To the man who told me that being motivated, driven to build a career, a foundation for myself, establish stability, marry a man who supports me in the same is high expectations, think again. Its called standards.
Something you surely would not understand as you believe a woman’s place is in the kitchen, in the bedroom and at home.
To the man who thinks a woman should and will always be number 2, I pity your mother, for she, the woman who overcame 9 months of challenges you will never understand, pushed you into this world, and gave her life to bring you up is undermined and undervalued by you, her son.
To the man who thinks a girl should not expect to find a man who will support her dreams and identity, I pity your daughter for she has no male role model in her life and she will forever believe her place in society is what you say it should be. I pity her for she will never see her father gleaming with pride for the strong woman she could grow up to be. I pity her for she will never hear her father say that she is the strongest woman on this planet and she can achieve whatever she sets her mind to. I pity her for she will never know what it feels like to be supported by her father as she works to make her dreams come true. I pity her for as long as she is with you, she will believe her worth is less than it actually is. I pity her for she will not know her potential because you will tell her otherwise.
But I hope to god someone will come along one day, whether the partner she marries or a friend, or even better - herself, and asks her to believe, spread her wings, soar high and become the best version of herself - with success and confidence. I hope to god the man she marries will tell her that her place in society and in his life is beyond a household. I hope she is told that she is unstoppable. And I pray she comes to a place in society and her life where you will one day look up to her and tell her you were wrong and that you are proud of the strong woman she is and everything she has accomplished.
To the man who thinks a woman can never be career driven, independent and a provider to the family, I pity you for your ego has broken you so bad that a strong, independent woman scares you and intimidates you. I pity you for you fear a strong woman will treat you just the way you treat them and place them in society. I hope you step foot on a plane flown by a female pilots, be treated by female doctors and have many encounters led by strong accomplished women.
To the man who says a man who steps into a kitchen is less of a man and is weak, I pity you, for you will never see the smile upon your wife’s face as she is pampered with breakfast in bed and made to feel special.
To the man who told me that my way of thinking will lead me to an unsuccessful marriage and life, your opinion is another one in a million that will not stop me, but will only fuel the fire I already have burning in me to get to where I want to be.
To the man who said all of the above, I pity you, I pity you for the box you have put yourself in. i pity you for you will never truly experience the pride all fathers, husbands, brothers, grandfathers feel for their wives, daughters, grand daughters, sisters, and all their accomplishments, whether big or small.
I pity you for you will never see beyond the box you have put yourself in and witness the great minds and capabilities of women unravel in front of you or beside you.
