I wanted to reblog my post with something else.
The ex is, after repeated observation and conversation with others, exhibiting the same behavior we’ve seen from prior hate accounts and from lotusarchon’s former abuser, known online as Mariin. One of her reblogs explicitly claims she wants to “show everyone what they are like behind closed doors.” That statement in itself mirrors previous tactics used to incite public condemnation and humiliation. I am not a close associate of lotusarchon. I know of her by reputation, not by personal loyalty. I am aware she never denied the claims made by @h0ngta0 during the June timeline, where she was described as toxic and abusive. That is not the issue here. The issue is the excessive escalation that followed.
It has come to light that the creator behind @h0ngta0 also previously ran an account named @zombiecor3, which featured posts that romanticized obsessive and stalking behaviors. While that activity is in the past and people can grow from it, it is also important to note that the behavior continued on her later account, @rottinglotusstuff. Unless deleted, those posts are public record.
This entire situation spiraled because of a vague post made by lotusarchon’s friend, Jiro. The post said, essentially, “do not date a mentally ill person, especially when they don’t fit the glamorized version in your head.” It was not addressed to anyone. It did not name the ex. The ex chose to identify herself in response. By her own actions, she placed herself at the center of a vague post that most people would have ignored. From there, things escalated. Both lotusarchon and Jiro have since admitted their roles. Jiro apologized for cursing the ex’s friend and admitted that she should not have intervened. However, the behavior of the ex and her friend throughout this has been described by third parties as uncomfortably odd.
The ex did not communicate directly with her partner. She went to a third party, a person who did not have the full context and did not ask for it. It has been confirmed that lotusarchon developed an unhealthy emotional attachment to this person, which caused damage in the relationship. Sources confirm that this person does not view lotusarchon in a positive light. That is his right. But it does not excuse the ex’s behavior. No one has accused this friend of grooming. Any suggestion that those accusations exist is a misrepresentation of the facts.
To be clear. I am an outsider. I have no stake in this beyond witnessing injustice. I’ve seen people get attacked for their coping mechanisms. I’ve seen people get accused of horrible things simply for trying to recover. I don’t enjoy being part of drama. But I will not sit back and watch targeted harassment continue under the label of “accountability.”
Evidence suggests the ex may not be stalking lotusarchon’s account directly. However, her friends clearly are. That is the only explanation for how fast the ex responds to private posts, password-protected material, and tagged writing that never mentions her.
This is not accountability. This is manufactured drama.
In the past, Mariin acted the same way. She made an account celebrating lotusarchon’s supposed death. She showed no concern for the consequences of her actions or the emotional damage she caused. The pattern is clear. It is repeating.
The ex knows how this looks. She was part of this relationship. She knew how it functioned. She could have handled this privately. She chose not to.
What we know is this. The ex consistently avoided direct communication. Instead, she went to mutuals, friends, and third parties. She has claimed that she was unable to communicate due to trauma or that lotusarchon was too abusive. However, there are statements showing that lotusarchon was prepared to end the relationship multiple times before the breakup. She even acknowledged her toxic behavior and offered to separate. When the ex disclosed her PTSD, lotusarchon delayed the breakup out of concern for being seen as someone who abandons people in need.
These are relationship issues. They are private. They do not belong in public forums. The fact that lotusarchon never posted about it first, while the ex repeatedly chose to air it out online and involve others, speaks volumes.
If the ex was too scared to speak up, why didn’t she leave when the opportunity was given? Why go to so many people, but not her partner? Lotusarchon admitted her behaviors were unhealthy. She wrote about it. She compared her actions to her father. She feared she was hurting her partner. She made two separate blogs, plaguepetals and bunrotexe, dedicated to guilt, self-blame, and trying to work through her fear. She deleted them out of disgust.
Meanwhile, the ex blocked minors who had interacted with lotusarchon. That might seem small, but it shows a pattern of control. And yet, this same person now criticizes lotusarchon for behaviors she herself may have mirrored or even romanticized at the time.
The ex claims she isn’t responsible for the harassment of lotusarchon. But that same logic applies both ways. Lotusarchon never directed anyone to attack her ex. She told people to block and report. The ex, on the other hand, is tagging fandoms and reposting content to stir attention.
Let me be clear again. I am not defending lotusarchon blindly. I have my own judgments.
