the mean lesbian tumblr warned you about

#it's the hypocrisy for me #and it shows me that a lot of people genujnely believe that gays can oppress people based on sexuality #also how many times do we have to repeat #that people should date who they want to #dating is one of the only things you can be absolutely so picky about.#if you’re throwing a fit that someone you like doesn’t wanna date you for whatever reason.....tough titties! sucks!#rejection is a part of life and you're not always gonna get what you want.

“Les4les is centred around the hatred of bi women” is also just an incredibly self centred thing to say lol like no it’s actually centred around lesbians loving other lesbians and prioritizing lesbians in their most valuable intimate relationships why r u trying to insert yourself into something that doesn’t concern you

fakelawyerbug

I've seen a bunch of "fandom etiquette" posts on my dash today and I'm going to say something that is maybe going to be unpopular but;

The absolutely pervasive mentality that unwanted criticism or critique shouldn't be given and should be ignored is why fans of color don't stay in fan spaces.

And I am not going to mince words here:

A lot of you are racist. A lot of your fan works are racist.

That might have been difficult to hear. And if it was, you should probably reflect on why that was.

"Fandom etiquette" has created a space where fans of color either bite our tongues and eventually leave or say something, get dogged on, and then eventually leave.

So much of "fandom etiquette" seems to be about insulating creatives from Feeling Bad and hostility to any kind of negative feedback is a pretty big contributor to why bigotry festers in these spaces.

wizard0rb

how life feels when you want video essays that aren’t just plot/wikipedia summaries and are made by people who have read at least one book in the last decade

wizard0rb

this was just an excuse to post

tumblr user wizard0rb's video essay choice awards:

(note: i'm using the term "video essay" to broadly refer to long form videos on youtube. not all of these are essays)

The Other Half of the West (A Travelogue) - Noah Caldwell-Gervais

This one goes at the top of the list in the hopes that you read it first, it sticks in your mind the most, and you watch it in full. Genuine contender for greatest piece of long form content on Youtube. Noah makes videos about games as well, but this is his best work imo.

Metal Gear Solid 4 was a Mistake - Steak Bentley

The definitive take on an absolutely insane piece of fiction. Funny enough that you can enjoy it even if you don't know anything about MGS. Steak Bentley is genuinely one of the best to ever do it.

THE PISS SAGA | Short Documentary - Derek Milton

A brief investigative documentary concerning the bottles of human piss that keep mysteriously appearing on an electrical box in California.

who firebombed friendlyjordies? - friendlyjordies

0% clickbait- someone firebombed Australian Youtuber friendlyjordies' house, and this is the video he made trying to figure out who did it.

The Tyler Perry Video - F.D Signifier

I was struggling to pick a single FD video for this list (because they're all so good), so I went with his most recent one. Go watch this video and then go watch all his other videos.

a normal creepypasta retrospective - hazel

An exceptionally good retrospective on some interesting creepypastas like The Peeker, Gabbit Rabbits, ShareThis, etc.

The Unreality of Pro Wrestling: FINISH THE STORY - Super Eyepatch Wolf

I wasn't originally going to put an Eyepatch Wolf video on here, for the same reason there's no hbomberguy or Defunctland- I feel like most people are already familiar with his stuff. But this video made me go from not giving a fuck about pro wrestling at all, to being deeply invested in a fight between 2 dudes I had previously never heard of, so it makes the list.

NEED FOR SPEED - A Brief History - Noodle

I want you to close your eyes and enter the Theatre of the Mind with me. Imagine, if you will, a reality in which Sequelitis was extremely good, and also made by someone else. Now open your eyes. You were so powerful that you brought that vision back with you into the material world.

The search for the saddest punt in the world | Chart Party - Secret Base

Jon Bois of 17776 fame once again making compelling football media that is accessible to the layman.

Art in the Pre-Apocalypse - Jacob Geller

My favorite video from a channel that pretty much never makes bad videos, Jacob Geller talks about living at the cusp of the end of the world. And also Final Fantasy

BONUS SINCE I'M HERE: OTHER NOTABLE YOUTUBE VIDEOS I ENJOY

these are just some youtube videos i like. no description because i think you should experience them without pretense

Badass swords AND grim reapers.

how to make pickle pepsi at home for free

Homemade dinosaur documentary

When the lights go out at night #shorts #viral

Drinking Orange Crush

Hermeto Pascoal - Música da Lagoa (Sinfonia do Alto Ribeira, 1985)

Center Core Never More

Lil’ Slimer - Online Video

My Movie

Japanese toilet experience 1

When you play games in your dreams, you don't use a controller, do you?

