Paris 🦄

Sugar Baby | 22 | London U.K.

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Go silent and focus on your priorities. The right people will come along, do not live in fear or scarcity.

Live in abundance and knowing that opportunities, the right men, the perfect life is coming along because of your efforts and mindset.

[paris-xo]

Amen to that 🙏🏽✨

[aidashakur]

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Hi! Fellow london sugar baby here (for for my url, i don´t have a tumblr for that reason). Do you have any experience with free styling in london? I find SA really hard lately, so I´ve been thinking about trying it. Hope you're having a good day xx

Hi :) so if you’re looking for late night freestyling - Novikov has been recommended to me in the past (I went there on a date and it was LOUD so not for the faint of heart!!)

Daytime freestyling I’d recommend the Royal Academy of Arts (if you get a membership you have access to the restaurant and bar which of the times I’ve been in has had a lot of potential!) saatchi gallery is good too, also I’d recommend the Wallace Collection - amazing collection and beautiful cafe (they converted the courtyards into an indoor space) last time I was there they were preparing for a party and there were a lot of rich ~looking~ old men there.

However disclaimer is most of my freestyling has been accidental, I’m usually approached when I’m just out and about doing my own thing! So my main tip would be to be freestyle ready whenever you’re out and feeling up to it, present yourself well, practice smiling at random old men (took me a while to master lol) and remember if you’re freestyling you are NOT looking for a sugar daddy - you like being “taken care of”- you think it’s masculine and sexy or however you want to spin it! Good luck 💖 xx

[paris-xo]

I Need to freestyle at some of these places 👀

[man-whisperer]

Sugar baby tips: Freestyling - how to trigger a man's generosity right from the start

If you already tried to turn men from real life into SD’s without success you need a plan and a strategy and the willingness to let a guy go if he is not generous. And most important you need the right mindset!!! 

Let’s pretend you met a guy on tinder who could be SD material and happens to be in your city on his next business trip

1.First of all: No spoiling=no date!

Start with a text: “Looking so much forward to see you….Since I am the best tour guide out there I thought about what we could do when you are here and “xy-restaurant” sounds amazing! I always wanted to go there, we could try that. Would you like that? And if yes, can you make a reservation?”

If he refuses tell him you feel most comfortable to meet the first time over a nice dinner and you are not used to anything different.

Yes he could be “too busy”to meet for a whole dinner. But you know what? No gentleman is too busy to meet a girl for dinner who he is really interested in and in case he says that THEN YOU are too busy and your time too precious to spend 2 hours in the bathroom for a simple drink!

If you don’t want to meet for dinner because you want to keep your diet or you simply don’t want to face the risk of getting bored during dinner with a stranger I do understand if you prefer to meet for a drink- however I personally think that the best way to get to know a guy is in fact to invest more time and meet for dinner or a meal AT AN EXPENSIVE RESTAURANT. Furthermore by doing that you automatically send a signal: you present yourself as high maintenance and a man sees that he needs to invest money if he wants to spend time with you.

If he agrees to have dinner, text him “I really want to look cute for you especially since this is our first date but i dont have anything nice to wear in my closet… i saw this amazing dress of “xy” though and it would look so good on me….” If he doesnt get the hint you can add “can you maybe help me get it? I know you wont regret it :) I guarantee I will look smoking hot in it”.

Option B: If he still insists on meeting for a drink you can text him, “well I need a new outfit for “xy-occasion” maybe we can combine a drink with a little shopping?.”

In case he also refuses a drink&shopping - he is cheap, so move on.

2. Of course you don’t do ANYTHING sexual on the first two/three dates even if he is generous! Always keep in mind-the sooner you have sex the sooner he will vanish and move on to the next girl!

Also, no holding hands and no good bye kiss on a first date if he is not generous. In case he is a generous guy but pressuring you with sex, tell him: “i am not used to rushing into things, i need more time please be patient.”

