Why Women Want the Bear: A Powerful Truth
TL;DR: A viral meme asked women: “Would you rather encounter a man in the woods or a bear?” Most women chose the bear. Why? This post explores the deep energetic reason behind that answer — not as a judgment of men, but as a reflection of distorted masculine energy that’s dominated our culture for millennia, culminating in circumstances such as those surrounding the motherless.com. More importantly, this article points to a sacred rebalancing now underway — a divine recalibration between masculine and feminine energies, beginning not in systems, but in individuals.
There’s a meme that swept the internet not long ago. Its message was simple, sharp, and deeply telling. It also revealed something many people, especially women, understand. The meme asked a question: “If you’re a woman walking alone in the woods, which would you rather see: a bear or a man?” The overwhelming response? The bear.
The response ignited a thousand conversations. Conversations about gender, safety, trauma, and how deeply imbalanced the world feels for so many. Especially women.
But beneath the discourse and defense was something more ancient. There lurked something more “true”, more than a flash of cultural commentary. The discourse symbolized an energetic signal, one exposing long-term distortions of masculine energy…and the sacred recalibration now stirring in all of us.
I’m not writing this to amplify blame or fear. Instead, this post is about powerful, divine balance — and how the return to that balance begins not in systems or structures, but in the inner lives of individual people.
Masculine and Feminine Are Not What You Think
Before we can unpack what “the bear” really represents, we need to untangle some ancient confusion. Masculine and feminine energy have almost nothing to do with gender. They are the primordial forces of creation, present in every being, every body, every moment. You could call them cosmic functions — two aspects of the One Source:
Feminine energy is receptive, creative, intuitive, magnetic. It dreams, it listens, it gestates, it expands. Masculine energyis expressive, active, devotional, directional. It moves, it structures, builds, it serves. In their divine forms, these forces are not in opposition. They dance together.
The masculine exists to serve the feminine’s vision — to bring her dreams into form. When the inner feminine imagines, the inner masculine moves. This is the sacred balance. It is the original template. And this dance is alive inside each of us.
That’s right. Men are not 100 percent masculine. Women are not 100 feminine. Each individual, regardless of gender, represents varying balances between these two divine, eternal energies. And those energies rarely, if ever, show up in 50/50 balance.
So women don’t have a lock on feminine energy. Men don’t have a lock on masculinity. Both genders embody the dance. And both genders can lose their way.
Something shifted over millennia. Not because of some evil force or accident — but because humanity, in its evolution, forgot. What did it forget?
It forgot the dance. The masculine got elevated beyond its role. Action got prized over intuition and then we made a mockery of the latter. Force superseded feeling and we lost the meaning and benefit of emotions. Power overpowered presence and we forgot that stillness is extremely valuable, not laziness. Doing supplanted being and in the replacement, we elevated action far beyond its proper place.
As all that happened, the feminine — in both men and women — became muted. It got labeled as weak, frivolous, irrational and dangerous. That creative force got pushed underground. But the distortion wasn’t just external. Everyone internalized it too.
Men, disconnected from their inner feminine, grew brittle, hierarchical, aggressive and afraid of stillness. Women, in order to survive in male-shaped systems, learned to mimic men’s distortions and their distorted traits. They began valuing drive, grind, hustle and control, just like men.
The human world grew to confuse distortion for power. And now, we’re reckoning with the result. Which brings us back to the meme.
^^Men, disconnected from their inner feminine, grow brittle, hierarchical, aggressive and afraid of stillness.
Why would a woman rather meet a bear in the woods than a man? Because for many, the bear is more predictable. Think about it. It doesn’t gaslight, denounce or punish vulnerability. The bear acts on instinct, which more often than not is respectful of life and aligned to being. The distorted masculine acts on insecurity.
I believe that what women fear isn’t manhood. It’s what happens when masculine energy is severed from love. The man in the woods — in the meme — isn’t just a person. He’s an archetype. He’s a symbol of every time masculine energy was used to dominate rather than to serve.
The interesting thing about the meme, however, isn’t its truth. What’s interesting about it is its function. That meme isn’t about accusing any one of anything, even though some men react to it as though it is accusing them. That meme is actually a mirror. It is a mirror and a summons.
