living on another offchance for a better day tmrrw

apl.alloaro. Lovelessnotlonely Paganpolytheistwitch

[matthewgrantanson]

Alligator Territory, Charleston -- December 31st, 2025

Etsy

[hiiighpriestess913]

Y’all I’m being so serious when I say this: go to the library for witchcraft reasons.

You can usually find books on witchcraft, yes, but there’s also field guides on local foraging and wildlife, cookbooks, books that teach you how to craft and DIY, books about environmental protection and stewardship, books on how to use herbs medicinally, books about other religions, cultures, and spiritual practices. My favorite local library even has a seed swapping program and fantastic resources to research your own family history!

Go to the library for witchcraft. Please. :) <3

[paganinthemetroplex]

This is hard when you live in a rural town of any kind im in a very southern area in a southern state so there’s not much to work off of in the underfunded city library but there are things if you know where to look.

Any kind of agriculture and gardening sections. I’ve also found a few crystal books in the same area of mine. A whole ton of different folklore. Never discount actual historical events and resources to put towards your spiritual practice in fact make that or first stop if you have any inkling that you’re not sure how to venerate to an ancestor or offer to a god in a way that would be respectful of the culture that honored them first

*I’m aware that there’s a shiiiit ton of discourse on that my rule of thumb is research as much as feels right to have some base line of understanding. What I’ve learned is half the time I’ll be wholly and completely interested in a god I want to learn more about and dive head first into their worship by the time I’m done doing basic googling I often find it’s not a good fit for me in that moment and that deity. I still like to try and find something to offer them I feel like when I have those times it’s like that deity saying ‘hey if you ever want to grow a connection w me I’m here here’s some motivation to look into me a bit’ *

All that to say!! Went on a tangent, it doesn’t have to have a good witchy cover page or pagan title for it to be 100% useful in your understanding of you and your spiritual practices

[sleepytrain]

Night at the Fish Bar

Toshima CIty, Japan 2026

[rosieandthemoon]

Qingshan Lake in Hangzhou, China

[aplatonicism]

As an aplatonic person, one of the most frustrating aspects of amatonormativity for me is that there is a normalized, consent-based social script for navigating the commitment and intensity of a romantic relationship, and there is no equivalent for platonic relationships.

For romantic relationships we have:

Casual dating, where you're expected to be getting to know one another and it's understood that the relationship could end at any time.

Formal dating/"Going steady", where you've acknowledge that you have a bond that you are interested in pursuing and you want to spend significant time with one another.

Engagement, where you're actively working to enmesh your lives completely, and are expected to be interested in one another as people and supportive to one another through serious difficulties.

Marriage/partnering, where you have formally intertwined your lives and have an expectation that this will be a permanent, continuous relationship based on mutual interest and mutual caretaking.

And every time you want to "go up a level" in a romantic relationship, the expectation is that you actively ask the other person, and get their consent. There is (ideally) no confusion about what the other person expects from you in terms of commitment and intensity of your relationship.

Friendships don't have that.

Which means that instead of a consent-based checkpoint for going up "levels" of friendship, you just have to try to figure out where you stand based on vibes. And there's no way to tell if there's a mismatch of expectation until someone makes a mis-step.

And there's no socially appropriate/expected way to navigate friendship rejection either.

It's totally normal in a romantic relationship to say "I'm not interested in/ready for that kind of commitment" but when you have to handle a friendship the same way, the person being rejected is often scandalized because they had no clue you had a mismatch, and they have no socially appropriate way of expressing the grief of a friendship rejection.

I hate that romantic relationships are put on this pedastal and socially regarded as worth formalizing with consent, whereas everything about friendship has to be based on vibes and intuition.

[paganinthemetroplex]

Man I feel this. One of the things about being aplatonic for me is that platonic relationships are just as exhausting as any romantic relationship I’ve been in as an aromantic, it’s not just a social battery like being drained from being introverted I’m an extrovert, I recharge around people but having a friend/s who constantly wants to hang out and be my best friend and wants to text more often than not it gets to the point that even when they’re like checking in on how I’m doing for any reason even reasonable if I was having a hard day I get really close to losing my cool. But also to lesser degrees too I’m tired

Like op says “theres no socially appropriate/expected way to navigate friendship rejection either”

If I want to tell a friend, literally the above situation is what I’m dealing w rn as an example, that I need space or put distance between us or even literally break it to this person that I don’t want to hang out everyday or get together once a week(which this person has expressed)(also gas is fucking expensive rn and they don’t drive so that’s a whole nother commitment) I have to be ready that they’re going to be hurt and be upset.