3.  He has proven to be generous with gifts? Slowly mention bills and start to discuss an allowance.

Always keep in mind- unless a man has proven different - you need to treat him as someone who has only short term sexual interest in you no matter how much he sweet talks you and that means for you that it will be impossible to get more spoiled by him after you had sex than before!

4. Even if you did not in the past …. - you have to make absolutely clear that you are used to getting spoiled and that you already have standards. But never do that in an arrogant or greedy way. Act like you don’t know any different. Now write on a paper exactly what you want and what your wishes are. You need to learn to verbalize them and feel comfortable doing so. Do it in front of a mirror and again be willing to let a man go if he is not generous!

Last but not least: part of this game is always being a step ahead and focussing on your wishes! Don’t wait for a guy to act generous-demand it or it won’t happen!

It is work though and you have to change your mindset! You have to believe that you deserve getting treated like a princess and hopefully like a queen one day. 

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Reblogging again <3

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Last night was amazing !!!!!!! I meet a ceo of a huge construction company here in Houston !!! He was so funny & extroverted only draw back was his son & other colleagues was COCK blocking so hard to where I thought I would miss out on it . But he kept reassuring me that once he was done conducting business we have fun and that we did. His cock was so good and he for sure knew how to use it I got his contact information & made sure to keep in contact with him 1,500 is what I made …

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The SD Wealth Scale Example: Investment Banking

So I had a good ask about what I mean when I said the wealth scale. The wealth scale is how you can determine how much someone SHOULD be able to AFFORD and where they fit in your hustle.

As you know we have two hustles:

a) Sugar Dating

b) Spoiled Girlfriend Dating

Now you meet a sugar daddy who claims he can’t do allowances; and can only take you to nice hotels and dinners and buy you gifts . hmmmmm.

My key focus has always been bankers, traders, venture capitalists, hedge fund managers and all things finance so let review the payscale that someone successful in a front office revenue generating division at an investment bank or hedge fund SHOULD earn. I’m more shit with medical but finance is me. Fucking bankers is my ‘thing’, you know. 

Level 1 - Analyst :  When a person first graduates from their Ivy league and walks into Goldman Sachs they are called analysts;. Whether they are mergers and acquisitions analysts, equity capital market analysts, sales and trading anaysts they are analysts.

Salary: At firms such as Goldman sachs Analysts at age 22 fresh out of college earn about $60,000/£40,000 BASE. Bonuses vary but usually $40,000ish (my friends got that). Let that sink in.. There are 22-26 year olds on Wall Street making $60,000-$100,000 a year. Let that sink in because it will let you realise that requiring a lot from a man in his 40′s is nothing. There are 24 year olds on Wall Street earning 6 figures okay ?!

SOURCE http://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2014-08-20/goldman-sachs-said-to-raise-junior-staff-salaries-20-

These men will eventually become V.P&’s and M.D's if your goal is to live in Chappaqua and have a Hampton home and be a house wife TARGET THESE MEN. DATE THEM SERIOUSLY AND AIM TO BECOME A WIFE. You have no reason to even sugar if this is your goal. FOCUS ON MEETING THESE MEN YOUNG. These men will get you nice presents and gifts, dinners etc but no cash.

Level 2: Associates & V.Ps: This is the stage after business school. Most men in IB will work for a few years, go to business school them come back and work as associates and eventually V.P’s. Most of these men are between 27-37.

These men earn a good 6 figure income, the best of them are usually married at this point to their hunnie they met at business school or whatever. But many are still single.

These men are only 27-37 which means you can find a 32 year old to give you a pampered girlfriend lifestyle. I always say if my goal was hotels and dinner I could find a banker in his 30′s; and THESE are the men I am talking about. I meet so many.

If you aren’t focused on the cash side of things but more want to be SPOILED. THESE. ARE. YOUR. MEN. They are young, hot and RICH. They’ll show you the luxury life, treat you well but they are usually at the stage where they don’t give big allowances. If you are single you also have the chance of MARRYING one. These men are the GOAT. THE top. The best. Because unlike daddies the chances of it leading to marriage (i.e more $$$$ is far higher). They are more attractive also…

The downside is these men are usually not online so you will meet them via freestyling or via a matchmaker. Many men at this stage want to settle down so often seek help of high end matchmakers….

