The last year has been really bad for me, in terms of my mental health. But I can't let it get me down forever, so I'm hoping to start this blog back up and give you guys the positivity you deserve. ^_^
I love that this shows both sides, how society is ingrained to see women as baby-makers and men as walking wallets who’s only worth is if they make good cash. Both are equally demeaning and limiting in different ways.
Look at how casual it is in our society to promote female abuse towards men. We think nothing of it. Imagine if the genders here were reversed. Imagine if this was the gamifying of abusive and control behavior of men towards women. It would be a fucking shitstorm and the gaming company would have to apologize but this? Nah because society is HYPOCRITICAL when it comes to toxic behavior. That’s why I roll my eyes hard at all the “toxic masculinity” talk because it’s pretty damn clear that overwhelmingly those who are quick to say that shit only have a “toxic radar” that works on men. If males are doing dirt, they are ready to yell to the mountaintops but women and suddenly they are deaf, dumb and blind. suddenly all those stances just go away. suddenly all those belief just disappear. that’s when the excuse parade starts marching in. fuck that. and don’t give me that bullshit excuse about men cheating cause guess what? WOMEN CHEAT AS MUCH AS MEN (here, here, here, here and here)! So unless you’re ready to tell me that as a woman you expect and welcome the invasion of your privacy, the destruction of your personal property and/or other likewise behavior because women cheat, shut the fuck up.
Dudes if you find yourself with a girl or woman like this, dump her toxic ass immediately. Do not even waste your time trying to make her see how fucked up and abusive this behavior is. Get the fuck out of there and find you someone who is secure enough to not freak out cause you have other females in your life besides her and your family. And if you’re about to enter into a relationship with a chick, have the talk. I always tell chicks straight up “I have many female friends and some are among my best friends in the world. We talk, chat, hang, go out and etc. I am NOT going to jettison them for you. They are my friends and they are going to remain my friends. Tell me NOW if you can’t handle that and we will go out separate ways no hard feelings.” I ALWAYS MAKE THAT SHIT CLEAR! Girls and women will fucking demand you get rid of your female friends for them but try asking them to do the same with their male friends for you and they fucking lose their shit. Fuckouttahere!
“Toxic femininity” is too fucking real and the fact that we don’t call that shit out is why “toxic masculinity” is mostly an exercise in misandry.
but notice all you can do is leave. you can’t actually give a reasoned response because you know you don’t have one.
BRING IT!! SOMEONE PROVE TO ME I’M WRONG!! LET’S GO!! LET’S GO FUCKERS!! ALL YOU FEMINISTS AND SHIT!! COME WITH IT!! CLOWNS!! BRING SOME LOGIC TO THE TABLE!! COME ON! ANYONE?! MAKE THE ARGUMENT THAT THIS IS ACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR!!! IF IT ISN’T WHY IS IT OKAY FOR US TO ALWAYS DISPLAY IT IN THIS FASHION?!?? COME NOW PEOPLE!!! DON’T BE A COWARD AND JUST LEAVE, FACE THIS SHIT! LET’S GO!!
i’ve seen my boys get caught up with crazy ass controlling evil chicks doing shit like this and yet our society is hellbent on giving them a pass. we never call them out. we never put their feet to the fire. we never roast their asses but we always got something to say about men tho. always. yet women are carrying out all manner of abuses in relationships. shit is disgusting. and when we sit back and allow for the above and we don’t call it out, we normalize the idea that abuse from women to men is okay. this is how you normalize an idea and a concept. you keep repeating it in as many mediums as you can until people see and/or hear it so much that they accept it as fact, as logical, as normal. think about how we talk and treat domestic violence in this country.
remember these domestic violence experiments to understand how differently we act depending on how the aggressor is?