Cocaine & Crack

Give it All You've Got

may you never have a youtubeless dinner

headspace-hotel

video essays are unfriendly with my brain but jacob geller's videos are pretty much all fantastic

#fav

I just found out they made Mega Meganium and they made it a lesbian. I don't know if you care about Pokémon at all but I do know you care about lesbianism.

No one knows this about me but when i was younger chikorita was my favorite starting Pokémon so when I saw this design my little 13 year old self was jumping for joy. Win to chikorita fans AND lesbians everywhere

#nomiposting #answered #beloved mutual

Im sorry you can't tell me how much diversity is in your poly books when 99% of them have only one main woman in the cast and you don't have a single all woman polycule while you have multiple all male polycules.

#nomiposting #lgbt+#this isnt about anyone on here its someone on instagram #also most of this author's promo material is men being sexual with each other

transcephalopod

it's fascinating to me how people often start off trying to logically argue why things like "mspec gay/lesbian" or "asexual who loves sex" are perfectly sensible descriptors, then pivot to "why do you even care what words people use, you big meanie? you're excluding people!" as if exclusionary is the worst thing you could possibly be. why are we as adults discussing serious issues operating on the grade school logic of "leaving people out (of groups they objectively don't meet the criteria for) is bullying!" and never thinking any deeper. it is both fine to be excluded from a group/label that doesn't accurately describe you, and necessary that you are excluded from it so the people who it actually does describe can continue to use it accurately.

and to expand on my previous examples, what about the lesbians who are attracted only to women? what about the asexuals who genuinely lack a desire for sex and never want to have it? these experiences don't cease to exist because you diluted the words we used for them. should these people just make up new words? what happens when you want to use those too?

language evolves, yes, but isn't it convenient how it often seems to evolve in ways that strip away the ability of certain (often oppressed) groups of people to discuss their shared experiences? I wonder who that benefits?

transcephalopod

I've just never understood how the word "lesbian" is supposed to be simultaneously so important and vital that people who are attracted to men simply HAVE to be able to use it, and so trivial that lesbians shouldn't have any kind of opinion about its meaning being diluted into nothing.

moldavite

when i lived in england i literally thought i was asexual bc i was so grossed out by everyone

this is so fucking funny. real as hell

#me but with new jersey

“Girls w boyfriends aren’t your enemies” I mean I wish that was true but too many women let their bfs take them over like the symbiote So

gepgep2

kind of telling on yourself, displaying your assumption that women with graciously superior powers of compassion, understanding, and a greater capacity to remain in love are themselves mere piloted drones, rather than self-conscious and devoted creators of social worlds

remaining in love with a loser doesn’t mean u have “superior powers of compassion” it just means you’re also a fucking loser

jestsr4clowns

Why are these people's "superior powers of compassion" always funneled into abusers, incels, and bigots but never towards the survivors of domestic violence, misogyny, and racism? 🤔

#nomiposting #lgbt+#butchfemme #lesbian #sapphic #butch4femme #femme4femme #butch4butch #polls

Bc dada said so or whatever idk what goes on in these people’s brains

Very curious to see the results of this cuz I've been seeing other opinions in other corners of the internet

Is it weird/cringe to say "my butch/stud" or "my femme" when referring to your S/O?

butch/stud, not weird

butch/stud, is weird

femme, not weird

femme, is weird

non butch/femme lesbian: not weird

non butch/femme lesbian: is weird

other sapphic identity: not weird

other sapphic identity: is weird

I'm bald/not sapphic/I wanna press a button

Voting ended onJul 1

Also for people who answer, feel free to reblog with your reasoning.