If you want more info on matchmakers…tell Me. I could write a post…

Level 3: MD.s & Partners: If you meet a man who claims to or as an investment banker , is in his 40’s and says he earns $150,000 RUN. RUN. RUN.

Any investment banker worth his weight earns between $3000,000-$500.000 atleast a year by his 40’s! This is where you can catch out A LOT of these frauds.

Being named partner at a top firm means a $900000 salary, before bonuses. LET THAT SINK IN.

I am a lot more strict with men in their 40’s and 50’s because I KNOW that by 40 a man who claims to be a sugar daddy/successful SHOULD be earning a certain amount. NO if’s not buts. If they are not successful then they have no place trying to be sugar daddies.

These men have the most disposable income so aim for as much as you can get but just always remind yourself that you could date a 30 year old for treats and & nice hotels. These men if they can be bothered CAN afford to fund your tuition (the whole reason SA was created!), your plastic surgery and rent. Be TOUGH on these men.

While you can be soft with the younger ones BE TOUGHER with these men because unless they are FRAUDS. THEY. HAVE. MONEY. And unless you have a genuine silver fox fetish and really just like the guy try and get as much you can from these older men.

If you meet a man who earns $500,000 a year expects you as a 22 year old college student to fuck him for free and prove yourself to him all for dinner and a few hotels trips and drops the ‘not an ATM’ line remind yourself that you can date someone YOUNGER IN HIS TEAM if all you want is some shoes, mmkay ?!

They are grown enough to act accordingly.

I personally do not have a silver fox fetish, my favorite men are men in their 20′s and 30′s. So if I am having sex with a 50 year old banker he MUST give me something a 30 year old banker can’t give me.

This should be a legit hustle.

If your goal is never to work a day in your life, get married and pampered but not get cash aim for analysts and associates. If your aim to to save for that business, school, get ya rent pain blah blah partners and M’Ds and don’t let them even try and play the analyst role. They can afford otherwise.

Warmest,

Thotianna

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My fav post!

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Always the smartest gal of the bunch 💕💖

Thank you for everything!

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[paris-xo]

I need to pin this somewhere !!

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Dream girl living in a dream world 🤍🌸

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Hi girl! I loved seeing your pictures from your NYC trip! May I ask, where you found your provider? xxxx

Hi beautiful, thank you so much! I actually met him at a restaurant. It’s one of my favorite places and I went for lunch, he was in town on business and we were both sitting at the bar. He looked at me and I smiled back at him, he came over to ask me if my seat was taken and the rest is history.

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Winter Moodboard ❄️🎀☃️

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Start where you are

Avoid wasting time, energy and money like I did. I heard someone say once that most of leveling up is just having the money to do so. Since not everyone has 10,000$ to drop on an overnight physical glow up, it has to be done in phases. 

When I started leveling up I was so overwhelmed with all this information I didn’t what to do with. I spent the first year wasting resources on steps I wasn’t ready for. Only to have to step back and start over at the beginning of 2021. I didn’t even have an idea of what I really wanted at the end of my journey. Physically, romantically or career wise. I just knew I wanted to be rich and different than I started. 

The glow up is a journey so it may take over a year or so to complete fully but it’s so worth it. 

This is in order of what should be done and cost. 

General level up

Workout routines 3-4x a week at home that you are excited to do!

Get in the habit of drinking 2 liters of water a day

Fix your sleep schedule! 8hrs a night.  

Nails grown and done yourself

Pick 5 hairstyles to rotate

Eyebrows waxed, tweezed, or threaded. 

Have makeup and makeup remover. 

For now just use drug store makeup. As long as it looks good and doesn’t break out the skin no one can tell where you got it from. Besides drug store makeup has gotten much better over the years. 

