Elise Archer Anti-Fan Blog

On this blog I document Elise’s latest escapades in being a horrible person Most recent update: she’s a TERF now. I snatched up this URL after she deleted, it used to be her main. Her current account: @capricethebrat

[chainmail-butch]

I'm going to talk about being transfem and butch.

I get misgendered in public a lot. Never cruelly. Just a lot. Which makes sense.

I'm 190lbs of muscle with a deep voice. Which I enjoy. Typically I'm wearing leather and jeans. The vast majority of people are going to gender me as male because my gender presentation is inherently masculine, and other parts of me are also masculine.

This is a problem that cis butches face regularly, and that fact helps me cope with constantly being read as male. But it aches the most when I see other lesbians/queer women.

I don't really get to be 'publicly' lesbian. If I see another dyke on the street, I'm just a man. There's no quiet solidarity there. There's no recognition.

Femmes don't preen under my gaze at a bar. Instead, I have to walk up and explain my whole situation and hope that they're cool. Which is rough, because sometimes they're not. Or, worse, they say they are, but they aren't. Which results in a lot of wasted time for everybody.

It takes a supreme amount of self-confidence to walk up to a cute girl and boldly declare yourself also a girl in a voice that immediately gives some kind of lie to what you're saying.

So, baseline, I'm pushing and establishing boundaries. I'm already testing her just by talking to her. Which makes flirting hard, you see? If I feel like I'm already toeing a line, then I'm not going to make a sly comment about her dress. I am, instead, going to be as non-threatening as possible.

This is a great way to make new friends and acquaintances (I have a lot), but a terrible way to get laid.

So, my point is that if you meet a transbutch girl understand that she's already putting up a LOT of work just be here. So, you know, maybe touch my her arm and give me her a compliment if you're interested.

[poniesart]

Here is a little comic I made about some thoughts I’ve been having recently. I don’t ID as transmasc, and I have noticed that since I’m nonbinary and AFAB, some people in queer circles (online and irl) label me as transmasc! This has increased since I started T. Much love to my transmasc siblings, but I don’t identify with that term, and it misgenders me.

I figured if there’s not a lot of acknowledgement or discussion about non-transmasc and non-transfem people who physically transition, I can make some myself :)

Thank you to @/rjalker for the ID below!

[ID: A nine panel comic, done is low-saturated colors, mostly featuring soft yellow and shades of blue and purple.

Panel 1 reads, “I am an AFAB trans person on T.” showing a surface with a towel, and an open packet that reads, “1% 25mg”.

Panel 2 continues: “And I’m not transmasc.” and shows a rainbow flag, and a nonbinary flag hanging above some jewelry.

Panel 3 shows a person walking on a hill, the sky pale yellow and the ground in shades of blue. It reads, “My gender isn’t woman, or man, or adjacent to either, or neutra/ ‘in-between’.” The venus and mars symbols float in the air, in red and blue.

Panel’s 4, 5, and 6 read, “It’s a separate, other, gender.” Showing shoes worn under a light blue skirt, a person wearing a shirt, jeans, and vest waving, and a person without clothes floating among stars.

Panel 7 reads, “Queer people who know I’m on T, or even just know that I’m AFAB, often think I’m transmasc.” “They label my experiences automatucally.” The same person from before is shown between the two sentences, sweating nervously as though being trapped.

Panel 8 reads, “It feels like misgendering. From people who should know better.” The person is shown sittign facing away from the camera, head bowed, lifting one arm across zir shoulder, where half a dozen flags have been stabbed into zir back like arrows, all dark blue, and marked with either the blue mars, or pink venus symbol.

Panel 9 reads, “'Masculinizing’ HRT doesn’t mean I’m transmasc.” Next to a small picture of the person smiling away from the camera, wearing blue glasses, with stubble on zir chin. The next small image is of the chemical symbols for testosterone, with text next to it that reads, “It doesn’t mean my gender is male, or male-adjacent.” Followed by another small picture of the person, smiling with hearts next to zir face, wearing the nonbinary pride flag like a blanket or cape.

