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@puttingasexyback
You think you would never get trapped in a haunted house. You believe that you’d only need to encounter one infinite passage before moving out the next day. You’d notice the signs immediately. The same way you notice every red flag before a relationship falls apart.
the way people used to use tone tags in 2020 makes me laugh in retrospect because in what world would you need to tag “good morning” as nonsexual. hi friend! /gen /pos /srs /nsx /hello /smiling /happy
something sinister is going down in the nearest beautiful mountain stream
not to be That Person but male-bodied people experience morning wood on the regular so why would this be surprising.
Saying ‘good morning’ to a person is already a bit in the queerplatonic zone (if you said ‘good morning’ to every single person you were ‘merely friends’ with, you’d have like a dozen different threads going on- it denotes a special place in your sphere) and since a lot of people conflate emotional closeness with romance and ergo sex, this makes perfect sense as a clarification
esp if the two people in question were queer, esp bi or pan
Honestly, ace discourse wouldn’t exist if people were capable of understanding that every single person on the fucking planet not only has a DIFFERENT relationship to sex/relationships/attraction as everyone else but also a COMPLICATED relationship to sex/relationships/attraction. Every single person! Yes, even the privileged ones.
Because we live in a society that demands sex as much as it punishes it. That both glorifies and demonizes sex. Sex is only good within very specific contexts but if you don’t like those contexts or act within them, suddenly you are perverse and wrong. Even people with healthy relationships to sex, relationships, and attraction still face pitfalls that complicate matters–partners who don’t have healthy relationships or maybe they can’t get a partner at all. Break ups. Factors that affect their libidos or interest in relationships. Periods where sex and romance don’t matter at all because something else is a priority.
And of course, your gender, sexual orientation, race, class, and every other identity impacts not just YOUR relationship to sex and all that but also everyone ELSE’S relationship and response to your sex, relationships, attraction. And the identities of the people you are and aren’t attracted to impacts that too! From the race of your partner to same gender relationships to people who prefer fat partners to whatever the fuck else… all of this impacts the complications around sex, relationships, and attraction.
And yet it is only people on the ace and aro “spectrums” who are obsessed with pretending their relationships to these things are wholly unique or special. That they have created new social classes. They are obsessed with feeling different because they think there is some homogeneous relationship to sex and love that the rest of the world is partaking in that they are somehow excluded from. When really everyone has something complicated from, their own hyper specific contexts where they do or don’t want sex or love or whatever.
Nothing about your relationship to sex or love makes you more or less LGBT. If you are gay and don’t want to have sex, ever, you are still gay. If you are cisgender and straight and only feel capable of sexual desire for longterm monogamous partners and even then, you only want to fuck on Tuesday mornings and Friday nights.. you’re still straight. You haven’t discovered a new class of heterosexuality that is “queer’ or different. Rather, EVERY person who is heterosexual is different in how they perform or experiecne it. You are the same in your difference. A cishet who doesn’t ever want sex because of trauma is no more or less cishet than one who wants sex all the time because of trauma or a cishet who doesn’t ever want sex because they don’t feel sexual attraction or whatever else.
Gayness, straightness, and bisexuality are not defined by HOW you do or don’t want sex or HOW you do or don’t want to date, it’s just defined by WHO you want to be with. There are infinite ways for HOW you can gay, straight, or bi and none of them are separate identities.
Hi so I'm a trans lesbian. I went to a university where I didn't know anyone, so I decided to join the GSA to meet people. At the first meeting, one of the leaders of the club described themself as "aromantic, asexual, aplatonic, a-aesthetic, asensual, and afamilial". To this day I have no idea what that means, but I did not go to the next meeting.