Makeup needed: Foundation, primer, mascara, eye liner, lip liner, blush, contour, lashes, concealer, eyeshadow, setting spray/powder + Brush set.

Daily makeup style picked out

Learn to sew and fix your own clothes to fit properly

Get a notebook to track every single expense for the glow up journey 

Take online free courses/lessons. Pick up like 4 or 5 new skills to beef up your resume or your social intrigue.

Sit down with a snack, a pen, a notebook and read the blogs you look up to.

What’s the point of having access to all these tips, tricks and life hacks if its just a reblog to be tagged and forgotten or worse lost in the shuffle of your blog?

Read. 

Just in general. Read for fun. Whether its good, bad, trashy, or so bad it’s good. All reading is time well spent. 

Also read self improvement novels.There are so many of them. Pick a category (ex personal finance, emotional growth, eating well, beauty, nutrition, time management, persuasion, procrastination, seduction, romance, friend making, mental wellness, strategy, investing) and go wild. Finish at least 2 a month. 1 a month if taking notes.  

Cost: 87$ max

Nest egg

Make an emergency fund of 1,500$. 3,500$ would be ideal.

1,500$ for real emergencies only! 1,500$ saved in 1 year is 30$ a week. 60$ a week for 6 months. 107$ a week for 14 weeks. 

2,000$ for later upgrades. It’s a slush fund so you don’t have to worry about finding money for whatever you need later. 

To save 3,500$ in 1 year 67$ a week or 135$ biweekly or 291$ a month. In 6 months 582$ a month, 270$ biweekly, 134$ a week. 

There’s no reason to look like a million dollars and have 5$ in my bank account. Priorities. 

This can be done while in the General level up and Polish phase. 

Cost: Time. Discipline needed. 

Polish

New outfits that compliment your body shape. 

I will continue to sing the praises of capsule closets. Its the easiest way to go shopping and have a bunch of outfits for next to nothing. I recommend 23 pieces: 3 pants, 4 dresses, 3 skirts, 7 shirts and 2 jackets/coats and 2 pairs of shoes.

2 quality purses (1 large/1 small) 

Consignment stores have luxury bags at 50-75% off.

Gym membership (paid off for a full year) 

Take some pressure off your own shoulders by paying for it in full. Planet fitness 10$ a month, 10$ down + fees comes out to 180$ a year. 

Go 3-4x a week. For at least 30 mins of sweating. 

2 perfumes for your signature scents.

One for casual day to day wear to work, to the store, to school, to hobby classes. One for special occasions like dates, events, company parties. 

Quality Makeup that works with your skin type.

Oily, dry, or combination. Your face is your baby. Treat her well. 

New glasses that fit your face shape or contact lenses. 

Keep up with your nails, hair, eyebrows and healthy habits.

Cost: $$$

Lifestyle changes. Experiment!

Lifestyle (diet) change. 

Research and experiment until you find one that keeps you full, satisfies you and allows you to eat your favorite snacks/meals in moderation. 

Skincare routine

Makeup remover, cleanser for morning and night, toner, serum, essence, anti-aging creams, moisturizer, sleep mask, exfoliator, sunscreen. 

I started with the Korean 10 step skincare routine to find what worked for me and got rid of the steps I didn’t like or didn’t need. Like sheet masks, and essences. 

Full Body Beauty Routine put together: 

Skincare, shower routine, haircare, nail care, below the neck skincare.

Upgrade your room, sleepwear and loungewear!

Invest in a room you actually want to work and relax in.   

Map out that business you wanna start.

Business plan, website content, business cards, goals, products, licenses needed, social media presence. Look into grants to get your funding.

Write down short term and long term savings goals

Saving mindlessly makes people more likely to spend it because its money in a jar, coming out of their check for no defined reason. Give yourself a reason and you’ll be less likely to mess up your own progress. Examples of goals:

3-6 months of emergency savings- long term

Retirement- long term

Business start up- short term

Last round of upgrades- short term

A house- long term

Investing money- short term

Vacation money- short term

Make a budget and start saving in earnest!

