[perspective-for-smile]

hello ♪ this is my attempt at a positivity blog, haha. hopefully it helps someone else, at least one other person. that'd be nice!

i'll probably tend to focus on things that i have some experience towards! not that i'll ignore everything else, though. that being said, i'm plural (all systems welcome!), fictive-heavy, autistic, and queer. plurality and fictivity will probably be the main focus of this blog.

i'll try to be nice and friendly on this blog, but i apologize in advance if i fuck up.

mostly making this because... honestly i've been pretty sad lately, and was hoping this might help. as such, some of this will probably just be collecting things that make me happy, haha. thank you for reading ♡

dividers by @/uzmacchiato

[veryluckyclovers]

[positivitygenic]

you are not too far gone to change, you are never too far gone to change. even when the road to change seems impossible, it is always a journey that you can go on.

[veryluckyclovers]

[perspective-for-smile]

shoutout to emotion holders. handling that for your system can be... difficult, painful. overwhelming, even. maybe not for everyone, but if that's the case for you, i want you to know that you are appreciated or at least should be.

[perspective-for-smile]

taking another step after messing up can be difficult. don't expect yourself to get back up right away. sometimes you need a minute, sometimes you need help. that's okay.

[desultory-suggestions]

If you are feeling good about yourself or situation and then your mood suddenly shifts leaving you feeling insecure, unsure, etc. try to remind yourself that nothing has truly changed but your perception. Your cute outfit did not suddenly become horrid. Your delicious meal did not tranform into a terrible one. Your peers perception of you has not radically transformed over a social misstep. Everything we experience is put through it through our mental filter, and that can convince us that everyone else sees us with the judgement we have for ourselves. Be kind to yourself.

[thesweetiepienovels]

Actually, you are enough. Even if you don’t work. Or study. Or go out. Or have friends. Or have family. You’re enough because you exist and your existence is enough to be enough because you are not a product. You are not a sum of output. You are not a task to complete. But because you are something the universe wanted and put here even if you’ll never understand why. Somewhere in the cosmos your existence makes a difference, even if it’s not the way others existences do.

[perspective-for-smile]

you are not an embarrassment. making mistakes or getting embarrassed doesn't mean that feeling is all you are.

[perspective-for-smile]

to those hurt by their source's fandom: you don't have to put up with it.

you don't have to put up with mistreatment, especially. but also, it's not wrong for you to get upset, it's not wrong for you to try and curate your experience, it's not wrong for you to be triggered. i dont care if it's "silly." you deserve the same grace anyone else gets.

your emotions aren't harassment, aren't accusations, aren't wrong.

you deserve to be able to feel. you dont have to put up with things that hurt you. and i hope your situation gets better soon.

[bloombound]

[perspective-for-smile]

honestly, support and love to people who have "unreasonable" emotional reactions to things. your feelings aren't a moral judgement, and don't make you a bad person. harm is caused by actions, not by thoughts. i'm proud of everyone who puts in effort not to project that to others, and i'd like to aknowledge how much work it really takes.

[thesweetiepienovels]

Breathe like you’re allowed to be here. Because you are. You’re allowed to take up space. You’re allowed to make noise. You’re allowed to need things and people. Your allowed to need accommodations and help. You’re allowed to cry and to laugh as much as you need and want. You’re allowed to ask questions. You’re allowed to be passionate. You’re allowed to be messy. You’re allowed to be strange. You’re allowed to be a paradox of things. You are allowed to be here. You are meant to be here. Live like you are.

[lotuspositivity]

You don't have to force yourself to bounce back so quickly. I read something recently that said "when you come in from a rainstorm, you don't expect yourself to be dry and warm right away", and it really resonated with me. It's okay to take time to dry off and warm up. Take the time you need to process what happened to you.