that’s someone who thinks about themself far far far too much
*seinfeld riff*
my coworker told me hes "straight but maybe demisexual" and i explained that a man who is only sexually attracted to women he personally knows is still, by all definitions, heterosexual and he seemed a little disappointed by the news
by tumblrs calculations its queer for a straight man to fuck no strings attached but its also queer for a straight man to like a woman before he has sex with her so if you think about it the real faggots are cishet guys. we should start yelling it from cars
Somehow I don’t think your 80 year old peepaw with dementia saying you don’t have to love a broad in order to screw her is him saying “aromantic rights” tbh
The average frat house must be like a hub of aromantic philosophers to these people
aro rights! this man abandoned his family and left the woman he knocked up to raise his kids as a single mother 😍 if peepaw can understand the aro lifestyle you can too 😤
this is what i like to call the qanon school of representation
you cannot convince me that at least a lot of these mogai "lesbians can date men words dont mean anything" type people arent just saying that shit purely bc they know theyll either get attention from people giving them shit or from an army of the most internet poisoned minds heaping them praise
“Queer people need to get weirder-” you can’t handle like. A lesbian.
Everyone who's saying "this includes bi lesbians" "this includes trans man lesbians" THIS POST INCLUDES YOU. Yall can't even handle lesbianism that excludes men.
People saying "this includes butches/lesbians who use pronouns other than she/her/lesbians of color/trans women lesbians/nonbinary lesbians" I love you I'm giving you a kiss mwah mwah mwah
People derailing this post and listing other identities: Step on a cactus
Sorry but I do think giving your lover a lock of your hair or a vial of your blood is incredibly romantic
queerplatonicizing this shit. there’s no allo explanation for this kinda freak behavior
oh I have GOT to start saying "there's no allo explanation (for this kinda freak behavior)" YESTERDAY
cage match to the death between an asexual person commenting "lol can't relate, allos have such weird problems" on a post about sex and a poly person commenting "lol can't relate, monogamous people have such weird problems" on a post about cheating
because it's pride month I'm going to swing my favourite bat and my favourite hornets nest and remind you all that pansexuality is just bisexuality wearing a biphobic/transphobic hat. and if people had actually fucking read up on lgbt history and culture before posting bullshit on social media then there wouldn't be whole insulting labels in the mainstream.
I will never forgive the uwu mogai crowd for thinking they were SO MUCH BETTER than this bogeyman version of bisexuality based entirely on shitty stereotypes. I will never forgive them for thinking you needed a whole new sexuality to be attracted to trans people. and now their fucking churlish ignorant antics just created more division, more biphobia, and more transphobia. bisexuality was NEVER binary or about being attracted to the gender binary but its way too late to fix the damage and it makes me so fucking sad. all because people couldn't be bothered to read up on their lgbt history like the bisexual manifesto, or listen to trans people.
breaking! the person who identifies a gay man and a lesbian and transmasc and transfemme at the same time is actually a misogynist, racist, transphobic scammer! radical inclusionists on tumblr are in SHOCK "we never could have seen this coming!" they say! some even proclaim "well that stuff isnt even that bad!"
breaking! the person who identifies a gay man and a lesbian and transmasc and transfemme at the same time is actually a misogynist, racist, transphobic scammer! radical inclusionists on tumblr are in SHOCK "we never could have seen this coming!" they say! some even proclaim "well that stuff isnt even that bad!"
one time years ago there was some post about how men can have sex with women while despising women and finding them detestable ya know classic Misogyny Real post and there was a reply going “maybe he coukd be gay or asexual why do we have to attack everyone” or some shit like that it makes me wake up in a cold sweat every now and then
then again to this day people assert that it’s totally fine and normal to have sex while having zero sexual attraction to people which is crazy because why would you fuck someone you don’t feel attraction to. do you go about it with the same apathy as one goes about doing a minimum wage job or are you lying to yourself
we live in a time where ppl have the gall to say shit like “vegetarians who eat meat are still vegetarians. asexuals who experience sexual attraction are still asexuals. atheists who believe in God are still atheists” like do words have meaning anymore
Asexuality is a spectrum. Please get your facts straight. Or rather, ace. (눈_눈)
what lace?
Heterosexual lesbian. Straight lesbian. Are you people fucking stupid.
