Speaking about that "found family" thing I hear too often now in this fandom... There seems to be an implication that romantic relationships cheapen a bond, or a story, or a character, and I honestly really resent that. Especially with DBH.
Found family is one of my favorite tropes, but can your partner not be your family? Is your partner not your friend, your confidant, and the person that helps you heal and uplifts you? Those things aren’t locked to just platonic or familial relationships. In terms of HankCon,
I think their story is one of the best examples of healing. Hank has lost everything to androids, he hates them and the world. Until you have Connor, who comes into his life and not only helps save the Android race but Hank too. He becomes his friend, his partner in crime (literally), and in my opinion, his romantic partner that loves him in all his flaws and pain.
I think a man falling in love with an Android, after having so much pain and hatred toward them, and having THAT person be the one to heal and love him is a beautiful story and it’s unfortunate it gets so little respect in some areas of this fandom.
The most interesting part is also that people who are usually against HankCon, they seem like the ones who are applying their personal feelings and issues to the characters.
They’re so desperate for Hank to see Connor as his son that they’re willing to ignore actual, thought out theories and interpretations; as well as harass and bully those who see them as romantic. They take it as a person offense and that’s weird. Maybe they’re the ones who have “daddy issues” (because it is the strongest argument they usually use against shippers) since they need Hank to be Connor’s dad so badly.
I, personally, don’t need another father. I don’t want Hank to be my father or see him that way. I’m an adult who sees these two other adults as romantic.
I mean I’m not saying EVERYONE who hates HankCon wants Hank to be his dad, but the ones who are strongly Anti-HankCon and will beat you down teeth and nail… it does seem a bit odd, and I do feel like there might be some projection there. Even in other fandoms where people INSIST on platonic/familial relationships between two characters that aren’t, I wonder about this same thing. Definitely a pattern I’m noticing, especially since a lot of the platonic/familial people seem to be on the younger side.