The yellow background fades downward into the nonbinary flag, with stripes of yellow, white, purple, and black, here with the purple and black in shades of blue. The text reads, above a final drawing of the person, wearing a pink sweater and a blue skirt, smiling up at the camera and surrounded by small sparkles, “It just means I’m a nonbinary, genderqueer person who is becoming more like zirself. And that just happens to involve HRT!” with a smiley face emoji at the end.

End ID.]

[wh0rganic]

i see you i love you i support you and want you in community spaces with me because we’re different sides of the same coin etc etc

[punkrock-bottom]

F*g is a slur and no amount of quirky posts is gonna make you cool for using it

You have rights because faggots and dykes fought for them. Respect that you cunt

[the-haiku-bot]

You have rights because

faggots and dykes fought for them.

Respect that you cunt

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

[dykemyers-deactivated20221223]

most unrealistic thing about lesbian fanart is the butches are taller than the femmes. i've never met a butch taller than 5'4 in my life

[sexygaywizard]

I've been seeing a lot that people are really surprised and upset that pissvortex got banned, and while I think it's fucked up and shitty that he did get banned, I also don't think it's very surprising because- and here's something I think a lot of non-TERFs don't understand- TERFs navigate this website very differently from the rest of us. The standard reaction to any non-TERF encountering a TERF is to block them, and generally not engage. You know, we have block lists of TERFs that go around. TERFs themselves, they don't really do this shit. They don't have huge block lists of trannies- I mean that would be like 80% of the fucking site- what they do is they keep watch of accounts that they really fucking hate and they hang out in their little discord servers because they're petty and vicious and have nothing better to do than fill their lives with poison and venom, and they harass you to provoke you, and when you say some shit about how terfs should kill themselves or be scalped, they share it around between themselves and mass report it. And absolutely no large social media website, not Tumblr, not Twitter, not Facebook, is going to see a post that received hundreds of reports where you said that somebody should be scalped and think, "Oh but was the other person being like a real huge asshole though?" That's not how they work. They just ban you. Whatever moderator is managing that shit does not care enough to look into the larger societal wide context of why you said that. I'm not saying this to say that you should be kind to or play nice with TERFs, I'm just saying this so that you can perhaps have an awareness of how some of your posts may look to a moderator who's received hundreds of reports about them. They're playing a different game, so play smart

[peach-pot]

if ever I were to transition to be a boy and then later one day went “fuck it. it’s girl time.” to me that would not be detransitioning. I’m built different that’s just trans gender 2!!!!!

[steal-this-album]

i love you lesbian boyfriends i love you malewives i love you drag kings i love you drag queens i love you crossdressers i love you transmasc women i love you transfem men i love you beards and makeup i love you boygirls and menwomen i love you gender nonconformity

[zsnes]

i think if you are a terf on tumblr and most of your engagement with the website is to be crude vitriolic petty and pedantic its not unfair for people to do the same to you by making fun about your public vent posting and its a little ridiculous to imply wider societal dynamics are at play when people make fun of you for being so petty and hateful

[chainmail-butch]

I'm going to talk about being transfem and butch.

I get misgendered in public a lot. Never cruelly. Just a lot. Which makes sense.

I'm 190lbs of muscle with a deep voice. Which I enjoy. Typically I'm wearing leather and jeans. The vast majority of people are going to gender me as male because my gender presentation is inherently masculine, and other parts of me are also masculine.

This is a problem that cis butches face regularly, and that fact helps me cope with constantly being read as male. But it aches the most when I see other lesbians/queer women.

I don't really get to be 'publicly' lesbian. If I see another dyke on the street, I'm just a man. There's no quiet solidarity there. There's no recognition.