But the facts are that lotusarchon has accepted blame. She is not shifting it. She feels guilt. Her writing and her bot may be immature in concept, but they are private coping tools. The ex is claiming that those tools are proof that lotusarchon is dragging out trauma or defaming her. The reality is that she was never mentioned. This behavior is not about justice. This is targeted, sustained harassment that legally borders on malicious intent.
Going further, the ex is the one dragging others into this. The taoist individual, who is now caught up in this, was pulled in because the ex used him as a messenger. It is known she repeatedly spoke to him about the situation. Jiro insulted him, yes, but the early posts never named him or addressed him. He was brought into this because of the ex, not lotusarchon.
And what makes it worse is the way the ex talks about him. There is a possessive tone, a level of fixation that has not gone unnoticed. He is engaged. He is not her partner. No one has accused him of grooming her. The suggestion of grooming was never made in lotusarchon's posts.
The insistence on defending him did not come from accusations. It came from the ex’s own posts. People with no knowledge of the situation assumed she was defending a boyfriend. They thought the drama was about lotusarchon insulting someone’s partner. That is how misleading her behavior has been.
She needs to look at what she is doing.
She claims she is not stalking lotusarchon, yet she always knows what she’s doing. She says she is not trying to cause harm, yet she tags fandoms to make sure people see her posts. She says no one is attacking, yet continues to act as if this is some exposure campaign.
What she is doing is deliberate. It is harmful. It is malicious.
It has been observed that on multiple occasions, lotusarchon does not fully go offline despite ongoing hostile actions directed at her. Reports from others corroborate this observation. While she actively avoids harassment by blocking users and deleting content when necessary, she maintains an online presence. This behavior appears to be a response to repeated insults labeling her as “chronically online.” Although this term is often used dismissively, in this context it merits attention.
An investigation was conducted involving myself and several acquaintances to better understand this behavior. It is notable that an individual can openly accept responsibility for their past harmful actions and yet continue to be subject to harassment. Testimonies from former friends and individuals acquainted with lotusarchon since childhood, supported by archival social media records, indicate that she has endured an abusive and toxic home environment. These factors have had a significant and detrimental impact on her mental health. These claims are considered credible based on the sources available.
Both the ex and her associate, along with prior aggressors and abusers of lotusarchon, have repeatedly used the term “chronically online” in attempts to discredit her. A comparable statement was made by Mariin in prior confrontations regarding her behavior. The ex’s expressed viewpoint appears to be that internet interactions causing distress can be mitigated by simply “logging off.”
It is important to recognize that coping mechanisms for trauma differ widely among individuals. Examples include participation in communities centered on proshipping, use of dark humor, and engagement in roleplay identities such as littles and pet regressors. These mechanisms provide various means for individuals to process trauma or psychological stress. Engagement with online spaces as a means of coping or avoiding personal difficulties should not be conflated with being “chronically online” in a derogatory sense.
No one can fully comprehend what another person experiences behind a screen. This fundamental uncertainty is a primary reason for the establishment and enforcement of laws against cyberbullying, recognizing that many individuals are coping with unseen struggles. Given the past intimate relationship between the ex and lotusarchon, the ex should reasonably be expected to have awareness of the difficulties lotusarchon faces.
It is true that individuals are not obligated to care about the wellbeing or actions of others, including situations involving self-harm or mental health crises. This statement is made without intention to invoke sympathy for lotusarchon.
However, it is notable that the ex frequently highlights her own trauma within her public posts. While the validity of trauma should not be questioned, the use of trauma as a tool to elicit sympathy or justify actions is a relevant observation.
In contrast, lotusarchon has not used her mental health or personal experiences as a means to seek sympathy. Instead, she has issued statements acknowledging her own harmful behavior and experiences, expressing sincere regret, taking full responsibility without excuses, and demonstrating awareness of the impact of her actions.
There has been ongoing confusion surrounding how lotusarchon could have experienced trauma as a result of her interactions with the ex. Recently surfaced information offers context that helps clarify this. Reports have indicated that lotusarchon is an age/little/pet regressor. These forms of regression are psychological coping mechanisms often employed by individuals with trauma histories. They involve mentally returning to a younger or non-verbal emotional state as a form of self-soothing, emotional safety, and dissociation. These states are typically triggered by emotional stress, feelings of abandonment, or perceived danger.
