Since the 97% statistic is trending on other platforms I’m gonna talk about it here. I am not comfortable talking about it on my other platforms because pretty much all of these people can see it and I’m not ready to face that.
For those of you who are unaware this statistic is talking about how 97% of women have faced some sort of sexual harassment.
This includes rape, and the typical things you think of. But also people begging you for nudes. Repeatedly asking to have sex until you say yes.
And I can confidently say almost every single guy I have ever met has done something along those lines to me at some point.
I can think of several guys whom I considered good friends begging me for nudes. Or they ask at least once every time I text them.
Almost every guy I’ve dated since I lost my virginity has begged me to have sex or I have been out in a position where I felt like I couldn’t say no. Or sometimes they don’t ask, because we are dating and I love having sex so why bother asking?
For a long time I didn’t consider myself to have been assaulted or harassed. Until my junior year of college when I was telling a friend a story of someone I dated in high school. I’m not going into details about what happened to me. But after I finished telling them I sorta laughed it off like I had been the last few years. They looked me in the eyes and said “ you know that’s considered sexual assault right?”
It shook me to the absolute core hearing that. I remember the first time hearing that someone guilting you into sex or them continuing to try for it after you say no is sexual harassment even when they are your significant other. I couldn’t believe it. These boys claim to love me and they are still willing to do that to me?
Now I’ll be the first one to admit there are times when I wanna play and I want my man to convince me. To change the “no” into a yes. But I’m also clear about which is a no and which is a “no”
Honestly right now I only can think of 6-7 guys who haven’t done something like that to me. I’ve dated and flings with and friendships with quite a few guys over the years. And I’m sure I’m forgetting some of the good ones. But that right there is why we say ALL. We know it’s not all of you. And I have met some amazing people who would fuck someone up if they knew the truth. But can you see now why so many women are scared? If the men who claim to love and care for us are ok with doing that to us, what are the men who don’t care willing to do?
And it’s not just women. Men go thru this shit too. I’m sitting in bed crying my eyes out right now but I had to say something. I couldn’t sleep with out saying something. Here’s a shoutout to the men who are doing it right (at least the ones I can think of right now)
Ryley, Nick, Andrew, Alex, Dylan, JJ, Carlos, David, Trent, Matt. Thank you for not pressuring me into sex. Thank you for not constantly asking me for nudes. Thank you for just being my friend and not trying for something more.
And to the guys who are just now realizing what they have done in the past is wrong. Change starts with you. It’s not to late for you guys. You can change your ways, and help put a stop to this Bull.
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