Mfs on here love to be like Well if these cis white American lesbians in the 80s and 90s were doing it why can’t we do it today and it’s like im gonna hold your bush when I say this I don’t care what transphobic dyke meemaw was doing and if you say any stupid shit like this to me again im gonna beat your ass hard okay

kaban-bang

NO WAY LMAO

butch-king-frankenstein

thanks to prev for writing this essay about this dumbfuck post so I didn't have to

phoenixblogging

I also want to add that Death of the Author as a critical framework is used in applications outside of literature too. Death of the Author applies to every medium, not just textual ones.

As prev said, this is a bad faith interpretation of what Barthes said. Being genuine, please slow down and reread the source passage a couple of times, because somehow you've gleaned an entirely different point from what was actually said and gotten angry at a critical tool made to illustrate differing viewpoints for it.

Barthes is calling into question whom is speaking the ideals that women have the innate features of sudden fears, irrational whims, instinctive fears, etc etc and lists a few of the options: Is it the main character who is ascribing those traits or is it Balzac? Is a woman being described within those traits considered a single person's view or something to be understood as universal?

The point you missed, OP, is that Barthes is saying that all of those are positions that the narrative will be viewed through. Death of the author doesn't mean that the author doesn't also have a viewpoint and a message they're trying to say, it's saying that the author's viewpoint is not always the viewpoint that is interpreted by the people consuming the text/art/music and there is no feasible way to have a single unified understanding of a piece of media. Further, it's that you should approach your criticism from that perspective.

Fundamentally, Death of the Author asks the person reading the text to consider the alternative view points of how something could be read, rather than taking your own interpretation as the single "correct" one or taking the author's interpretation as the single "correct" one, either, understanding that the media in question exists outside of a space where an author can or would feasibly sit down and explain their precise meaning to every single person who ever interacts with the media.

Let me give you an anecdote. I will literally use one of my critiques from when I was an assistant professor a college level art class.

For the sake of context, I was an assistant professor and I was critiquing the work of a young person of about 18 or 19 who was white. The assignment was to take an article, read it and understand the content, and illustrate an image to represent the text of the article, and then us as the professors would, without knowing the text of the article or who drew the image, try to critique the pieces first based off having no context of an article aside from the headline. Then a second critique after having a short synopsis of the article and the artist beside their work to explain their intent. The nature of the exercise was to examine exactly how death of the author works in practical application for critique and self-critique.

In this instance we *did* have the authors of the work standing right there and we could ask them questions during the second critique, which is a luxury most viewers and artists would not have outside of this setting. We also had to explain what our (the professors) assumptions of the text would be based on the information we had, and if we felt it was attention grabbing enough to get us to click on the article.

I don't recall the exact title of the article as it's been many years, but I recall it being something to the effect of "Single Mothers in (Location) impacted with changes to Welfare Budget." The student had done and illustration of several different people's hands reaching to grab money, all of them having medium to dark skintones.

As you can imagine, having only a headline made it hard to interpret whether the choice to make the illustration of exclusively black and brown people in the context of welfare was a part of bias on behalf of the illustrator or was something brought up within the text of the article. My reading for the initial critique was that I believed the article addressed the struggles of brown and black women in that location to support themselves and their children because of changes to the Welfare system.

However, having gotten the additional context of the synopsis of the article on the second pass, I realized that the article did not place particular emphasis on Black and Brown women, instead having a broader focus on mothers in general within the location expressing frustration.

Again, I had the ability to have direct conversation with the artist during the second critique, so I was able to ask directly if he realized that he may have been depicting a Welfare Queen stereotype without intending to, and asked directly if the larger text of the article specifically referenced the impact on Black and Brown communities. The student expressed it was not intentional, and admitted he would like to take an alternative approach to the image to get it closer to the actual text and avoid the stereotype.

In this instance, my reading of what I thought the article was about was not necessarily the wrong way to interpret the image, but it was a different way than what the author intended. But that is why death of the author is important as a critical framework is because it allowed me to lay down and make my own assumptions to allow a mutual understanding of how the image was read. It allowed for a conversation to be had where I as the viewer examined the piece and gleaned my own understanding and was able to convey to another person, in this case the artist, how I had come to understand the piece. It further allowed us to both work together to engage with and edit the piece from a broader critical framework to address the gap between what the student wanted to depict and what was actually coming across to his audience.

