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arthur to john before he died: im sorry i have 2 leave the lobby but i will never forget you. you will always be my teammate my partner and most of all my brother good luck in future games and remember god loves you and has a plan 4 you.peace bro
Do you ever suffer family envy? Like, sometimes I see parents or families that just…treat each other so well. Parents who work hard to give their kids to best opportunities but also who listen to them, who are calm and supportive.
Siblings who are close and who genuinely support each other and are really just like friends but with their extra bond of a shared history.
Warm homes that always seem safe, and the adults are truly adults and have their lives sorted and provide a happy, comforting presences in the lives of their family?
The kind of family that could be written for tv, but it doesn’t seem boring or unfun, it just seems inviting. It’s really easy to be jealous of the people who have that and who often don’t even realise that they are part of some enviable existence.
I couldn’t figure out why small, straightforward tasks on my to-do list felt so impossible. The answer is both more complex and far simpler than I expected.
This article honestly changed everything for me. It articulates a number of issues I’ve been dealing with and struggled to explain to both myself and others.
If you’re a millennial and struggling, you will probably benefit from this article. It’s worth reading start to finish despite the length, as it just keeps throwing important, useful stuff out there!
That being said, I’m going to try to distill it so as to make it more accessible:
There is a type of burnout unrelated to one’s work, but instead all those little tasks one has to do as an adult (”adulting”). Dealing with insurance. Registering to vote. Returning unwanted clothes. Errands, paperwork, you name it. You can be highly motivated and enjoy your work, but when it comes to your to do list, you get this awful paralysis you can’t shake.
We aren’t being lazy when we are paralyzed by tasks on our to do list; there are very specific reasons we’re reacting this way—namely, millennial burnout.
We are trying to “win” the system, even though the system is unwinnable. This, of course, is a bit of a bait-and-switch, since we were told that if we studied hard and went to college we’d be able to have stable careers and a comfortable life with a home, family, 401k, etc.
A lot of us optimize our time and productivity to extremes (which, of course, would be on top of the optimizing spoonies have to do to keep afloat with limited spoons). We believe that if we just optimize right, we’ll finally be able to reach our goals and escape this hell.
Self care is often offered as a way to relieve the burnout, but it tends to just encourage this self-optimization. It’s also a hugely profitable industry.
Our generation is working through and past the burnout because we have to, and that increases our value to corporations, who continue to encourage the same old behaviors and sell us more “self care” strategies.
What can we do about all this? Well, not much aside from huge social change. But knowing about it and talking about it is half the battle.
Do note that there’s been lots of discussion and critique of this essay, particular in relation to its limitations in relevance/appropriateness to disabled folks and people of color race and disability. If you want to really deepen your understanding, definitely take to Twitter, Tumblr, and Medium and search “Millennial Burnout.”
Heavy stuff. But hugely important stuff.
❤️, Editor Diane
p.s. Want more sweet, sweet discourse? Try “Life-Hacks of the Poor and Aimless” for some academic real talk that completely dismantles the self care movement and its insidious connections with our toxic society and political climate.
me, about to refer a tumblr user by their name: am i ENTIRELY sure that’s their name?? lemme check… okay it’s in their bio… w wait what if that’s not actually their name… like… maybe it’s one of their friends names or something?? or like.. a song lyric?? ugh idk i’ll just… search their blog for the name that’s in their bio and maybe that will help me figure out whether it IS actually their name?? idk okay i mean… it’s probably their name so i’ll just go for it and type out their name! oh wait what if that’s not how you spell it… i’ll check the spe- oh okay i was right in the first place… okay i’m gonna hit send w w w WaIT WHAT IF THEY’RE USING A FAKE NAME AND I LOOK LIKE AN IDIOT BECAUSE I THINK IT’S THEIR REAL N
It frustrates me that critics/reviews have framed Peter B Parker’s unwillingness to have kids as being due to his arrested development psychologically. I keep seeing people say that he’s stuck in the glory days of his early superhero career and isn’t mentally capable of moving forward into the next chapter of his life, thus costing him his marriage with MJ.
But like?
The guy’s an orphan who knew what it was like to grow up without parents. He also knew what it felt like to lose a parent figure as an adolescent. And now he has a side gig that has him basically putting his life on the line every night and putting the people he loves straight into harm’s way. Mary Jane is an adult who can choose whether or not she wants to be a part of that life, but their hypothetical child would have absolutely no choice whatsoever.
So while he clearly didn’t handle it well with MJ and should have been more emotionally available and honest, I don’t blame the guy for being hesitant to bring a defenseless child into the path of people like Kingpin/Dock Ock/etc. And because I feel very protective of my “janky old broke hobo Spider-Man”, I don’t like that this part of his character is blamed on immaturity, rather than a reasonable fear.
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Not to be dramatic but seeing/coming into contact with ancient stuff is an overwhelming experience. I can’t look at a damn mummy without imaginging every facet of who they may have been in life. I was in a cave once to see a stone full of grooves where people had sharpened stone weapons thousands of years ago and I was told I could touch the grooves and my spirit left my body on contact. I fell through time and space. What the fuck
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