our demigirl experience

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[our-demigirl-experience]

Just a reminder to all the demigirls: you are valid and beautiful.

Not super feminine? Still valid.

AFAB and feel like you're "just faking it for attention"? Nope. That's bullshit. Still valid.

Only a demigirl sometimes (genderfluid, genderflux, or something similar)? Still valid.

A demigirl in addition to being something else (multigender or something similar)? Still valid.

Don't use she/her pronouns? Still valid.

You may not be 100% girl, but that's totally fine, because you're forgetting that ur part girl, part ✨GODDESS✨

Demigirls are valid and awesome, and I will throat punch anyone who says otherwise. -ur local chaotic genderflux

🩷🩶🤍🩶🩷‼️

[harryinramshackle]

Realising you're not cis has to be one of the scariest feelings dude

[our-demigirl-experience]

Honestly I feel uncomfortable with being called a girl or a woman. I also don't like referring to myself as such. I hate going through female puberty as well.

But presenting as/dressing feminine (skirts/dresses), wearing heels, and wearing makeup is okay for some reason.

I don't think there's a gender label that resonates with me more than demigirl.

Like yes, that is exactly what I am. I am disconnected from being female.

It's all complicated but I'm glad there's a space on here to talk about it :)

thank you for sharing!!

[our-demigirl-experience]

There's a reason we're called demigirls. It's cuz we're part girl, part ✨GOD✨

[our-demigirl-experience]

Submitted this to a few more blogs but I thinking im getting most accuracy here, from what i've seen around:)

Hey

Asking for advice as I'm going through another [sparkle sparkle] gender crisis [uiii ]

So I tend to present really androgynously/masc most of the days. It's comfortable, it's not tight fitting, it looks eccentric, you can't tell I'm afab so bonus points, and it feels like me.

On those days I just go by they/them. In my mind. I'm not out, mind you. My parents aren't supportive. :')

But then I have days when I'm fine with people she/her-ing me. Even tho I present the same way, because it feels good.

And then there are days when I dress like a dude and act like the most fem person ever.

Then there are days when I totally switch up my style, go from loose baggy men's jeans and overshirts to the classic flared jean and crop top and I'm definitely a girl. Except for when I decide I'm uncomfortable and just switch up, go to the bathroom, put my binder on, gel my hair and start acting like a dude dressed in girls' clothes. [A little note:I started carrying a few men's items like cologne and gel at first for fun and to spruce up my looks whenever I need some confidence, but yeah they've been life savers :] ]

Then I don't even bother with pronouns, people are just going to assume whatever ig.

And then there are days when being called a girl is just straight up offensive and I just hate all the hair on my head and need to shave it but then I don't feel he/him, because boy is also nasty those days and I'm just an angry gremlin and idk.

And then there are days when I love flowery patterns and knitwear and those hippie round hats(not beanies, idk what they're called. The ones that look like a fishmonger's staple piece and are a sort of floppy downsides) and I love menswear those days but paired with dresses and sometimes makeup and sometimes shorts and it's all weird and genderfuck and I just don't bother.

Then there are days when I just play with my appearance for fun, not because of gender but because it's also how I express myself and idk.

...Basically I just broke my gender and now it's also a style somehow but not always and it's so frigged up. And I've done my research and the top labels would be one of the demis or genderfluid but meh

And I'm mostly sure I'm not bigender/trigender/pangender etc because it doesn't resonate and also I never got this thing with half a gender or more than one, I just thought demi-s at first because it leaves room for parts and bits that don't really fit. And I also dunno if what troubles me is my gender or my style as binarised and if I'm reffering to stuff correctly because SINCE WHEN IS GENDER SO COMPLICATED MOST PEOPLE DON'T EVEN THINK ABT ITT whyyyy

And I'm usually fine with being called a girl but !not! with being feminine and I feel like ~ meh~ and I want a dude's body and stubble, yeah, stubble would be cool.

And I think that when I was a kid I never particularly cared, I mean I was tomboyish sometimes but not always and it usually depended on the environment. And yeah I hated dresses but now I don't and being called a girl never gave me pause but now it does and it is uncomfortable too.

And I'm also thinking it's just me overthinking everything because nothing EVER gave me pause until my pinterest insisted "yeah ur trans" because of my more masc style and I was like "fine let's see. I might get rid of the soft fem outfits in my feed" and it was a downwards spiral.

And I had been warned that after questioning ur sexuality comes gender identity and I said "I'm fine, I'm just nonconforming cis" and now idk nothing makes sense anymore.

I'm sorry if this is triggering at all to anyone, with my binarised thinking and stuff but thing is: IM NOT OUT YEYY(not that I'd know what to come out as and not that my family would support me :l ). That's how people perceive me. And I just want to give a picture of what caused me to be questioning.