In cases of regression, safety and emotional stability are essential. A regressor forms a psychological reliance on their environment and the people in it. When those bonds are broken through abandonment or emotional neglect—especially after the regressor has become attached—it can result in severe emotional injury. Trauma in such cases may manifest through physical symptoms such as disrupted eating or sleeping patterns, anxiety, panic episodes, or dissociation. In the context of the situation, this is the likely mechanism by which the ex caused trauma.
The ex reportedly refused to communicate directly, abandoned the relationship without closure, and confided instead in third parties. Public records also reflect repeated harassment through callout posts, indirect tagging, and continued surveillance of lotusarchon's content. The behavioral pattern the ex displays has been described by multiple outside observers as reminiscent of lotusarchon’s previous abusers. Imitating the methods of prior emotional harm—particularly in cases involving a regressor—can exacerbate trauma and reinforce psychological damage.
Further information from individuals with contact to lotusarchon via internet platforms like TikTok has noted visible physical changes since the relationship’s collapse and the surrounding drama. According to these sources, lotusarchon has experienced a noticeable drop in weight and reports difficulty maintaining regular sleep, rarely sleeping longer than a few hours at a time. These symptoms are consistent with chronic stress and emotional distress. It is important to recognize that physical changes following emotional trauma are not uncommon. Trauma can manifest somatically, affecting appetite, rest, and the nervous system.
It has been noted that lotusarchon has continued to take full accountability for her harmful actions, both publicly and, reportedly, in private conversations. Nevertheless, this accountability has not been received as satisfactory by the ex, who continues to engage in ongoing public criticism. The claim that an apology “won’t fix anything” has been repeatedly cited. This is factually accurate—apologies do not undo harm. However, it must also be noted that lotusarchon has expressed acknowledgment of this truth as well. No one is claiming that a sincere apology erases consequences, but the act of delivering one—without condition, with recognition of harm, and without expectation of forgiveness—is a critical part of restorative conduct. It is a meaningful step toward resolution, even when forgiveness is not granted.
There has been no expectation from any party that the ex must forgive or reconcile. What is being raised here is the fact that the apology was made. Despite this, continued harassment has occurred, which raises questions regarding proportionality and motivation.
In reiteration, coping mechanisms vary between individuals. Victims of trauma rely on various methods of stabilization: some employ roleplay scenarios or regression to process loss and abandonment. Others write fiction, use curated bots, or engage in creative platforms to indirectly externalize distress. These actions may appear immature or excessive to outsiders, but are often tools for self-regulation. Online engagement in such activities does not equate to being “chronically online.” That label lacks nuance and fails to account for the deeper psychological function these behaviors often serve.
Finally, a central truth must be reasserted: no one can fully understand what another person is facing behind a screen. This is why cyberbullying laws exist across global legal frameworks. The presumption that someone “should just log off” disregards the documented realities of trauma, the effects of sustained harassment, and the severe mental health consequences of being targeted in prolonged online attacks.
At this point, it must be addressed that the ex does not appear to fully understand the weight or consequences of her behavior. During the course of their relationship, lotusarchon granted the ex full access to personal information—this included login access to emails tied to both the lotusarchon and buniibloom blogs, social media accounts such as Facebook, and even her physical location. While some might consider this to be a careless decision, it is not abnormal in close partnerships where emotional intimacy is prioritized and location-sharing is a form of safety or trust.
Since then, multiple anonymous accounts and individuals have surfaced making threats to leak this information. Whether or not the ex is directly involved in these threats is not confirmed, but the connection is clear—this personal data was entrusted to her, and there is now a breach of trust, a threat to digital safety, and a direct psychological impact on lotusarchon. Her fear of exposure is not irrational. It has been heightened by the ex's pattern of making sensitive matters public, and it demonstrates a willingness to escalate conflict even at the cost of someone’s privacy and well-being.
It must also be noted that if lotusarchon were to seriously harm herself—through self-harm or suicide—as a result of this continued harassment, the ex would be viewed as responsible by the public, if not by law. In some jurisdictions, there have been legal consequences in similar cases. U.S. civil law recognizes intentional infliction of emotional distress, and digital harassment is being taken more seriously as cases escalate. Even if not prosecuted criminally, the ex could be held liable in civil court, and more importantly, would face irreversible public scrutiny.