Shocking video shows strangers ignoring domestic violence in the street - but they rush to help a female victim
how do we get to a place where we think abuse and/or domestic violence against women is unacceptable but abuse and/or domestic violence is funny, entertaining and thus acceptable? we normalize the idea that it is so and the above is one of the ways we do it. and it’s all funny until you realize 40% of domestic violence victims are men at the hand of women.
i had a friend who was in physically abusive relationship with a girl who was the mother of his son and it was as fucked up as anything i’ve seen happen to a woman. the scratches to the face, the punching, having things throw at him and shit… it was fucking crazy. but it’s all funny right? we’ll put in everywhere that if a woman is mad at a guy, it’s okay that she slaps him. in games where it’s funny that a woman invades your privacy or wreck your personal property because “some chick texted my man.” however we all know if the genders were reversed it would be all types of shit! this is called normalizing and it’s fucked up. that’s why i’m mad. fuck @amandaseales. hotep. the fuck does this have anything to do with hotep? fuckouttahere with that bullshit!! bunch of fucking hyprocrites.
‘I stabbed him with a fork and reversed over him in my car’: The secret Facebook page where women brag about violence toward men
‘In a mad ass rage at my partner. Just want to punch him in the c*ck and stab him in the leg with a fork. Bad b****es, I want to know what is the craziest thing you’ve done in a fit of rage?’ one woman posted on Friday.
The post garnered hundreds of likes and prompted a colourful discussion about domestic violence.
‘Threw a chair at him through a glass door. Door smashed and cut him the f*** up. Needless to say he didn’t smart mouth me again,’ one said.
The post and the ensuing comments were shared with all 173 thousand members of Bad Girls Advice.
this is what is considered being a “bad bitch.” and y’all fucking telling me i’m overacting? we send the message that this is acceptable through every medium so it’s no shock that 170k+ women gathered around thinking this is acceptable. fuckouttahere with this “you overacting” bullshit. social engineering requires that a message be sent over and over and over and over again through all meduim and channels great and small so that it becomes just standard thinking and the result is THIS. And damn I feel sorry for these dudes cause most probably just stayed with this crazy shitty women or didn’t defend themselves. Let a chick think she can hit me and just keep on keeping on. Bitch you thought!
Ask yourself how many male abuse victims are on this website right now seeing people fight so hard to justify and normalize the abuse we went through? Why is it okay for us men to be abused?
Chris and Anna Smith, who are poised to open the first safe house in the United States for sex trafficked boys, didn’t set out to be trailblazers. They founded their Christian ministry, Restore One, in 2012, hoping to open a facility for girls in ...
First Home in the U.S. specifically for sex-trafficked boys is set to open in late 2016. Of course neighbors pulled a stink and tried to get the house shut down before it even opened.
The founders are still trying to take donations to help cover maintenance costs. You can find more information about this ministry and donate here.
I CANNOT believe how much resistance they’re facing.
People are worried about their property values when these young boys have literally been sold as sex slaves and raped and abused in who knows how many other ways. They just need a safe place to heal and protection while they testify against their abusers so we can put the actual criminals in prison.
And people are worried about them “taking their medicine” like we’re trying to cure them of something. These are trafficking victims. But apparently people are more worried about these boys than they are about making sure the people who abused them go to prison.
Oh man, as soon as I get a little extra money I’ll be donating to this fine cause because this is just fucking great. I hate all the shit they’re getting for it, but shit or no shit I want to support these people.
I love that every few months this post gets another surge of notes, and now is good a time as any to give an update.
In late Fall last year, the area of North Carolina where this house is set to be opened experienced a lot of very bad flooding. This has set them back. They wanted to be open by now, but they have finished restoring the house and are now working on furnishing it so they can open soon.
The link above is broken, so here is an updated one. You can see they now have a registry for Target and Walmart open. If you want to donate by buying items they need to furnish it, you can do so this way.
You can also make a donation or become a monthly partner here.
A geography teacher cleared of raping a pupil has warned that men should steer clear of the profession, after a false allegation shattered his dream career.
A geography teacher cleared of raping a pupil has warned that men should steer clear of the profession, after a false allegation shattered his dream career.
Kato Harris, a former head of department at an all-girls school in London, was accused of attacking a 14-year-old three times in a classroom during lunch breaks in autumn 2013, but was found not guilty after a trial last year.
The 38-year-old said before his ordeal began, “life was like a wonderful dream”, and with a successful career and a child also on the way he was “looking forward to a great future”.
