coerced me into staying closeted with the threat of violence), my position relative to it sure as hell changed. it took mere months for my former boss to start treating me differently, valuing my opinions less, and generally not behaving as respectfully when I came out of the closet

privilege isn't something baked into the fabric of your being, a bonus tied to some immutable and innate facet of your identity, it's something that changes over time along with your relationship to various axes of oppression, something which I feel ought to be pretty obvious to anyone who's been paying attention

hell, the REASON fat people feel compelled to lose weight in many cases is because they don't want to be treated like shit anymore! all else being equal, people's material incentives to lose weight have more to do with escaping systemic medical abuse and other discrimination rather than any fraught notion of health or fitness

[babehog]

The fact that you can report sexually explicit posts or spam as easily as fast reblogging but need to submit a verbose description of hate crime occurring and argue why it breaks tumbls tos should be all you need to hear to know this website is racist dogshit

[problemnyatic]

funny how any other post complaining about tumblr's dogshit ui and features explodes easily but the one pointing to the obvious racism built into the moderation tools has basically capped out at below 10k. almost as if this website is racist dogshit and all the fragile white people on it really really hate acknowledging it

[sophie-frm-mars]

It's been 2 years since a callout post was made that completely tore my life to shreds. This is a post about community abuse. As much as I am trying to stop talking about it, it is very present for me today and there are some things I would like to make sure I have said.

What had happened was that I had been doing extreme kink with several people despite having no proper training, while in a progressively worsening state of psychosis, and the people I was doing it with didn't feel able to tell me what they did and didn't feel comfortable with. People were telling me not only that there wasn't a problem with how I was doing kink, but that they were actively happy with what we were doing, all the way until december 2023. I caused harm to some people by not communicating well enough around forms of consensual kink that leave permanent marks on people. I deeply regret it and I have worked to make sure that I will never cause harm in the ways that have been explained to me ever again.

In between people first telling me they were upset with my behavior and the post I only communicated with the people involved once. One of my exes met up with me and told me not to say anything while she read me a letter calling me dangerous and saying that because I am in her words "beautiful and charismatic" and because of "who I am and how I am" people hadn't felt comfortable to say no to me. After this, the people involved, who it is worth saying were all part of the same polycule, talked amongst themselves and decided that I had been deliberately abusing people and that I didn't care about consent at all. From there they started calling me a rapist, abuser, predator and so on. I am none of these things. This is purely transmisogyny.

I take responsibility for my part in what happened, but I have never seen the other people do anything but shift more responsibility onto me. For example one person involved was a lot more well off than me and had been giving me money in a sexual context but has publicly mocked the idea that I might have experienced this situation as informal sex work, which I did and the others involved know I did.

One person I had broken up with earlier in the year felt deeply aggrieved by me. Our relationship was not good, and I have talked here before about the time that she assaulted me and her generally coercive behaviour. During this process she started insisting that "every time we had sex was rape" while describing nothing more extreme on my part than poor communication. I believe that her involvement with people who were discussing harm I had caused led everyone to describe everything I had done in the most sinister and extreme terms possible. One person who I never even slept with smoked weed from a bong for the first time at my house and got very high, and later signed the callout against me because of this.

When the post was made, almost all of my colleagues and my friends IRL stopped speaking to me immediately. I was banned from most queer spaces on the grounds that I was a danger to others. My income collapsed and I had to do full service sex work so that I wouldn't lose my home. My long term partner broke up with me though I'm glad to say we're still best friends and talk every day. I was suicidal for months and tried to kill myself several times. I still receive harassment and have been excluded multiple times from organizing spaces, including ones I need access to such as my local renters union, on the ground that people "feel unsafe" over the last 2 years.

When I explained publicly what had happened, my former community mocked and degraded me, insisting that I couldn't have been unwell despite everyone around me at the time knowing that I was having frequent trauma flashbacks, panic attacks, derealization and other extreme symptoms that I talked with people extensively about at the time.

I would be dead if my remaining friends hadn't intervened.

For months I believed what I had been told about myself, and tried desperately to reconcile my own memories with what I had been told. For months my friends told me over and over again that the things we were talking about were not abuse. It took me most of a year to completely see how wrong it was for them to have been using those words about me, in part because I was so distressed by the harm that I did cause. When I talk about this I am categorically not saying that I "did nothing wrong".

How I have been treated and continue to be treated is wrong.

People refuse to speak to me about this situation while insisting that I am removed from spaces, from community, from organisations and from public life generally. There seems to be a persistent idea that I am some sort of dracula who will mind control people if they speak to me at all. This is a convenient way to treat me like I am not a human being and just an object to be endlessly abused and degraded.

I need people to understand that for everyone including other trans women, turning a trans woman into an imaginary monster towards whom limitless violence is acceptable is completely trivial. I caused harm, but it was harm of a nature that required difficult conversations, breakups, and perhaps even being removed from some community spaces. What was done instead has been fueled by a transmisogynistic bogeyman that harms all trans women

I can't get back the things that I have lost over the last two years. Other people can't give them back to me and I'm not asking for them. All I am asking for is that people understand that false accusations happen to trans women all the time, including when there is an original harm being overstated, that they push back when they see people saying these untrue and violent things about me, and that they treat me like a human being. This means if you're someone who has known me and doesn't speak to me but still looks at me online (I know you are there you're not that subtle) you reach out and actually talk to me, and it means more broadly to be able to see me as a person capable of mistakes and harm like everyone else. I am not a different class of person and do not deserve to be treated differently, and as much as I am the class I am in for which I have been treated differently these last 2 years is trans woman.

I remain open to talking to anyone involved, but I find it extremely unlikely that they will ever talk to me. At some point people started not just overstating harm but straightforwardly inventing shit about me to paint me as the most hideous monster possible. I don't see how we would be able to reconcile without them admitting that they have done something to me that is wrong. I don't think that the community reconciliation and accountability ideals that everyone holds up as the way out of this kind of situation are going to happen. It is easier for them to keep imagining a monstrous version of me and eternally reacting to that without ever talking to me. I need people to see that I am human nonetheless.