Infj Advice

Also making this my own introspective diary. Sob

[pumpkinoverthinking]

My Fe versus my boyfriend’s Fi

*INFJ is helping XSFP out on answering interview questions online. *

INFJ: .. it would be better if you rephrase the “problem” in the last sentence as a reason to support your example.

XSFP: but the problems are true! It’s true that Western media is fukking biased (goes on for 3 minutes)

INFJ: I know it’s true but the point is, they’re not asking for that in this question. They just want you to pick out an example, and explain why you find it important. There’s no right or wrong answer.

XSFP: OFC there’s a right answer like obviously if you give a bad answer they won’t choose you

INFJ: yeah but I mean to say, how you elaborate is more important than your example so there’s no good or bad example, right?

XSFP: …

INFJ: what?

XSFP: I don’t like this question. I’m questioning the question.

INFJ: but you’re not supposed to like an interview question, it’s meant to be uncomfortable (Fe being like WTF)

XSFP: (Fi exploding in angst) yeah I don’t like this question, it’s so stupid

INFJ: (well it’s really hard for me to hate anything, is that a problem)

[lookiamnotcreative]

[surprisebitch]

now this is perfect halloween content

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[bane-of-technology]

this is “Taxi” by Oono Kousuke, the creator of Gokushufudou!

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A sailing ship

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INFJ stuff 1am

(Hi new followers! Thanks for joining, this is just my idiosyncratic journal where I write down thoughts. Amazed by the 200 people there is!)

- kinda shy, borderline social (it’s fake, I’m introverted af)

- loves to give advice

- guilty pleasure is saving 30 pictures and not looking at them ever

- sponge of emotions in the room. Would rather give up this special ability

- tried to predict everything then realized life is unpredictable

- try not to guess what other people are thinking too much and focus on yourself

- after each depressive episode is when you will make changes for the better. You will get there.

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INFJ oversensitivity

Someone: haha you’re actually pretty funny, wait how old are you?.. (conversation eye contact)

Me: fuc are they in love with me, pls don’t be in love with me, I like you as a friend but I’m feeling some vibes from how you look at me (is actually just normal)

Someone: *compliments*

Me: fuc how do I respond *either divert topic or squeak thank u* (have your confidence dud)

Someone: *negative comment*

Me: shittttt. They don’t like what I do! Did I do it “wrong”? This is unacceptable (later realizing it might just be a random generic comment that you have full right to not take seriously)

Someone: *feeling negative*

Me: oh no now I gotta be in tune with them to be compassionate, and I shouldn’t be happy bcs it will make them feel even worse (the takeaway is, this will make you feel pressured to feel or express your happiness, which does NOT make sense at all.

Ps Have been struggling with Fe usage recently, esp with new friends or acquaintances. It’s easy to feel unconfident and start acting weird, eg second guessing what they like and chameleoning. Imo INFJs can soak up room atmospheres and take it as their own climate— it could be painful. It’s also a journey of learning that ultimately you are not obliged to react to everything, to like everything, and to accept everything.

[pumpkinoverthinking]

More INFJ overthinking

: depressive authoritarian rule, oppressed communities and global socio-political insurrections; we live in a post-truth era of chaos where we lose our rhythm of breathing, overtaken by the excessive amount of web info spread viral like coronavirus

: is my work fueling oppression? Am I validating false truths? Am I producing what is ultimately excessive? Am I spreading coronavirus?

: I can’t control entirely how I meander in this world, nor would my sole actions bring absolute change, but I can try my best on the way.

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A bored INFJ

Situation

- I’m not self improving a lot lately, I’m bored I NEED TO FIND A WAY

- I feel stuck like * insert a very bad metaphor*

- look back at the tabs I’ve saved? Nah, I will continue to ignore them

- I’ll jote down my nagging thoughts (like this one) but it’s probably a reiteration of what I wrote last week

- spends way too much time overthinking/ being ambitious, but not doing anything

Resolution (what helps, personally)

- write down a list of people/ friends I want to talk to/ revisit, and contact some of them day by day

- stop being lazy and look at what insightful treasures I saved/ bookmarked

- care less and stop the endless cycle of inner debating thoughts (you take yourself too seriously)

- enjoy when you are happy and let that joy stay a bit longer.