I know it's a lot to handle, but advice? :)

And also some fashion tips. :))

Tyssm <3

I get it! Gender can be really confusing. My main advice is to test out using different labels to find out which one you like the most! And for fashion, it really depends on your style!! Pinterest can be really helpful for things like this. Good luck <3

[our-demigirl-experience]

i ordered a binder, and have wanted one for a while, but i don't exactly feel dysphoric about my chest. its like this craving to see it. but I'm getting really nervous about it. i don't consider myself trans, nd i feel like I'm taking away from trans people by wearing a binder. like I'm playing dress up or pretend.

I'm sorry you feel that way. Remember, even ciz people wear them. If it makes you comfortable, stick with it!!

[our-demigirl-experience]

I'm questioning if I'm a demi girl, but i feel like im too cis

i first realised that I'm not 100% cis when my mum got me swimmers and i hated them so much, despite wearing a modest bikini whenever I go swimming. I normally dress femme, but it felt like someone was putting me into a box of female, and just ick. Later, I was looking on the shop's website to figure out how much the swimmers were so i could resell them, and broke down crying because i didn't wanna look like the models.

another time i called myself a woman and got really uncomfortable.

they're really the only experience I've had with discomfort at my assigned gender. I thought i was agender for a while, but thinking about being masculine made me uncomfortable. i feel like i just don't think about my gender too much, and I want to acknowledge that. Is it alright to use the demigirl label to do that?

You could definitely be a demigirl!! It really just depends on how you feel about it!!

[our-demigirl-experience]

me personally, my demigirl experience is only identifying as a cotton candy demigirl (cottan canfy flagg mande hy solemone ok tumblr) annd ithink taht is the lnly way as a demigirl i identify. not as a demigirl, but a cotton canndy demigirl just suits my label more

a feww tears agio i camnd out to my mother as a demigirl and she immediately got infuriated and startedd grying and calling everyone telling me im kot a demigirl

now i secreltky identify as a cotton acandy demigirl, alongside many many labels, and ilove demigirls so so much. pleaEe keep being you demigirlss.

anywhDy, this was not a vent, just feltt klike saying it, but yea, keepikg beingg yiu and mujch klove

(this is NIT a typingg auiek, i just have shacky hands and my perosnakitty disorders makkes me think/exptess ny thoughhsts weirdly so icant really "type notmally" but fewal free to ftranslate it)

its ok!!

thanks for sharing <3!!

[our-demigirl-experience]

I'm sorry I've been inactive for a while. I'm going through a really hard time right now and need some time for myself. I'll try to get back to posting soon but I don't know when I'll be at 100% again. Thank you for your patience <3

[our-demigirl-experience]

last night I went to a broadway show and wore this super cool outfit and looked at myself in the mirror and felt so euphoric because I realized that I looked androgynous, I didn't just see a girl when I looked in the mirror, if I saw myself on the street I wouldn't have been sure what gender I was and it felt so good!

that’s awesome!! Thank you for sharing!!!!! ❤️

[our-demigirl-experience]

The first time I realised something was off was when I didn't like it when everyone was seperated into different groups depending on whether they're a boy or a girl.

I always felt weird being in the girl groups. Calling myself a girl felt weird. But I wasn't a boy either. I felt disconnected from the gender binary.

Then I found the label demigirl. It really does accurately describe me.

thanks for sharing!! ❤️

[our-demigirl-experience]

i think jessie of the channel jessiegender is a transfem demigirl? and i love their content and just wanted to recommend her on here! i think there’s a steriotype of demigirls just being “afabs” who are on a pipeline and transfem demigirls are often errassed, despite being what i perceive as pretty large portions of the demigirl community.

anyway! shoutout to transfem demigirls i love you guys <3

thank you for sharing this!! <3

[our-queer-experience]

its fine. it’s fine! we’re fine.

[our-demigirl-experience]

I’m not at all girl leaning or femme presenting but you keep up the good work here ok

THANK YOU!

[our-demigirl-experience]

I think with me, my experience is like:

- Rechecking my chest, making sure it doesn't increase in size

- Dysphoric enough for a binder, not dysphoric enough for hormones/surgery

- Wanting to look androgynous or genderless without looking masculine

- Feeling fake wearing a dress in public, but liking the sensory feeling of wearing dresses in private

- Okay with being called a woman/girl, but not lady

- Feeling part girl, part gender neutral

- Thought I was a tomboy until I found the language to describe myself

Thank you for sharing! <3

[our-demigirl-experience]

hey

So like i'm really masc but also okay with being called a girl

Idk what my point is

Anyone relate?

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[our-demigirl-experience]

Still trying to figure things out but so far:

Feminine clothing such as skirts and dresses are okay. I like them and wear them sometimes. I also like makeup. I'm ok with being feminine.

But female body functions such as periods/menstruation, pregnancy, and going through puberty disgusts me to no end. It feels wrong and I feel like it shouldn't be a part of me.

Does anyone else feel this way?

can anyone relate?