Dassy h8er

Beru | 18+ | Trans this is a blog focusing on abusive ships, DDLG, incest, CSA, and pedophilia. Do not follow or interact with me if you are a terf.

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if you are going to cherrypick my posts and complain about what you find offensive don’t fucking bother reblogging them

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deadnoodle replied to your post:also if you are a survivor who uses problematic...

There’s no proof that shipping and drawing dirty cartoons is a bad coping mechanism. There is no evidence that it hurts anyone. =/

sources from this post because its difficult to repeat over and over: x

1. Your brain reacts the same way it does even if its fiction at times

2. definitions of child porn in america and canada

3. links to posts about how fiction has affected reality

Shipping an abusive or pedophilic couple normalizes it and makes people think that its ok. Drawing simulated CP also normalizes it and makes it seem like its ok to sexualize children. 

Also, sexual predators can use drawn images to convince their victims that its ok to abuse them. its happened to me. its happened and been documented before. 

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If u wanna draw trans men in ur art then go for it that’s great but if you stereotype us as being consistently submissive and consistently on the receiving end of vaginal penetration I hope you lose your fucking tablet pen for good because trans men are PEOPLE rather than one dimensional constructs for you to direct your perverted, fetishistic desire to see a man with a vagina get fucked

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Which situation are you talking about? I'm sorry I'm really not trying to be rude, I'm just confused. You don't have to say specifically who, but what have the people done who are in the wrong?

There are several different situations but the passive aggressive actions in the community is basically what lead to a lot of the drama. I don’t feel comfortable @ ‘ing everyone involved or stressing them out more when its already clearly made people upset. I’m mainly just letting people know that drama has gone down.

Plus I don’t want to risk people sending those involved hate or something. Sorry.

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Tbh tho that post is a vaguepost. You should @ whoever you're talking about... Whoever made a post saying they were comfy. Did you message the people/person you're talking about? I'm worried that you're talking about me, even though I don't think I did what you're talking about.

that’s the thing though, it wasn't about just one person. just the situation in general. im not mad at anyone though, just a bit put off by the drama. i want everyone to feel better honestly.

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i care about the anti community but we can’t be a good community if we’re arguing and hurting each other

we’re suppose to be battling a toxic community not becoming a toxic community ourselves

if you have anger issues, or severe depression, it might not be a good idea to run an anti blog.

and if you are passive aggressive or like to vague blog then maybe being an anti is a bad idea too. if someone did something shitty then @ them and let them know. dont fuel paranoia and fear in the community by saying that “SOMEONE” made you uncomfy or hurt your feelings. 

just be upfront. 

i know its hard but its probably the only way this community will get better

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@bubbles-against-ddlg please dont use the words victim complex to describe a person who had a breakdown thats really rude

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Oh! Okay im sorry I didn’t realize! I’ll make sure not to use it again!

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thank you for being understanding! the drama lately has been tiring but i think it might be best for everyone if we all relaxed and stopped hurting each other

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@bubbles-against-ddlg please dont use the words victim complex to describe a person who had a breakdown thats really rude

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if a minor (13-18) is posting about disliking anti ddlg or it making them uncomfortable its probably for the best that you don’t attack them or make fun of them because it just justifies their fears and gives them more reasons to dislike it. give them space to grow and learn the way most people do.

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i dont really care if lillie is into ddlg or not thats literally the cherry on top of all the fucked up shit she did 

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Things can be a coping mechanism and still be bad for you or others. 

“But (insert activity here) helps me cope!” is no excuse if the activity 

- actively hinders you from recovering (Example: Running a “thinspo” blog when you’re trying to recover from anorexia) 

- hurts or harms you in any way, physically or emotionally

- hurts or harms others in any way, physically or emotionally 

Those activities are still harmful, despite (temporarily) helping you to cope. 

Let’s say i get panic attacks and smoking really calms me. Is smoking a coping mechanism? Sure. Is it good for me? Nope. Do i get a free pass to smoke where it can harm others (in a children’s hospital, for example) because it’s a coping mechanism? Nope. Would a therapist encourage me to smoke to cope? Nope. Smoking isn’t suddenly a healthy act of self care just because it helps me cope. Smoking is still unhealthy and second hand smoke is still a danger to kids. 

So, as a responsible adult, i’ll not scream “It’s my coping mechanism!” and hold my cigarette in a baby’s face. Instead, i’ll figure out a healthier way to cope (What about smoking calms me? Is it because it keeps my hands busy? Are their healthier ways to keep my hands busy? If it’s about the taste, can i achieve the same calming result by chewing gum? Can i ask my therapist to help me figure out more alternatives?). In the less ideal case, i’ll leave the hospital and smoke in the comfort of my home where no kids are around. I still harm my body then but at least nobody elses. 

What applies to a children’s hospital and smoking also applies to harmful activities and tumblr. “It’s a coping mechanism!” is no excuse to post content that is harmful to others. This includes (but isn’t limited to) anything that glorifies self-harm or suicide as well as content that promotes violence or rape and all and any kinds of hate. Those things are coping mechanisms for some, sure - but they’re still harmful. And as i already mentioned, many of those things may calm you as a short fix but actually keep you from recovering in the long term. This applies to everything that makes you trigger yourself on purpose or re-enact your own trauma. 

TL;DR: “Coping mechanisms” are not by default good for you, and something being your coping mechanism doesn’t give you the right to expose others to harmful content.   

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every time i see a mlm/blb post my first reaction is “nice” but my second reaction is to look through the replies and see if anyone derailed it/bashed it

9 out of 10 times they did lol

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when u know someone is fake as hell but u dont have receipts 

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Do i gotta fight a fucker when i get home, i stg

nah i would rather just ignore ‘em i see no point in feeding into it they probably just want a response lol

the whole “dont feed the trolls” thing applies here i guess?

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I'm sorry about nikki. People like that are seriously not worth your time. She will always try to get the last word in and will assume you ignoring you means she won.

the hilarious part is that i just saw this ask and i forgot who you were talking about until a moment ago lol. its alright though you dont gotta apologize for someone elses actions. i just dont like terfs. let her have her false victory lol

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tbh im fictionkin and you're rad as hell. anyone gotta problem with you got a problem with me bruh. i will fite for your honour ᕦ(ò_óˇ)ᕤ

aww thank you! i’ve got your back too friend.<3 

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wait i get it omfg its a troll... fave