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delphinidin4

Tons more at the source!

phyreblue

@defenseofourdreams6277 All of these are fantastic news

How old were you when you realized that debt is the only thing keeping you at a job you've come to hate?

#customer service

nature-travel-photography

Sunset Sunburst, on a beach in Malibu, California, USA [4226x6338] [oc] - Author: Wilder-Photos on reddit

phyreblue

That's an awe-inspiring shot.

nature-travel-photography

Grand Prismatic at dusk. Yellowstone, WY. Spring 2021.[4032 x 3024] [OC] - Author: Grant1142 on reddit

phyreblue

@defenseofourdreams6277 Another place for the bucket list

rennered4real

Hawkeye

S01 Ep06: „So This Is Christmas?“

phyreblue

@defenseofourdreams6277 Dayum!

stability

when will this happen to me

bloodandsoymilk

reblog in 30 seconds to have a sugar daddy appear in your life

phyreblue

I'd love one, even at my age.

I haven't been on here much lately due to everything that's been happening in the world and, to be honest, I'm exhausted. Exhausted by political bullshit that has cost me siblings, nephews and a niece. Exhausted and heartbroken from losing two uncles, my goddaughter,and a good friend that I couldn't even say goodbye to.

People in general have exhausted me to the point that I hate my job. I hate walking through that door knowing I'm going to be verbally abused for shit that is not my fault. I hate not being able to stand up for myself against these nib-nobs because it could cost me my job.

I'm so fucking tired of people being entitled assholes and thinking they can treat me like shit. Someone asked me why I don't go out like I did before the pandemic. I told them I didn't like being around people any more. They've worn me out.

#so damn tired #mental exhaustion is real #just needed to vent #love y'all

hopesumners

phyreblue

That would've been my mom's response. No joke. LMAO

kryptidkhaos

Not to be a downer but pls dont use "hyperfixation" if you dont have ADHD! Same goes for autism and special interest

it's on? my about page?? that i have adhd???

like you really just,,,, automatically assumed? that i was using the word incorrectly??

renthony

Ah, tumblr, where a man can get accused of appropriating his own neurodivergence.

Though, quite frankly, even if you didn't have it listed in your bio, I'm tired of this shitty toxic tumblr culture that pressures people to list all their disabilities on their profile to avoid getting called a faker.

vaspider

Forced disclosure is fucking toxic, and people with ADHD aren't the only people with hyperfixations, nor are people who are autistic the only ones with special interests.

Plus, let's be really clear: those terms are accessibility anchors for diagnosis. If you have a special interest, you may not be autistic, but if you realize that you're going from special interest to special interest, and that you really do have special interests rather than just liking stuff, maybe you're autistic!

And since ADHD and autism have stunning under-diagnosis rates, especially among Black and brown folx, CAFAB folx, otherwise-disabled folx, and a ton of other intersections, making those terms common and commonly-understood and not rigidly policing their use actually helps people figure themselves out.

I wasn't diagnosed as autistic until I was 35, and I just got my ADHD diagnoses & medication this year, at 43. I don't know if I would ever have gotten the assistance I needed, or started working on my own accessibility without much help from doctors, if I hadn't been surrounded by a community that helped me understand myself by using those terms.

Seriously, though, Forced Disclosure is toxic, stop gatekeeping useful terms, no one owes you (anon) an explanation of why they're using terms like special interest or hyperfixation.

The only one being a 'downer' here is you.

leebrontide

Putting on my “I am a for real therapist who makes diagnoses as part of my daily job routine” hat here.

FIRSTLY, Vaspider is right about everything.

Additionally, diagnosis for autism is a checklist. A CHECKLIST. You meet a certain number of criteria and you get a diagnosis. There’s no magic or deep algorithms involved. There’s specialized language, and nuance to standards, which is why professionals are helpful, but at the end of the day, if I’m diagnosing an adult or adolescents with autism, it’s based first and foremost on their own SELF REPORT. As in I say “hey do you experience X?” and they say “yes, and it causes things to be hard for me”. This isn’t rocket surgery.