Femmes don't preen under my gaze at a bar. Instead, I have to walk up and explain my whole situation and hope that they're cool. Which is rough, because sometimes they're not. Or, worse, they say they are, but they aren't. Which results in a lot of wasted time for everybody.

It takes a supreme amount of self-confidence to walk up to a cute girl and boldly declare yourself also a girl in a voice that immediately gives some kind of lie to what you're saying.

So, baseline, I'm pushing and establishing boundaries. I'm already testing her just by talking to her. Which makes flirting hard, you see? If I feel like I'm already toeing a line, then I'm not going to make a sly comment about her dress. I am, instead, going to be as non-threatening as possible.

This is a great way to make new friends and acquaintances (I have a lot), but a terrible way to get laid.

So, my point is that if you meet a transbutch girl understand that she's already putting up a LOT of work just be here. So, you know, maybe touch my her arm and give me her a compliment if you're interested.

[chainmail-butch]

Hi, me again.

A lot of people relate to what I've said here, which is great. But a lot of people also don't understand what a butch is. I'm not gonna explain that, but I am gonna explain some more about myself.

I enjoy being masculine.

I enjoy having a deep voice. I enjoy dressing in leather and jeans. I enjoy being muscular. And, while I do feel isolated, that's just a result of my condition. Which I accept.

I'm not repressing myself. I'm not 'boymoding.' And, most importantly,

I do not want to pass.

I do not want to look like a cisgirl. I do not want be mistaken for a cisgirl. I don't want to read as feminine. I'm a trans dyke and I'm quite pleased with that.

I'm glad everyone relates and supports, but I think a lot of you are getting the wrong message.

Also, gay transmasc femboys you have my entire heart and I would die for you. You guys get it, may your quest for dick be fruitful.

[positivityforlesbians]

(Not a positive post)

There’s really something to be said about how lesbians are currently vilified for saying the most simple things. For talking about our sexual orientation, our perspective as women and specifically homosexual ones. Yesterday I’ve been witnessing this lesbian who is very big in the butch-femme community here on tumblr being dragged in the mud for making a post about how she hit “peak trans”. I don’t know her, I don’t recall ever interacting with her blog or reblogging one of her posts but maybe I did, it’s not the point. She brought up her perspective on how gender politics is messing up with the lesbian community and at large also gay men and bi people, how it’s destroying the butch-femme culture she loves so much. I don’t know much about these blogs as I’m personally neither butch nor femme but as a lesbian of course it’s something I want to protect. ✨

It’s her point of view, she has been supporting gender activism for decades and now she doesn’t because she says she sees the homophobic sexist damages it causes. People can like or dislike what she said, everyone has their own opinions. Her post however is making her the target of so much harassment that it is difficult not to see what’s at play here. I checked : most of the hateful comments, threats of violence, insults and desire that she kills herself are made by bloggers who haven’t got the word “lesbian” in their bio. So you have bisexual and more vaguely “queer” people or even straight ones who are harassing this lesbian like a damn crowd in fury. Again I don’t know her, from what I see from her bio I probably disagree with her on many topics but that’s something common, we all disagree with many people and it’s okay, what’s relevant here is that she’s a lesbian and she’s attacked online.

When lesbophobes say horribly sexist homophobic sentences somehow all of it seems to not exist, to not matter, to not be worrying, but when lesbians are fed up with said blatant sexism and homophobia to the point of making a long post about it then it’s time to dunk on her. Formidable ! She doesn’t recognise the butch-femme community in what she sees on tumblr from blogs that pretend to be about it, I get that, I understand that, from having read some awful posts that you would have sworn were written about straight people, about straight sex, about violent men and their oh so docile women/objects (?). It’s because there are so many ppl who invade our spaces and fill it with their opposite-sex attraction, lesbians can and should talk about it if they want (we do). So anyway this was a longer post than expected but all this to say : lesbians deserve to be respected. This woman did not advocate for violence against anyone, did not express hateful views, did not do anything else than writing her opinion on what she sees as a problem for the community and a contradiction at large, yet was met with vitriol. 🧐 @persistentlyfem I’m sorry I’m talking about you at length here but you don’t deserve this hatred. Just know that there are safe spaces for lesbians and that we support any lesbian speaking her mind (you weren’t expressing any bigoted/hateful view), don’t feel awful because non-lesbians (and lesbians with so much internalised lesbophobia that they side against their own people) are attacking you. Solidarity. 💜💜 Xx

[persistentlyfem]

I 100% deserve hatred for being a hateful person, and you do too if you think solidarity with bigots is more important than uplifting minorities.