Set aside time for studying, reading, relaxing and recharging daily.

Make a vision book/board

Make a lookbook of outfits, makeup styles and aesthetics you love

5-10 year goals written down

Pick out any further degrees, certifications, licenses you want for your career. 

Pick up new hobbies.

Keep reading, learning and gaining skills from free courses.

Research different personas and brands to find which you want to represent.   

Clean up your social media presence.

Cost: Time, patience and $$$

Full reinvention

Get a lock box for your birth certificate, SSN, check book, warranties, and receipts. 

Get your teeth straightened and whitened.

Braces, wisdom teeth pulled, veneers, filled in crowns ect. The smile is the most inviting thing about the face. Make it pop. 

If you wear glasses or contacts: laser eye surgery.

Body hair removal. Laser or Electrolysis.

Both work. Electrolysis destroys the hair follicle but the sessions take longer and may cost more because it may take 6 or visits to do the full area. Laser is cheaper but most women have to continue to go back for maintenance and its easy to burn black women, even in an office. Home laser devices usually don’t service brown to dark skinned women. 

Start seeing a dermatologist, nutritionist, and personal trainer monthly

Get a passport booklet

If you want plastic surgery, start saving/get it done. 

Start that business! Order the business cards, design the website, create the products. 

Get a closet full of clothes that matches your persona or personas. 

Sets of outfits for Work, Casual, & Formal settings. You can pick different styles for each type- Cottage core casual, business barbie for work, and 1950′s pinup for formal events.

This is where you go all out. Nothing but quality fabrics, statement pieces, and jewelry that will last at least 2 years or more. 

I’d go with a 40 piece capsule closet: 10 tops, 10 skirts, 10 Dresses, 5 Jeans/pants, 3 shoes, 2 Jackets.

Don’t forget stockings, panty hose, breast pasties, and bra strap holders.

Examples of styles: Cottage core, classic feminine, sexy, cute, alternative, sporty, business, y2k, 70s, 80s, 50′s, soft glam, barbie/bratz doll. Ectera.  

Take those hobby classes

Get your scholarships, degrees and certifications

Pick a persona and create the social media, and irl community presence.

Keep track of your costs! 

Treat it like a business and you’ll see where you’re wasting money, how you can improve and create a budget for future use. 

Keep notes too- what brand was the lipstick you bought, what color, how did it feel on you, did it look good, how long did it last, did it come off easily when eating, would you buy it again? 

Sections: One time static costs. Recurring costs, Product page with notes. 

Cut out toxic people. 

Anyone that makes you feel less than or perpetually uncomfortable should have their access to you provoked. 

“I did XYZ to better myself, and this is how they treat me?”

It’d be like paying 2,500$ for a seat at the La Scala, Milan for the best classical music concert in the world only to be behind a pillar in the corner with someone next to you on their phone all night. 

Or applying for a job after you got the highest degrees available in your field, were valedictorian, and only applied for established multimillion dollar companies. Only for them to offer you 10$ an hour on a position worth 50$ an hour. 

This one is last for three reasons. One it’s not always as simple or easy as blocking them and never speaking again, an exit strategy may be necessary. Two sometimes it pays, literally, to have these people around. If they have contacts I want I’ll get them before I go. If being around them cuts down the costs of something significant in my life I save the extra money while I plan my exit strategy. By the time I’ve left I’ve gotten my payment for any sabotage they’ve thrown my way. Three it’s an ongoing process. New friends can turn to new enemies in the right conditions. You may never be 100% free of having any snakes in your garden so it’s good to stay vigilant.

Cost: Time, Patience, Empathy for yourself, $$$$$

Slow down. Take it easy. Work smart. 

[paris-xo]

WizKid concert in a week and I still have NO OUTFIT, HAIR HASN’T been done 😭😭😭 WTAF is wrong with me ?!?