Marissa
This was an unusual first date or should I clarify it as a meeting. We originally met during the summer on Hinge, and there was an initial connection through messages, but she had disappeared for a few weeks, and then reappeared and told me that she unfortunately decided to get back with her ex which was totally cool with me. I explained to her that I don’t have any friends, and basically use the app to meet people, so If she was down for a friendship we could do that. She agreed, and we planned to meet up that Saturday for drinks. The thing with Marissa was she was very attractive, but had two kids, and had gotten out of a marriage maybe a year or two prior so she wasn’t anyone I was interested in seriously. But I found her very attractive. She was 35 with a great figure, and amazing legs!
So we met that Saturday around 4pm at a brewery down the street from me, and when I met her I was stunned at how beautiful she was in person. She was wearing a casual summer top, and white short shorts that showed off her legs, and some colorful nike running shoes. The chemistry was good, and we were talking as if we had known each for years, but I did try to keep it as if she was just a friend, but I did feel a little flirting. Eventually the conversation got around to her boyfriend, and she had mentioned how she was upset with him, because he had made plans to attend a wedding with his friends that day, and didn't want to invite her. I thought that was unusual too, and I could see that she was very upset about that. Then she started telling me more about her boyfriend, and how he spent a lot of money on shoes, and would wear Gucci loafers. All that stood out to me, because Marissa is a blonde blue eyed white girl, and it sounded like her boyfriend is Black. So I asked is your boyfriend Black, and she was like yes he is, he’s Nigerian. So I believe that’s what made her feel so comfortable and familiar with me.
So we started talking about music, and she knew her stuff which is another thing that really stands out with me when I meet a women. She told me about how she enjoyed Blues music, and even referenced how she loved the Bluesy tone in John Mayer’s song “City Love” ( she called “Lydia”), but she had my attention by that point, and I was kind of into her.
After a few hours she had mentioned how she wanted to get something to eat, and watch a movie at my apartment about a guy who filmed himself during quarantine, so I said sure and we went and grabbed some New Orleans food at the Freeman and walked to my apartment. We were both a little tipsy from those beers, and we had a few glasses of whiskey and began watching the movie. Like I previously mentioned I was treating this as a friend even though I was kind of feeling her. Oh, and an interesting thing she asked for some comfortable shorts which I had never had that before, but I got her some. While watching the movie she asked if we could lay down and watch the movie on the couch, and I said sure, so we’re laying down watching, and I notice her butt is kind of rubbing against my dick, and I’m not sure what’s going on at this point, and then she reaches over from behind and starts rubbing my hair and my beard, and then turns around and starts kissing me. At that point I'm into whatever she’s doing since I’m feeling it. Then we start making out, and she gets on top of me, and she takes her shirt and bra off, and is showing me her breast, and tells me to look at her nipples. I looked and noticed they were pink which was kind of funny, but weirdly after a few minutes something hits her, and she all of a sudden doesn’t want to do this anymore, and ask me to take her home immediately. I was confused, because we were just about to have sex, and she just stopped, and got up, and put her shorts back on, and asked me to take her home. I asked her a few times if she was sure, and went ahead and decided to take her home. It was an awkward drive home because she was so quiet, and wasn’t saying much to me. Once I got her to her apartment, I asked if this was the last time I was going to see her? She said no, and gave me a kiss, and walked off. I drove back home, and I tried to text her to check to see if everything was cool but I fell asleep before I sent the text, and woke up the next morning around 8am. I checked my phone to see if she had reached out, and she hadn’t, but I was still feeling weird about how things abruptly stopped, so I sent her a text that morning asking if everything was cool between us, and got no response. So I called her around noon twice, and both times it went straight to voicemail. At that point I realized she ghosted me by blocking my number. I have a burner number, and decided to call her from that number to see if she would pick up, and she didn’t, but what was funny was the next day she called that number, and that was my confirmation.
I was definitely disappointed with how things ended, and I did kind of like her, and felt we had a really good connection, but I knew it wasn’t going to go anywhere seriously especially since she has two kids and is in a relationship. I think she was doing all of this as a way to get back at her boyfriend for not inviting her to the wedding, and realized she had gone too far and was cheating on her boyfriend and came to her senses which is good on her. Funny thing is I did see her on Hinge with a new profile around October so I don’t know what’s going on with her now. I wonder if I’ll ever see her again LOL.