Some men can’t see themselves in the mirror nor hear the summons. That’s why they become defensive and lash out in their insecurity as men. Remember, men, like women, represent a blend of masculine and feminine energies. Insecurity shows up when that blend gets out of calibration. And insecurity tends to make people want to control their environment including other people. That control often looks like blame, attack, manipulation, etc. Control usually looks that way because the one trying to exercise control, themselves, feels blamed and attacked. When attacked, such people will lash out in defense or even become violent.
When a man feels defensive in the face of this meme then, undoubtedly, that man is insecure, meaning, his calibration is out of whack.
That’s the problem with some men. Not their manhood.
Masculinity isn’t broken. It doesn’t need to be fixed. It needs to be remembered in its sacred form. That remembrance is a recalibration. Not healing. For there’s nothing to heal, because there are no wounds. All that’s required is a return to the knowing of All That Is. A remembering of the dance. A restoration of balance. It doesn’t happen in headlines or viral posts. And it certainly doesn’t happen quick. It happens inside individuals — slowly, sometimes messily, often unconsciously.
It happens in the man who pauses before acting, and listens instead. Or the man who, after acting, sees what he’s done and pauses, and then listens. It happens in the woman who chooses rest without guilt. The woman who realizes she too has absorbed distortion if she believes her value comes from action or validation from outside herself. It happens in the creator who builds from inspiration, not urgency. The creator who creates because he loves creating, not because he’s seeking followers or money.
This recalibration is also eternal. It doesn’t unfold all at once — though it can. It is a spiral, not a straight line. Because of that, again, it looks messy, and that’s okay. It’s ok because we’re eternal beings. We have the time.
So even when the process looks chaotic or backward or messy, the calibration is always unfolding. Creation doesn’t move in straight lines. It moves in spirals, swells, and surprising synchronicities. And the meme women so celebrated a few years ago is part of that recalibration. So is the discovery of the Epstein Class of men. So is the discovery of motherless.com and the “manosphere”.
^^This image portrays the role of feminine and masculine energies. Masculine energy isn’t’ subservient to feminine energy, yet it serves that energy through action. The feminine energy gets it all started by sparking creation, ideation.
It Begins with One Person
The collective shift begins with individual recalibration.
This is not abstract for me. I live it. In recent months, my dreams have shifted significantly. Where once radiant feminine figures visited me nightly, now I find myself among machines, messes, missions, chaotic movement and a lot of angry, sometimes, violent, larger-than-life men.
And yet — I feel the divine choreography. These masculine-coded symbols aren’t a departure from the feminine. They are her creations taking form. These creations are the masculine in me rising to serve her, who also is in me.
My waking life mirrors this: blog posts, YouTube projects, clients, nascent apps aligned to my positively focused practice…all flowing together in precision. But none of it feels like striving. Instead, it feels like devotion. My masculine energy (action) is no longer compensating. It’s consecrated.
This is the sacred marriage of feminine and masculine — and it happens not in theory, but in practice. Practice over time, time honored, joyfully passed through and used in devotion of creation. It took a long time to get here. But I’m here. That’s what matters. And if I can be here, anyone can.
Each person must make the choice, however. It’s not automatic because we enjoy free will. So we each must choose. And choose wisely. A non-choice is a choice. It’s the default choice – to continue with current momentum of choices. We’re witnessing that default choice playing out especially so in the United States.
How The Bear Becomes a Brother
When we embody this inner balance, however, the “bear” dissolves. The man in the woods becomes safe again. He hasn’t been tamed. Instead, he’s remembered his role. When men reconnect to their inner feminine, they become of service, not scandalous. When women trust their inner masculine, they create with clarity, not codependence. When all of us integrate these energies, the forest — and the world — becomes a sanctuary again.
It’s far from utopia. Indeed, it’s something better than that. It’s real, happening. And it begins with us. It begins IN us. Both men and women.
What we’re witnessing in our global culture — the chaos, the contrast, the callouts — is recalibration, not regression. The fall of Orban’s Hungary is a sign. So is the collapse of Trump’s administration.
We’re remembering the dance between inspiration and action. Between creation and movement….dreaming and doing. And it’s happening everywhere — in whispers, in dreams, in pause points. It’s happening in prayer, in heartbreak, in blogs like this one. It’s also happening on social media, through memes and the great distributed information engine social media represents. But most importantly, it’s happening in more and more individuals.
The world isn’t being destroyed. The world is rebalancing. That rebalancing is happening one sacred human at a time. In that context, the bear becomes a totem. A totem of change.
Whether you’re a man or a woman, let that change begin with you.