Stop treating sexuality like a clan, it’s so cis of you.

[noelle-ism]

if your scope of gender is limited by such weak concepts as "girls dont have facial hair" youre gonna miss out on literally hundreds of thousands of beautiful girls that i and other epic girls are going 2 happily kiss in your place. and wont u feel silly. especially when you find out i DONT kiss people that think like that. ill be too busy kissing all the cute girls that have facial hair and making them feel like they should

[yr-tiktok-mom]

[persistentlyfem]

hi! Sorry for showing up and asking about other people on your ask box, the fact is, I came back to Tumblr this week after years (

After tumblr implemented an AMAZING algorithm) and I couldn’t find dorkinihighheels’ tumblr anymore, could you tell me if I can find her somewhere else and what happened? I can sense there was some drama while I was away, I just can’t understand much of it. Thank you

She started calling trans women “males” and then deleted. I’m sure a wealth of stuff was lost but it was war, treasures get lost.

[theconcealedweapon]

When you have too many rules, some of which are critically important and some of which are completely random like this, people become less likely to know which rules are important and are therefore more likely to break the important rules.

"Don't throw your toys at other people." is an important rule. But if a child is punished for that and also for lining up their toys, they won't know that it's wrong to throw toys at people because the rules will seem random.

[marimacha-tonto]

THIS is why autistic people need thorough explanations for things in order to change their behavior. When you tell an autistic person a rule and they ask “why?” It’s not out of disrespect. They’re not being smart or difficult, it’s a completely genuine question. They want to understand your logic not only so they can alter their behavior accordingly but so they can do this in other contexts.

Example: You can’t throw your toys at people.

A NT kid will implicitly understand why: because it causes pain to others and this is not socially acceptable, and that people make mistakes and don’t deserve violence as an answer. They will also implicitly understand that hitting/kicking isn’t okay. Autistic people rely solely on their logic for social/moral reasoning. To them, throwing a toy is a fair consequence for being an asshole and their need for logical social rules/protocols (including justice, albeit an immature concept of it) is the ONLY thing they’re considering.

They don’t understand that people don’t respond well to violence and that it doesn’t accomplish anything because that requires understanding another persons perspective. If you explain to them that throwing the toy isn’t okay because violence is an ineffective response to perceived wrongdoings (if nonverbal this may be hard bc they don’t have any other way to express displeasure) and it inflicts unnecessary harm then not only will they understand that it isn’t okay to throw toys, but they’ll also understand it’s not okay to hit/kick because the logical framework still applies here.

If you don’t explain it to them, they may change their behavior but ONLY in that context. They now know, for some unknown reason, that throwing toys at people is not socially acceptable. They WONT understand that violence in general isn’t okay. This is the difference between masking (aka blindly confirming to social rules that don’t come naturally to avoid concequences) vs genuine social development.

[xeno-aligned]

A Brief His and Herstory of Butch And Femme

a really good article (almost an essay?) on some of the history of sapphism & the terms butch & femme.

copy & pasted under the read more in order to have a local copy.

Keep reading

[pastel-petticoats]

There's nothing wrong with being a sex worker, or with enjoying sex work

[pastel-petticoats]

There’s no modifiers to this, btw. Not “its okay to be a sex worker if you have no other options” or “its okay to be a sex worker but also you poor poor victim”. No. It is okay to be a sex worker. Full stop.