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it's good that we're saying "i don't feel guilty about pleasure im not Catholic" but we also need to start saying "i don't feel self-righteous about being overworked I'm not Puritan"

peppermintquartz

chronicintrovert

hey what if I started posting art on tumblr again

#heartstopper #so cute

faithschaffer

#art

eunnieboo

pink in the night

sourcherrymagiks

If there is a time I don’t reblog this it will be because the apocalypse got me

kingjinxii

also the creator confirmed the brunette girl is trans!!

#happy pride #lgbtq+

cleverwordsandotherstuffilike

marlynnofmany

I love this for the creativity and the joy in the post. How perfectly these bits of rocks and shells show us two ladies frolicking in delight! At the beach, one might assume. They're having a great time. Good for them.

#art

fuckyeahchinesefashion

What you will see if you go to Chongqing in Southwestern China

#chonging #china

hairtusk

btw one of the key components of actually being in a healthy relationship is just asking for things that you want. i keep seeing posts on this website saying 'i really want to do/receive [X] but my partner has never done it'. just ask. 'nobody exchanges love letters anymore' ask. 'i want to have my partner's hair in a locket like the victorians' just ask. 'i want to be bought flowers regularly :((' literally just ask. your partner doesn't know they're being held to these expectations and that you're unhappy unless you tell them. it's so unfair to expect your partner to read your mind. 'it's less special if you have to ask :((' grow up and stop pretending you're the lead in a romcom. when people say communication is crucial they mean it !! just ask !!

giraffeter

Flowers is a great example here IMO, because you can ask one/a few times and then get flowers without asking, indefinitely! My Spouse is not an instinctive flower buyer but I only had to have a couple conversations with him about WHY I wish he would give me flowers spontaneously for him to get it. And that conversation was 12 years ago! And I’ve gotten 12 years of the spontaneous, didn’t-have-to-ask flowers I wanted from that instance of asking.

If somebody loves you and there’s a simple thing they could do to make you happy, to make you feel loved and cherished, they want to know about it! They WANT to do it, they just need to KNOW what it is!

#life advice

selenesedits

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH

#sense8 #happy pride #to my favourite tv show of all time #tv shows #lgbtq+

rocktheholygrail

Hannibal (2013-2015)

happy pride! 🌈

#hannibal

saym0-0

another teacher grace moment i love is when rocky gives him the oxygen model he goes 'i dont have one of these thank you!' like that is THE most teacher response ever when a child gives them something utterly incomprehensible but made with love

#project hail mary

knightwayne

Stay with me. Always.

for @hijacked-victor - remake of (x.)

#movies #books #the hunger games

notbecauseofvictories

SUPER TOP SECRET WORK HACK!!! If you explicitly tell people, "You are an adult and a professional, I trust you to do your job; just keep me in the loop and let me know if there are questions," then thank and/or praise them when they accomplish your mutual goals? they will keep doing things for and with you. Sometimes they will even side with you over other people in the organization, because you've taken the time to establish that baseline respect and trust! hashtag winning or whatever

sonneillonv

I just want to say this can work with kids too, mostly because of the 'respect' thing.

This past month, Parks & Rec has been doing a lot of work on the field adjacent to my school. They have trucks with flatbeds, mowing/tree-cutting/postholing machinery, etc. And when they arrived, I (campus monitor) was told I would need to herd the kids away from the trucks/machinery and basically prevent them from creating a dangerous situation.

So when recess came around and the kids stampeded out the door I held them up and I said (being funny but at the same time serious, you know how it is, kids listen better if you're funny)

"Okay, I know that you're all smart AND mature, right? And talented and good looking? Definitely the smartest and most talented class in this school? (I say this to every class, they're all 'my favorites'.) And because you're SO intelligent and mature, I don't need to actually TELL you that these guys have vehicles and machinery that you need to stay clear of, right? Because I know you figured that out already, and I also know that YOU know how sad I would be if any of you were run over, or squashed, or had a pole fall on you. I would be SO SAD, like, I would probably have to lie down on the floor and cry. So you're not going to make me cry, right? I can trust you to stay away from the trucks and machines no matter where they are on the field? Because you're wonderful and amazing? My favorites? My inspiration?"

And they're laughing at me of course, because I'm being so dramatic. Some of them are "Yes, and-"ing my dramatics and inventing more involved mourning processes I should undertake if any of them get run over. Some of them are yelling at me that they are NOT mature yet and they are VERY STUPID and I should know this.

It's been three weeks. We had one conversation about it. None of them have gone anywhere near the trucks. This is actually in excess of the typical elementary-schooler's working memory and I'm very proud of them. I haven't had to blow the whistle at ONE person for getting too close even when the trucks were literally 40 feet from the actual playground.

"I know I can trust you to do this", even when phrased with humor, is like a magic key that unlocks teamwork+cooperation.

onbearfeet

I usually phrased it to middle-schoolers as, "I was a weird artist before I was a teacher, so I don't understand how children work, really. So I am going to treat you guys like adults unless and until you give me a reason not to." It's amazing how far they'll go to keep that adult status.

#life hack #life advice #work life