“If I knew on the day I qualified what I know now, I would never have become a teacher “
In an interview with the Mail on Sunday, he has disclosed that “one of the biggest challenges” he now faces is forgiving his accuser, something he said he will do, “just not now”.
He told the newspaper:
“I would certainly advocate that no man qualify as a teacher. It is just not worth it. What is the lesson here? There is nothing to protect the male teacher.”
A jury found Mr Harris, from Richmond, not guilty of all charges following his trial at Isleworth Crown Court.
“I had to give up my dream job because of a crime I didn’t commit,” he said.
“I am unemployed, living in a bedsit and will soon be on housing benefit. I am toxic.”
Mr Harris, who saidhe is now considering a job in a crematorium, added: “If I knew on the day I qualified what I know now, I would never have become a teacher.
“I will never work with children again. I will never put myself in that position of vulnerability.”
The accusations emerged in December 2014, and Mr Harris said he was in “total shock” when police arrested him.
He told the newspaper he had made the decision to kill himself if he was charged, but that with the arrival of a baby daughter he wanted to carry on and prove his innocence.
Mr Harris added: “I’ve looked into the abyss. But every day I wake up and I’m a daddy and not in prison, and that’s the best thing that I could have hoped for.”
Friend of mine lost his career, kids, wife, and his retirement because of a false accusation of rape. He was fast tracking to be an E9 at an early age. A female soldier brought all that to a halt and destroyed his career. The only way he was saved, was by her own big mouth. He is now fighting to get back his retirement and wants back in the army.
A former coworker of mine spent six months in jail due due to a false accusation. A girl he’d been babysitting accused him when he told her to do her homework before going outside. (I shit you not).
Im not sure how it came about, but the girl and her family finally told the truth then. He just walked away and said he never wanted to see them again.
And then, there are some who will adamantly screech that women can do no wrong. That women can’t lie and ruin lives, that they’re always right and the man they accuse should be taken away immediately.
Now, I’m not saying victims of actual rape should be ignored, but when considering a story like this, the fact that some would still say women can’t lie and ‘rape victims’ are always in the right are trash.
Honestly through all this the one thing I hate most is how there’s absolutely zero repercussions for a false accuser because, “We can’t make it harder for real victims to come forward” or some crap. Meanwhile even if a guy openly fights accusations he’s met with mistreatment for it.
I remember back when the guy who started Card Games Against Humanity was accused over the internet by someone who had absolutely zero intentions of seeking actual legal measures against him(Hmmmmm….) people praised him for basically not sueing the pants off her and ‘passively’ denying but not putting up much of a push against it. Ya know cuz “We can’t do nothin that’d scare victims.”
By all means file charges if you’re an actual victim, but frankly a lack of actual legal measures or only going about one’s you believe have no cost is fucking telling. Just take for example mattress girl going through the ‘college’ infrastructure and still fucking failing to falsely pin a made up crime on the accused.
if your girlfriend fucking bans you from talking to certain people; that is a controlling relationship, it’s not healthy, that’s abusive behaviour. if she doesn’t let you have friends who are women, that isn’t right, that’s not normal. if she’s so controlling that it’s getting in the way of you enjoying a social life, that is a big problem.
when a man hits a woman, that’s a show of power in the patriarchal society we live in. he is asserting his “power” over her and reinforcing harmful values.
when a woman hits a man, it’s self-defense. even if she struck first, she’s defending herself from the values that the man is trying to forcefully oppose into her.
For some of the boys out there who are feeling insecure about their bodies, I want you to look at some Olympic athletes:
Mo Farah, 10000m gold medal winner. He’s quite small and doesn’t have huge muscles. But he’s still a champion
Lasha Talakhadze, weightlifting gold medal winner. He’s not skinny; he clearly has body fat and a rounded face. But he’s still a champion
Kōhei Uchimura, gymnastics gold medal winner. He’s muscular, but is only 1.61m tall (5ft 3″). But he’s still a champion
So what I’m trying to say is that men and boys are often given expectations to be muscular, thin and tall - the diversity in male Olympics athletes shows that you absolutely do not need to be all/any of those things to be valid. You and your body are valid no matter what.
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