Death of the Author is important because it encourages you to question the biases of the person writing the text and examine whether they are speaking as themselves, as a character, or somewhere between, and to glean understanding of how those interpretations could all be equal possibilites because you cannot have dialogue with the author themselves to get clarity on their intent.

This June, I need Gen Z queers to understand that some people are closeted.

I am saying this as a Gen Z queer, before y’all get your guns out to fucking shoot me.

But I need y’all to understand that if someone doesn’t give you their government name in a queer space, it’s not because they’re “mysterious,” and you do not have permission to take it upon yourself to figure out their “real identity” and go digging for them online like a private investigator. First, that’s creepy and a violation of privacy and reasonable boundaries. Second, some of us keep our private and professional lives very separate because we need to keep food on the fucking table and a roof over our heads, and our private life could jeopardize that.

“Why won’t you tell me about your parents?” “Why can’t I know your real name?” “Where do you work?”

1.) Not all our parents would bake us a fucking cake when we come out. Some of us are closeted. Surely you understand this? You also do not need to know my parent’s names or occupations; we are both adults. I do not need nor want to mix you and my private life with my parents and my public life.

2.) Trans people do not owe you their dead name or government name

3.) I’m not telling you for the sake of job security. I am a government fucking caseworker working amidst a fucking lavender panic!

“There’s no way you’re a different person outside this; you’re still you at your core. What harm is there—”

No, I am a completely different person. A different person with a different personality and different interests and a different name and presentation. I am a completely different person because I keep this life and my public life private to avoid fracturing 90% of my interpersonal relationships and 100% of my professional ones.

“You’re not out? But you’re so confident.”

See— that’s part of the issue. Y’all assume someone is in the closet because they hate themselves or lack self-identity. Some of us know exactly who we are, but need to prioritize financial stability or else our entire life gets exponentially harder immediately.

#also some people are in the closet in some places and out in others in real life #when i came out i didnt tell my dad until i got a girlfriend and even then it wasn't until they showed up at my house #and my friend blurted out i had a gf when my dad was home and my mom and i had 2 tell her to stfu #obviously this was not a life or death situation and my dad was cool with it #and i am very fortunate for that. but if it had been and my dad did hear that could have killed me

You meet queer people over the age of 40 and one of the first/earliest questions is “who knows?”

I need y’all to start bringing that energy. Because it’s not always safe for someone to be out and not everyone is safe to be out around.

There is a misnomer that “the closet” inherently means “doesn’t know they’re queer” and not “isn’t out widely and publicly.” “Outness” is often a patchwork.

gragam

why is a lesbian flag fine but a gay men flag isn't? genuine question

because the lesbian flag was made as a statement to empower women who felt underserved by the lgbt community. the toothpaste flag was made because a certain subset of gay men who are otherwise universally catered to in lgbt spaces couldnt stand to share the rainbow flag with the rest of the community and decided to remake the lesbian flag For Boys. its reactionary and misogynistic which is not really surprising coming from gay men but frustrating nonetheless

If yall are gonna dog on "blue for boys" gay man flag you might as well go after the bisexual and trans flags for also having "blue for boys and pink for girls" stripes.

ovineweaver

nomi the gay man flag is green and the lesbian flag is orange is there even any blue or pink on either

?????

ovineweaver

BLEHH IM SOTRRTYI SIGEJRG IO REAIZED MY MISTAKE GRAHHHH

#prev i used to care a lot abour flag discourse #but like. theres so much worse shit gay men say/do to lesbians.#not to mention the hypocrisy of ignoring the B and T flags for doing the exact same color thing #it's the same energy as someone accusing someone else of ripping off a famous artists style #you don't own a style. lesbians don't own a stripe pattern.#nomiposting

You are totally all good twin 😭😭😭 I was just confused

gragam

why is a lesbian flag fine but a gay men flag isn't? genuine question

If yall are gonna dog on "blue for boys" gay man flag you might as well go after the bisexual and trans flags for also having "blue for boys and pink for girls" stripes.

ovineweaver

nomi the gay man flag is green and the lesbian flag is orange is there even any blue or pink on either

#nomiposting #you could argue that the lesbian flag ones are purplish but theyre on the pink side

?????

gragam

why is a lesbian flag fine but a gay men flag isn't? genuine question