The criteria for diagnosis has changed within your lifetime. It’s changed during my career. These diagnostic criteria are not carved in stone and frankly the conversations about what gets included in the DSM and what doesn’t are laden with politics, power moves and other less-than-scientific forces.

All this to say that someone might genuinely, legitimately struggle with a number of ADHD or autism traits and not meet diagnostic criteria. That doesn’t mean they don’t HAVE them, it means if I want the insurance company or employer to pony up some support I need to come at it from a different angle. We can still work on those issues IF those issues are causing harm to the client in question. (I honestly do not give a shit whether their parents or whatever think special interests or hyperfixations are annoying. They can go suck eggs.)

So NO, you can’t reasonably say that only ppl who jump through the correct gatekept hoops get to use those words, because those are NOT the only people who have those experiences. Pretending otherwise hurts a wide array of people and makes accurate care even more difficult to access.

/end soapbox

vaspider

This is all very good but I do have to say I especially agree with the 2nd paragraph.

bff0f7

so can we start hunting down white liberals now or what

adamtheredbeard

The full picture is even more heart breaking after you open the uncropped version. Just a heads-up, it's rough

“The Roman Catholic Parish in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan was just grafitted.”

afronerdism

Nah let’s post it. Let’s feel it. Don’t look away.

doobiebenson

butch-bakugo

I notice alot of my followers on here skipping these posts just to mess with my lgbt ones, suspiciously the white popular ones.

Heres a not so friendly reminder, as an lgbt metis person, i dont give a single fuck what your blog is themed or if this is too painful for you to look at. Reblog this post. Reblog this post with the sources of the 751 children who were found.

Your compliance and silence as well as the compliance and silence of your ancestors is what allowed these schools to open and kill first nations children. The children of MY people.

Dont follow me if you cant reblog this post or the one with sources to your political blog or your most popular blog. Add trigger warnings if you must but if your political blog is only focused on the harms you personally face like being lgbt then you need to see some bigger pictures and stop being afraid of angering your racist mutural or actually saying some shit about racism. If you can reblog some antifa graphics or add blm to your bio to be a surface level ally, you can reblog some sources on the genocide first nations people faced and still face today.

They were CHILDREN.

They were murdered in cold blood.

dragonsrequiem

And even the children NOT slaughtered in cold blood were punished in ways some will never understand. They were ripped from their parents arms. They were abused for wanting to cling to some part of who they were. They were forced to cut their hair (a direct link to their family and culture), forced to never answer to their given names and their stories- their very LANGUAGE was taken from them.

They. Were. CHILDREN.

prismatic-bell

“For the dead and the living we must bear witness.” —Elie Wiesel

Forget “first they came for the socialists” and any talk of how this could happen to anyone. This is the only Holocaust quote I want to hear in your mouths.

For the dead AND the living we must bear witness. For those murdered and those whose bodies lived with murdered spirits. For those who managed to survive at unspeakable cost. For those who still live with no idea where their children are and can only hope that testing on these bodies doesn’t bring officials to their doors with the worst news any parent could hear. For those who will open their doors and find those officials. For those who lived and died with their pain never acknowledged, with no relatives remaining.

For the dead and the living we must bear witness. And we must not stop the pursuit of justice until every person still living who had a hand in this—whether clergy or teacher or government representative—has faced the judgment of those they wronged. Forget a jury of their peers. They deserve a jury of their victims.

May G-d make it so.

phyreblue

No more hiding the truth, no more lies. The guilty must face justice.

guardianofrivendell

English is not your first language and it shows. Most of your works are very cringey to read so maybe you should keep to your own language huh? Okay yeah your latest work is okay but that is only because you're writing it with someone else, because you know you're not good enough by yourself. I think it was about time someone said it. You're probably not even brave enough to post this one lol

Don't talk about being brave to someone who is brave enough to write in another language in the first place.

I know I'm not fluent, but at least I'm trying.

And I'm the first person to tell you GYH is such a good fic because I'm writing it with @laurfilijames, I'll give you that one.