bear with me because this post might not make total sense, more of a half-baked thought i had.
My boyfriend works in a dive bar and was telling me earlier this week that one of the two toilets in the women's bathroom was out of order, that the owner was dragging his feet about getting a plumber in to fix it because he wants to save money. He then goes on a rant about how dumb the boss is being, that all the women who come to the bar tend to gravitate towards and hang out in the bathroom, and that if they didn't have a functioning bathroom for women, women will stop coming.
I agree, and say, "yeah! women love bar bathrooms. they'll definitely stop coming if word spreads that the bathroom's out of order," but it got me thinking over the past week. You hear men joke about how women can't go to a public restroom without a girlfriend to bring along to chat with, or a group of girls to go with, and while men seem perplexed and pretend to not understand why this is, the answer is pretty obvious, isn't it?
Women love public female-only bathrooms BECAUSE they're sex segregated. We gravitate to the ladies room on nights out BECAUSE there's no men. BECAUSE it's a safe space away from the prying eyes of men. A place to chat and discuss things in private, a place to warn women if we notice a man being overbearing and too persistant, a place to speak frankly about stories we have about certain men in the club/bar in order to warn ladies who don't know. The only place in the bar where you can escape the eyes and advances of creepy men.
Why wouldn't women flock to the bathrooms? It's our only escape in bar scenarios to speak frankly with other women without the males overhearing. Yet men will claim it's silly for women to go in groups to the restroom, ignore the list of reasons why we do, and then also have the nerve to try and force businesses to make the women's room a unisex bathroom while the mens room remains untouched.
Once women's restrooms become unisex restrooms, which is already happening in certain businesses and schools and bars btw, you can absolutely guarantee many women will not feel comfortable going there, and therefore take their business elsewhere. Feminine men are not women. Gay men are not women. Sex segregated spaces are so important for women to feel safe, and to feel as though they have a safe place to escape, even if just for a few minutes.
The universal trope of women going to restrooms with their girl friends rather than alone is there for a reason. The lack of males and the privacy from males. Yet these worms-for-brains men can't think for more than ten seconds to realize this fact, and instead they act as though we women are just being gossiping, frivolous, self-centered babies who are incapable or too scared of just heading to the rest room alone.
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