Guys tend to only see me and a girl who could be a best friend and never nothing more, it’s suck because sometimes I want to be seen as a girlfriend. What could help me to a stop being seen as like a girl friend, to being a actual girlfriend? 😕
Hi love! Ugh, this can be frustrating. It is not a nice feeling to not feel desired by those you're attracted to. Sometimes, the chemistry and attraction just aren't a match, and it's better to just be friends. However, for the times you sense a spark or feel sexual tension with someone, here are some tips to make your desirability more obvious to your object of affection:
Be more open and playful: Smile, laugh, and lightly touch their shoulder or arm in a playful, consensual manner. Make it clear you're open to a connection.
Show interest in their life: Hobbies, daily activities, career, values, etc.
Respond to messages/plans to hang out directly and promptly: Nothing makes you look more disinterested than ambivalent around hanging out
Send fun or thoughtful photos: I don't mean sexual, but about inside jokes, interesting things that happen throughout your day, meals or places they also enjoy, etc. Build the emotional connection
Compliment them: Their outfits, accomplishments, smile, intelligence, athletic capabilities, etc.
Ask engaging questions: About their friends, family, hobbies, career, life goals, etc.
Find ways to talk about their turn-ons: What they look for in other girls, such as the qualities, hobbies, values, lifestyle habits, etc. they've found really attractive or endearing, etc. This can help them picture you in this role if you're compatible and have mutual interests or allow you to know you're both better off as friends without having to go through the saga or looming insecurities that comes with an incompatible relationship.
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