My in-laws come over more now that we have a baby to spend time with her. ever since Iāve gone back to work, my workload has been pretty heavy and Iām more or less on my computer all day long and they usually come by during work hours. I take breaks to breastfeed our daughter but since my husbandās workload is way lighter than mine, he has been doing most of the childcare in the daytime. Diaper changes, playing with her, showering her, taking her for a walk etc. we both work from home but I have a lot more work than he does so it makes sense that he takes care of her for most of the work day. Weāre thinking about getting part-time at-home childcare (so expensive so much to figure out) but I digress. I do most of the night wake ups with our daughter, breastfeed her overnight, I mostly take care of bedtime and take her for her evening walk. I track her naps, wake windows, etc. I keep track of how she likes to be soothed, what weāre feeding her since we started solids. My in-laws donāt really see my part, so Iām very aware that to them it looks like my husband does everything and I just sit there on my computer, doing ānothing.ā And my MIL has brought this up to me so Iām not imagining it lol. My husband DOES do a lot, donāt get me wrong. And Iām so grateful he picks up the slack. But I do get so uncomfortable knowing that they think their poor son does so much with our daughter and around the house and I get to just relax 24/7 or something, which I obviously donāt. But I have to remind myself and my husband has to remind me too that this is my test. I know and he knows what I contribute as a parent and as a spouse. I have to remind myself to not care about the optics. Itās so hard. I can feel my mother in lawās judgement lol. It is what it is.
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