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[piqued-curiosity]

“There are transphobic lesbians and gay men, and that makes no sense!”

Um. The trans community advocates for homosexuals to “unlearn” our sexuality so trans people can feel validated. They shame us for not being attracted to the opposite sex. They harass us for being honest about our sexuality. If you listen to homosexuals for five minutes it’ll make perfect sense why many of us are at odds with the trans community.

[sexyfamousandrich-deactivated20]

probably too controversial for y’all 🥺 but a lot of OSA radical feminists completely muddied up what lesbian REALLY means. lesbian is a sexuality fyi. it’s not some sisterhood. it’s not a word synonymous with feminism. it doesn’t mean “i center women only for activist purposes”. and the more y’all think it’s any of those things, the more y’all start to police real lesbian attraction and conversations.

lesbians will talk about being romantically and sexually attracted to women. lesbians will talk about what women we find attractive. lesbians will talk about having sex with other women. they’ll talk about wanting to have sex with and romance other women. none of those things are evil or misogynistic. it doesn’t make us perverse or predatory. and the reasons why that would gross any of y’all out is because you’re homophobic and/or have a complete misunderstanding about what an actual lesbian is.

anyway, stop saying we objectify women. stop calling us misogynists and saying we’re similar to men for literally existing 🤍 it’s not our fault you cannot conceptualize wanting to be with another woman.

[piqued-curiosity]

I never want to be associated with the word “queer”. Because calling myself “queer” feels like saying “yes, homophobes are right. My homosexuality is weird and strange, and it makes me deviant” which is not true at all. My homosexuality is natural. It’s a mundane yet beautiful part of me. Nothing about it is “queer”.

[heterophobicdyke-deactivated202]

ngl it’s very clear nonbinary het people identify that way to divert from their power as heterosexuals 99% of the time lol

[piqued-curiosity]

Especially when they start crying about how their het relationships are “queer” because they use they/them pronouns. I think they are being LGB as a fun club they want entry into.

[piqued-curiosity]

it's lame how femenists like wax poetically about their shaved or unshaved armpits for 50 years like please get angry about real issues.

There’s definitely things to be said about body hair expectations for women vs men, so I don’t think it’s a bad thing that feminists are trying to paint female body hair in a positive light in a world where it’s seen as unhygienic and gross. I don’t blame women for being angry about being expected to shave. Yeah, it’s not the most pressing issue, but it’s an easy to grasp and relatable issue that I’m sure introduces many women to feminism (critique on beauty culture is what led me to looking into radical and rad-leaning feminism!)

[0atm11k]

For me, its less about it being a big issue to solve, and more that it is such a small, non-issue, but look at how angry people are when a woman decides to exist in her body without shame? It's because its such a small and unimportant thing, that you can see just how much control is exerted over women and for such little gain

[piqued-curiosity]

You're right that body hair is usually a girls intro into the very tangible standards for women that differ from men. It is an easily digestable and relatable issue. Even women who DO truly think ALL women SHOULD shave....have had the moment where they were made to feel bad for their bodies in a way most men weren't or realize men never felt "gross" for growing hair at 13. BUT i also get the fruatration from seasoned feminists, lesbian activists, and gender abolitionists that body hair is a very minute cultural issue that can feel like being dragged back to freshman feminism for them.

Yeah I understand that too. But ultimately there’s always going to be a woman or girl out there being shamed for her body hair, so there should always be feminists defending those women and girls.

[piqued-curiosity]

it's lame how femenists like wax poetically about their shaved or unshaved armpits for 50 years like please get angry about real issues.

There’s definitely things to be said about body hair expectations for women vs men, so I don’t think it’s a bad thing that feminists are trying to paint female body hair in a positive light in a world where it’s seen as unhygienic and gross. I don’t blame women for being angry about being expected to shave. Yeah, it’s not the most pressing issue, but it’s an easy to grasp and relatable issue that I’m sure introduces many women to feminism (critique on beauty culture is what led me to looking into radical and rad-leaning feminism!)

[piqued-curiosity]

"What I want to get at here, is that it breaks my heart to see women fall into the never-ending cycle of learning to paint their face a certain way because it’s the trend"

^ Right?

Even clowns get to keep the same face

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[piqued-curiosity]

It’s interesting watching how my mother handles my brother’s insecurities and comparing it to how she handled mine.

My brother asked to use makeup to fix something he didn’t like. My mom’s immediate response was to try to assure him that there was nothing to be insecure about. When it was me in that position, my mom’s immediate response was to agree with me that the insecurity needed to be covered, and later to get angry with me for not covering it.

There was another time where he wanted to shave under his arms, and my mom expressed worry about him potentially being clumsy and hurting himself with the razor. When I’d told her that I was clumsy and kept getting cuts that wouldn’t stop bleeding so I wanted to stop shaving, she got angry and told me I needed to be more careful and that it was ridiculous to want to stop shaving because I wasn’t careful enough.

Why does my brother get to be told he’s fine as he is, but I had to endure being told the opposite?

[femailment]

Nothing more sad than a wannabe-homosexual. You bullied, discriminated, attacked, humiliated, and terrorized gay people for years and now you want to be "queer" and call yourself gay. So sad. You'll never be gay and you're certainly not an ally.

[piqued-curiosity]

the fact that wlw was an acceptable acronym in even 2020 but now is suddenly offensive because it’s supposed to non men and not women is insane. especially so when you consider how mlm is just fine to say

Are people considering it offensive now? I’m aware that lesbian has been changed to mean “non man loving non men” (brb about to tell my cats they’re lesbians), so it wouldn’t surprise me if people are upset at the term “wlw”. I’m not a fan of the term so whatever lol…but it’s concerning that pretty much every term that centres women is being considered offensive. We can’t have anything to ourselves, and lesbians can’t have any way of saying we’re only into women.

[dragyndyke]

Need a makeup-and-shaving-detox spa where women can go for a month or however long and just exist with no razors, no tweezers, no make up until it feels natural to just exist.

[piqued-curiosity]

It’s very sad that a woman can’t even say “I don’t have a problem with being a girl” and “I don’t have a problem with saying things are girl stuff”, and immediately feel the need to qualify it by assuring everyone she isn’t a “terf”.

[mint-fem]

[neopetdestroyer]

[medusa-strikes-back]

Dating lesbians is literally just an exercise in validation for them. The ultimate proof of their womanhood, having sex with a woman who is exclusively attracted to women.

[neopetdestroyer]

Yea. Decided to read the rest of it and it’s literally that lol

[ms-revived-frogs]

This just in, bisexuality is not validating enough.

[llovinghome]

Desert Fawn

[scumbhag]

There's no "nuance" to homosexuality. Gay people don't desire the opposite sex, ever.