[pumpkinoverthinking]

A song I’m writing

I miss you

Every day, every morning

I miss you

Every blink of my eye

I miss you

We can walk alone together

I miss you

We should dance again tonight

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some more :-)

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Luminal spaces

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Blindspots

Ni: the universal truth is that there is none

Fe: there was perhaps no obligatory need to feel everyone’s feelings (that’s how you feel safe), and not everyone needs to know what your mood fluctuations

Ti: being able to completely understand/ explain how something works (theory) doesn’t mean you are able to do that something (practical), but you should try

Se: didn’t know a neon sign can get you high jk and your fascination with traffic lights

Si: super organized with shelves but have you been ignoring your very messy/ neurotic inner self

Te: you can make everything happen but what if by doing that you will murder 5 people and 2 cats in the process? It’s completely fine!

Fi: your identity makes you safe but always (re)defining yourself doesn’t help

Ne: you can’t stick with one stream of thought out of your many fabulous ideas, some of which are dreams, some of which are achievable and some of which are shit. Pick your favorites

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Overheating INFJ part 1

Ni:

-go-to cognitive function, so always eloquently reinterpreting poetic truths

“Reality is multi-faceted. We live in alternate realities bound by our way of seeing”

-but always overstating the obvious

Someone: “Yeah are you just saying that reality is subjective”

Se:

-sucks, needs improvement

-overwhelmed by the appearance of things in real life

“Fuuu I have so many objects in my room, it’s becoming so messy, and that new weird fern in the garden?? And that mole on my left arm seems to have grown, is it cancer??”

-but less materialistic maybe *always forgetting to use the new things I purchased*

-will manage better if you use some Si organizational skills to tidy up

[somerandomjibberish]

Mbti INFJ and ESFJ roommates

INFJ: Everyone sees their plight through the lenses of them being the protagonist. Because people are storyline centric because of our constant entertainment we give everything that happenes to us weight. But the reality is everyone is just making decisions that they think will benefit them. They don’t maliciously make decisions against you they make decisions for themselves.

ESFJ: well... I purposely make decisions against people I don’t like...

INFJ: oh...

[pumpkinoverthinking]

Exactly

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Getting over mental art block

- An ill Fe tendency is seeing how nice and popular other people’s creative works are, and thinking to myself “I should do that too bcs I like it”, whilst forgetting what I stand by the MOST. Trust my own aesthetic judgement

- Stop overthinking that “my work is shit, my work is never enough”— everyone’s different, stop overproducing (blasting) to compensate for the insecurity/ lack of self confidence in what I make. Your work is enough, you can’t make everything in the world, and you don’t have to. You don’t have to prove to be able. Bcs apart from work making, there’s also how to make work in smarter/ interesting ways and having it exist, and that alone matters.

- eg remember that I told myself that I’m tired of just making “cute”, neat, elaborate things, so don’t get swayed by some *really elaborate linework*

- get up and find inspo. Imagine how you can make your creative process fun for yourself. Enjoy

[pumpkinoverthinking]

INFJ 1:16am

- I’m always writing about a collection/list of thoughts but can I actually focus on just one

-this one

(Always favoring a collection over an individual favorite, it’s hard to choose)

[k-eke]

They see me melting.

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Romantic phrases of an INFJ

Self analysis of locking the tiers of a cold-exterior, fluffy-interior INFJ

0: just met you

-absorb your vibe immediately and decide if you are a possibility

-Will not talk to you unless needed/ you’re so interesting that you’re the exception for me to open my mouth and say something random, like, ‘ooh it’s so warm today!’ *walks away in shame*

-Automatically overloading potential future scenarios between us two after knowing you for 5 minutes, it’s a 0.5 sec brain flash but it is very annoying

1: I know you but not really

-find ways to make myself appear as welcoming and friendly to talk to, like smiling at you a lot

-staring a lot at you or stealing glances

-super shy, if I talk it will be a blabber

2: we’re talking?

