*blows radspberries*

arizona connoisseuse | old enough to drink | formerly "rad-by-nature"

[cherrylimeade-l3sbian]

[thelovelygods]

[koobaxion-deactivated20220403]

[spirallingshape]

I didn’t realize the pun at first and just thought, “yes, geese with arms WOULD be scary”.

[cherrylimeade-l3sbian]

I have evolved.

[reggiemess]

Cannot stand the trend of censoring any and all words that describe concepts that might make you go :( especially when the censoring is done in that quarter-assed way that's just 'did a lil scribble over a vowel so you know that I know this word describes a no-no."

I'm not even going to be vague about what sparked this. Do not fucking censor the word 'stole.' I'm at my fucking limit.

[reggiemess]

Who does this benefit. Who is made safer by this. Whose life is made better by this. Who is out there going "Wow I sure am glad I didn't have to see that word without it scribbled on a little. That really reduced the emotional impact of reading that word." Can I kill them?

[dimir-charmer]

Girls will be like Idk why im so unproductive recently and then you ask whats going on in their life and they list eight lifestopping crisies and then say 'yeah but i should be fine :/ '

[cherrylimeade-l3sbian]

We go down to a local community center a lot to volunteer and junk. I ran into this older lady who was coming by to just drop off some peaches from her car bc she's as sweet as the damn fruit. Anyway, we were talking and she started talking about her husband and, shocker shocker, he fucking sucks.

Won't go anywhere with her. Insults her. Makes her play tradwife for his slobbering ass. All that shit. Anyway, she was clearly trying to, like, gauge if her lack of enthusiasm for his behavior was warranted. A lot of her questions kind of boiled down to, "Am I just being a hysterical womyn or was that kind of mean of him?" And I proceeded to sit and talk with her but mostly listen to her vent and add commentary about him.

And if you could see this womyn laugh and kick her feet, absolutely scandalized at the way I was talking about him and how I was affirming her. At some point, I said, "You should bring him down here. So I can talk to him." And she does that scream laugh with hands over the mouth and says, "I would love to know what you'd say to him!"

But eventually, she did get emotional and kind of teared up. She said, "I know he has issues but...he's just plain mean, sometimes." Flat out told her to leave him. She's in her 50s so, reasonably, she took it as a joke. But this is California, baby. Half his shit became hers the second they said, 'I do.'

Then, in this momentary confidence, she says, "I always thought of moving to (beach city in CA), getting one of those cute trailers and just going to church and just getting away from all the opinions and noise."

Do I think I am going to change this 50+ year old womyn's entire life from one conversation while we held peaches in our hands? Obviously not. But this was one of those times where I almost defaulted to just comforting her without actually objecting to the negative force in her life out of fear of ... I don't even know. Coming off too strong? Being rude? I'm writing this and I don't even have a foundation for that fear other than I am not immune to the propaganda.

All I know is that I, not generally a hug initiator, asked for a hug. And that lady who I plan to see this week hugged me so hard and said, "Thank you for all your kind words, young lady."

Starting off June strong!

[halfheartdead]

Many (if not most) heterosexual relationships exist on the spectrum of having traits of being abusive or controlling, even if not fully there. I believe learning more about domestic violence dynamics will help feminists engage productively with women in abusive, exploitative, or neglectful relationships. It's not necessarily intuitive and seems to cause frustration for many feminist-aligned women. I understand why many get frustrated but it's simply not productive.

He's reduced her self-esteem and made her easier to control, and prevent her from deciding to leave due to his abuse. Outright telling women in abusive relationships to leave usually doesn't work, because the women either through physical, financial, or psychological means has her autonomy reduced. They no longer can trust their own judgment and don't act according to how bad things make them feel. Outsiders (even if well-meaning) telling them what to do and applying their own judgment might not help, because the woman still doesn't have her sense of autonomy.

It's like someone being in a cult, you can't force them to leave either. Because of the psychological hold, they are likely to go back until they truly believe they deserve better than being abused and feel in control/safe. Most of what you should do it seems (unless they're in imminent danger) is be there as a support, help them question their treatment, and build up their self-esteem.

I'm autistic so tbh I'm not socially adept enough to engage with victims IRL, but I try to keep this in mind when engaging with women in abusive, exploitative, or neglectful relationships online and so far it seems to be more productive? It sounds like you did a good job helping her feel affirmed that she's being mistreated and deserves better.

Your hesitation to shit on her husband is rational, it can make women feel uncomfortable and stop engaging. You see it so often with women in unhealthy relationships online, other women tell her to leave or he sucks and then she starts defending him and the relationship.

I'm no expert in DV, this is what I've gleaned from reading a few books like Jane Monckton-Smith's In Control: Dangerous Relationships and How They End in Murder and other articles on domestic abuse. If anyone else has more recs I'd be happy to read and further share them! :)

[daveedmee]

explosion at health potion factory 0 dead 0 injured

[iamheavymeta-lll]

my good friend said I was giving death the kid with my outfit yesterday, I love soul eater it’s truly one of my favorite animes ever 🤓.

[radfemyjasdottir]

What if I said that neither of these things are normal, and both benefit the patriarchy only?

[unsentimentaltranslator]

”The argument between wives and whores is an old one; each one thinking that whatever she is, at least she is not the other.” - Andrea Dworkin

[gendiebrainrotreceipts]

The projection is unreal lmao

[cherrylimeade-l3sbian]

Flip it around and passing is never important. But real womyn have to look amazing if they want to give their opinion. Which sounds like the mindset of another (the same) group of people who define the worth of a womyn's opinion based on her face.

[wintercorrybriea2]

Zimbabwe Akashinga Rangers, all-women anti-poaching unit

[sacred-portal]

[harrypotterfuryroad]

i thought we weren’t allowed to acknowledge that

[hexagon-club]

funny how they rediscover what a woman is when they want to discriminate against them

[cherrylimeade-l3sbian]

i feel comfortable with you so can i admit i low-key wish i would get a huge clump of earwax blocking my ear canal and hearing so i could experience the relief of those earwax removal videos. i just know it feels like nothing else in the world. i imagine it’s like the relief of taking a shit, except with your ear, once that stuff gets yanked out….

Girl, you are in good company. I want a big ass pimple to pop and drain AND plugged sinuses so I can use that waterpik to just drain it all out. I'm real big on expelling.

[senatortedcruz]

If you ever feel sad just remember this: Charlie Kirk got shot through the neck and died on camera lmao

[senatortedcruz]

“Female supremacist” mad that someone is clapping and cheering that a disgusting misogynist pig got shot through the neck and died OK!

[senatortedcruz]

Streets are saying this is a weirdo conservative dude larping as a radical feminist to get women to insult him because he has a femdom fetish. Which is somehow even funnier to me than a MAGA radfem. This site has unbelievable amounts of juice left.

[gnomebutch]

I’m soooo fucking jealous of gay men why are all their events for explicitly gay men. all the lesbian events are “everyone but cis men!!” WHERE ARE THE HORNY DYKESSS💔💔💔💔💔