On another note as a loveless person it drives me nuts that ‘I love you’s are even a part of platonic relationships. That’s so serious to me. And I have a few platonic people in my life rn that use that regularly. When I have to use the word love or that phrase it’s for a very few select people like a family member or two cause that’s the only word they understand. like there’s exactly one person I use that phrase w who’s a long term platonic person for me and I don’t use it often and only because it functions as an umbrella term in this case for other appreciation and care I have for them it’s usually when going thru some type of serious medical or mental health or other kinds of crisis when expressing support. I mentioned it in a post I made that that phrase has become somewhat automatic for me in response to other people when they say it to me. It makes me so uncomfortable.

It also sucks cause expressing being loveless or aplatonic to platonic relationships is a nightmare and I’ve long since stopped attempting to. Like saying you’re loveless to anybody makes people upset. I think one thing that makes expressing these two concepts to people difficult for platonic relationships is the constant hammering on ‘platonic love/relationships is/are just as important and powerful as romantic ones’

When I tell a platonic person in my life, which I’ve stopped calling people friends by default bring back the word acquaintance, that I’m aromantic their immediate assumption is that their friendship to me is going to be just as important as their concept of a romantic relationship which is maddening as well cause they will inevitably back off once in a romantic relationship even when maintaining contact

I’m tired and need ppl to stop texting me I’ve been in non stop contact w too many ppl for too long I need a week

[hiiighpriestess913]

Y’all I’m being so serious when I say this: go to the library for witchcraft reasons.

You can usually find books on witchcraft, yes, but there’s also field guides on local foraging and wildlife, cookbooks, books that teach you how to craft and DIY, books about environmental protection and stewardship, books on how to use herbs medicinally, books about other religions, cultures, and spiritual practices. My favorite local library even has a seed swapping program and fantastic resources to research your own family history!

Go to the library for witchcraft. Please. :) <3

[sleepytrain]

Walking in Yellow

Karuizawa, Japan 2025

[stagkingswife]

A rare hot take from me - If you have to algospeak about a topic like death or sex, or around words like blood or menstruation, you have no business making those topics a focal point of your practice. I don't really interact with occult or spiritual communities outside of Tumblr, but I've seen folks here and on other platforms say things like "s*x magic is the most powerful magic I've ever done" or "I've started doing bl00d magic."

So much of my practice centers around death, dying, and caring for the spirits of the dead. I can't imagine not using the actual words and instead using "d3ad" or "🎲-ing". If a topic is important, powerful, vast, etc. enough to be a central tenant of your spiritual or magical practice then it deserves to be spoken with the real words.

I don't care what platform you're on. Do not comply in advance.

[paganinthemetroplex]

Hate how being loveless w friends who say I love you all the time means I’ve perfected the automatic response back. I feel like the concept of saying you love literally anything is so fucking vague regardless of context. Why would you say that to me when you could express that you idk enjoy my company or smth or whatever lmao. I have things I appreciate about people and people and things I consider myself to care about and hobbies and relationships I put effort into but like love is so vague in the first place and I don’t experience that however everyone else is using that word to express some feeling and I wish it some world I could explain that to the ppl around me. It’s like the one part of my identity and orientation that I can’t talk about to anyone

[silliestcolressfan]

non loveless person, there is a post in front of you that talks about how love isnt the best thing ever and its not what makes us human. all you have to do is Not comment how you agree "but platonic love IS the best thing ever and IS what makes us human". if you fail and comment that, the hill will be silent. you have 60 seconds

[moonprismpower456]

“Reminder that aspecs can still date and love their friends and family” and themselves. And their hobbies, and their passion in life, and the media they consume and their pets and places they like to go and food and drinks they like and in fact they don’t have to subscribe to the idea of “love” at all. You don’t have to date or have friends or family to be a person. You don’t have to fit into what society wants your life to be like to not be a robot. When I complain about aphobes implying that people who don’t date are machines, I’m not just complaining that they devalue platonic or familial love. They’re devaluing the idea of being your own person and thats a type of aphobia people don’t talk about enough. Aspecs can do whatever they want forever and that includes everything.

[completely-sane-scientist]

shoutout to loveless aromantics, aplatonics, and afamilials this pride month <3 you don't need to be "fixed", and you do not have to experience any type of attraction or love in order to be real and human.