Regarding the claims of defamation: no archived posts from lotusarchon contain accusations of grooming against the ex’s friend. No posts or reblogs have made that claim explicitly or implicitly. On the other hand, the ex has repeatedly made direct, public allegations—about grooming, manipulation, and abuse—without substantiating them with evidence. This imbalance is critical. If legal action is to be pursued by either side, every post has been backed up, and no evidence thus far supports that lotusarchon has acted in a defamatory way.
If a case is brought forward, there is more circumstantial evidence against the ex than the reverse. Claims that lotusarchon is lying are unproven, while evidence of the ex’s escalation exists on a public timeline. Her continued reposting, vague threats, and commentary all align with malicious communication, not protection.
Further commentary must be made about the ex’s behavior and motives. One explanation for why this situation continues to be pushed by her and her friend could be that lotusarchon has little to no means of defending herself. The only accessible documentation is in the ex’s control. lotusarchon, on the other hand, has had to rely on memory, word of mouth, and supporters, which many often dismiss outright. When evidence exists solely in the hands of the aggressor, there is a strong potential for narrative manipulation—editing, deletion, or misrepresentation.
It’s also been recorded that the ex’s friend openly insulted lotusarchon in a recent confrontation. When requested to provide proof for their accusations, they could not. This is a textbook example of gaslighting: attempting to break down a victim’s reality while simultaneously denying them access to any materials they can use in their defense. That this is happening alongside coordinated harassment is cause for serious concern.
As stated before, this message is being compiled not by someone personally involved, but by someone observing and gathering accounts from multiple parties, including those in the LMK fandom, former friends of both sides, and neutral third parties. The commentary is based on patterns, not personal allegiance.
At this stage, a cease and desist is strongly recommended. The behavior is escalating beyond social conflict and into targeted harassment. If nothing else, this pattern should be brought to the attention of moderators or authorities on the grounds of privacy violations and cyber abuse.
It is also important to reiterate that coping mechanisms are not inherently harmful. Fictional writing, bot creation, and humor—even when dark—are often used to process trauma and regulate emotions. None of these coping tools are directed at the ex. Their existence alone is not aggressive. The ex being offended that lotusarchon made a fic, created a bot, or posted jokes referencing her situation does not make those acts abusive. It makes the ex emotionally triggered. That is not something lotusarchon can control, nor is she responsible for managing someone else’s healing. If the ex continues to be disturbed by these things, she is encouraged to stop reading them and seek mental health support.
There is nothing in lotusarchon’s recent online behavior that has incited violence, endangered others, or committed slander. Meanwhile, the ex continues to encourage others to engage, respond, and defend her based on one-sided statements, without concrete proof. In doing so, she creates a hostile environment for a person who has already expressed remorse and attempted to withdraw from public attention.
At this point, this is no longer a matter of calling out behavior—it is harassment being masqueraded as accountability.
From a sympathetic perspective, it is deeply troubling that Lotusarchon has no proof to support herself. While I do not blame her for wanting to erase the drama to protect her mental health, my friends and I agree that having some form of evidence would have been helpful for her, and it is genuinely despairing that she has none. Meanwhile, the ex and other attackers possess proof which they will undoubtedly manipulate and select to fit their narrative.
It is precisely because of this imbalance that we have decided to step in. I am not choosing sides, as I have no personal connections here, but bullying is wrong. Harassment is wrong. No one is obligated to forgive, but if your perception of someone is that they are inherently awful and refuse to acknowledge any effort made to improve their behavior, then there is something fundamentally wrong with you.
At this time, there has been no word or sign from Lotusarchon. After speaking with the ex, as mentioned previously, she has experienced a panic attack and has gone offline. Mutuals and companions of Lotusarchon have not heard from her either, and this is deeply concerning.
This silence is significant. Disappearing under these circumstances is a clear indicator of the mental toll the harassment has taken. If it is discovered that Lotusarchon has suffered harm due to the ex’s ongoing harassment and engagement, then action will be taken. Accountability will not be avoided or ignored.
The line between online actions and real-world consequences is thin but critical. When harassment crosses into causing actual harm, it demands serious consequences. Continuing harmful behavior despite knowing its impact is a choice, and those choices have repercussions. This stands as a firm warning: should the harassment lead to real damage, those responsible will be held fully accountable.
