Bi Pride

A blog for bi/pansexual people to find positivity and support and to celebrate being bi. All are welcome here. Hatred and closed-mindedness is not. About Me, FAQ

[proud-bi]

I don't use this anymore but if you DM I might give you my other social media info

[caduceusangels-deactivated20200]

[spacexualkids]

achilles is so often called gay by the community and straight by society even though he fell in love with men and women. freddie mercury is known as the most famous gay man even though he self identified as bisexual. channing tatum is constantly called straight even though he’s dated men and women. evan rachel wood and angelina jolie and drew barrymore–all self identified bi women constantly called straight.

sappho wrote love poems for both men and women and yalls response to the idea that she might have been bi is “there was no concept of bi/gay back then!! let’s focus on the fact that she was sapphic!!” to the point where her name has become synonymous with gay and she’s called a lesbian icon and y'all only seem to have issues with “concepts” and labels when the concept/label is BI. why am i not surprised?

[pauladeen-vevo]

bisexuality is valid pass it on

[proud-bi]

Fine post but please take Channing Tatum off this list

[proud-bi]

How do you come out as bi to your parents??? I really need to know! I feel so guilty that I haven’t told them!

Short answer: I didn’t.

Long answer: I’ve never considered myself closeted. When I realized I wasn’t straight (roughly 4 years ago this month, actually) I was pretty much open about it. I didn’t take anyone aside to come out or anything. I just simply outed myself as it came up, usually through witty puns like when my coworker made a comment about wishing we had a register conveyor belt that “goes both ways”. Generally, my treatment of my sexuality has been very casual. It started with just being out as it came up and within a year that progressed to the “out and loud” that I am now.

As for coming out to my parents, I didn’t. The idea of “coming out” has never appealed to me because I don’t think we should have to. I think the culture of “straight until proven queer” is bullshit and more of us should normalize being out without having to make a show of it. So for the entire first year of knowing I was queer I was “out” without “coming out.” I ended up deciding to formally come out during Bi Awareness Week my freshman year of university (3 years ago next month). I wrote up a Facebook post and used that as my “official coming out” but I wouldn’t say I was closeted to anyone before that. Anyone who didn’t know I was bi yet just simply hadn’t had a reason to know yet. That includes my parents. If it had come up for whatever reason (dating a girl, conversations about gay shit, whatever) then I’d have told them, but it didn’t so I didn’t. My mom saw the post and she’s chill about it. I’ve never had a reason to talk about it with my dad but I feel like I’ve been vocal enough about it the last 3 years that he probably knows. I had someone tell me after I made the post that I should legitimately come out to my parents, but I didn’t want to then and I don’t regret not doing it now. Honestly, the one thing I ever regret is making the “coming out” post at all. It was probably the catalyst for me becoming as vocal as I am about being queer, but again, I don’t really like the concept of coming out.

I recognize that this strategy doesn’t work for everyone. Not everyone is surrounded by rational, open-minded people. Not everyone feels like they can just be out without coming out. I know that I have the privilege of almost never having to face homophobia or biphobia in my life. Sure, I’d grown up in a conservative family in a conservative state, but by the time that I’d overcome my OWN homophobia, the people around me had also moved away from it. Like I said, my family is conservative but open-minded. But, anon, since you say you feel guilty for not having told them, it sounds to me like you might be in a safe position to come out if you want to. If you want a formal coming out, figure out how to do that. If you’re more like me and don’t want all that but still want to be “out”, I definitely recommend it. I’ve talked to a lot of people who agree with me on just wanting to be out without making a big deal out of it. If that works for you, do it. That said, if the only reason you feel guilty about not being out to your parents is that you think they’ll be upset when they find out you didn’t tell them, that’s fucking bullshit on their part. You don’t owe your parents a big coming out. Coming out should belong to you and you alone.

[proud-bi]

it is all in the eye contact babe!!!! if you feel that fEeLiNg from their eyes looking into yours .... they are gay for you!

We were watching a movie! Our eyes were on Uma Thurman except when we exchanged knowing looks every time it zooms in on her feet because before putting on the movie we were talking about Tarantino’s goddamn foot fetish

[proud-bi]

I will continue to whine about crushing on someone like I'm in high school until someone validates me

[modernlavendermenace]

[proud-bi]

Ladies, is it gay if you go over to a person's house for an incredible double feature until 3am and they have the whole other side of the couch to sit on but they sit down right next to you and lean into you all night?

[proud-bi]

Y'all I have a crush on one of my friends for the first time in a while what do

[unrelatablemoods]

The little dude in the crosswalk signal who tells you to “wait” when you press the button

[make--it--gayer]

[skystonedclouds]

So my issue is inconsistency… 

Make up your minds are you going to force everyone to never denying anyone or are you going to allow the baker to choose? “Pro choice” for bakers or “Pro consistency”. 

Exhibit 1: I saw a cop get denied service just for being a cop. They said “people may feel uncomfortable”. They cheered the store owners for removing a cop who just wanted some coffee. 

Do you think that is right? I want to give you a chance.

Exhibit 2: I saw Muslim bakeries have no backlash at all for refusing to serve lgbt. I hope when you said “religious” you mean more than just Christianity. I know it can be an easy target. 

Exhibit 3: When a Christian called many bakers to order a cake that says “I support traditional marriage” they were refused every single cake they called. The only place that agreed was the cookie bakery. They agreed to do it while insulting him. Disregarding the insult the point is that all the cake bakeries refused to write for him “I support traditional marriage”. The video of it is now removed from Youtube when I click. It can only be found within another video who was commenting on the original video (which has the link to the original video). 

Should non religious bakers have to create religious goods that support all of their religion without cherry picking?  

[proud-bi]

I've always been on the side that private businesses should be allowed to serve or not serve whomever they choose and we as consumers can decide whether or not to patronize their business. The government shouldn't tell a religious baker they have to serve gay people but the general public can tell them they're bigoted asswipes if they refuse

[leesh]

a very good article

[prideprejudce]

‘It makes me so sad for the world, because the questions I keep getting asked are “Are these guys really that nice? Are they really that awesome?” 

My response is always “No. They’re even better than what you get to see on TV.”‘

[cynicaesura]

Watched To All the Boys I’ve Loved Before tonight

[hijabiflexual-deactivated202408]

Me discussing how a bi man is the perfect man for me cause like… what is there not to love? There is the fact that they will understand my sexuality only second to a bisexual woman, most bi men I’ve seen are comfortable in their gender expression and not afraid to be cute and have some damn fun in the way that straight men are not. The point is bisexual men are perfect.

[proud-bi]

Saw your post about the word “m-spec,” and while it’s not a word I use, your response seemed kinda panphobic. Bisexuals aren’t the only people who like more than one gender Sincerely, a bisexual who ❤️s his pan friends

Reminder that pansexuality is a subset of bisexuality.

[starkwayne]

no it isn’t, pansexuality is its own sexuality they are both multisexual sexualities yes but neither is a subset of the other, Bi has been around longer yes but that doesn’t invalidate Pansexual as its own sexuality

[proud-bi]

I'm not invalidating anything. Bisexuality includes anyone who is attracted to people of multiple genders/sexes. Pansexual people fit into that category; therefore, they are a subset group

[trash-bandico]

The Bi Dye was a complete success! 💖💜💙

[proud-bi]

I'll try to get around to writing up why those aesthetic flags rub me the wrong way today