-will be more genuinely warm and conversational but to pick up what you are feeling. Do you like me in *that* way?

-will ask you probing questions

-show my wittiness and sarcastic humor to show I’m an intelligent being, not a dumbass flower vase (and to see if you reciprocate brains without being a smartass)

-emojis are used sparingly, not too much bcs I don’t give too much away, always subtle, be cool

3: is this a date

-secretly judging, sorry

-secretly fawning and plotting (overthinking) advances (but kinda slow)

-realizing my daydream of you is becoming reality and is terrified by that

-trying to enjoy the time without overthinking the future, the happier I am with you, the sadder I am contemplating the transcience of relationships

-easygoing just to look through who you truly are, trying to sense if there are any... past issues

4: you sure you wanna be with me

-once I feel secure, it will unleash my cheesiness

-my intelligence has been proven so now I can be silly esp with the GIFs

-getting used to let myself be taken care of by you

-always supporting you and preventing myself from giving you too much advice/ controlling

-when we’re spending time together, time flies past, I stop overthinking, or for once I don’t think because I’m just absorbing you at that moment. Just existing together and doing anything, almost ‘meaningless’, which is the entire opposite of me constantly wanting to find meaning in everything and my life.

-planning and daydreaming future together

-automatic relationship self improvements updating regularly in the background

-will try new things for you

5: we’ve just been talking about childhood injuries for the whole bus ride

-I want to know all your dark secrets and insecurities and things that left a scar in you, including past relationships, normally it’s easy for others to share with me, but with you I’m being extra careful

-unapologetic oversharing

-reveal my messy room

-time to flex seduction skills

-I like trying things together, visiting places, walks without a destination, taking steps

-you must know my friends

-desire to give you all my love using the energy I’ve kept for my introverted self

-no longer worrying too much about the distant future, because this moment now with you is already what I’m living for. *cheese*

6: will update, I guess

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INFJ reminders to myself in quarantine

- don’t sit all day bcs I will turn into a rock. And then will enable *guess what* better access to overthinking *･゜ﾟ･*:.｡..｡.:*･'(*ﾟ▽ﾟ*)'･*:.｡. .｡.:*･゜ﾟ･* limit work time, TIDY YOUR ROOM, don’t forget to feed yourself (your binge or passion project will not run away), do yoga/ stretching every day

and my thoughts will clear up on their own. I never got over overthinking by thinking more

-talk to friends/family online/around you so you don’t become a crazy person

- if you’re like me and always forget what you like, or paradoxically defer enjoying the things you think you’ll like (bcs you know you’ll fall hard and it will change you), just remember it’s fun to develop person strong likings too (bcs you can’t like everything).

- look back at those 100000 pics you saved, curate shortlists. You don’t have to categorize everything, you can even just choose “one inspo of the day” just for fun. reminding myself what I like and *wips wine* cultivating my taste in the arts/ music/ memes is important to me bcs they are sources to fuel my creativity

- some introspective offloading time/ INFJ rants/ reflection like this

-stay safe everyone!

[pumpkinoverthinking]

INFP: what’s wrong

INFJ: I’m just a bit depressed by not knowing where I’m going, where the work I make belong, how I’ll get a job, the idiocy of some human beings, not being able to do much to change the climate change situation and that I’m involuntarily making waste everyday, where will I be in thirty years, the imminent apocalypse/ world destruction and the fact that everything is transient and what I do now is predominantly for my personal attainment of pleasure, and will not matter in the distant future when the sun explodes

INFP: don’t worryyy, you’re just overthinking, everything will turn out fine *hug*

INFJ: what you said changed nothing but I feel better now, this is what I needed to hear