the mean lesbian tumblr warned you about

Nomi/Nometa. 25. She/Her.

[gnometa233]

[rocketsaurus]

Curious what is actually normal for bed time. Go for your normal/average time, not your most extreme or what you wish it was.

what time do you go to bed? (local time)

7pm or before

8pm

9pm

10pm

11pm

12am

1am

2am or after

it's never consistent

some other time entirely

Remaining time: 5 days 15 hours

I just don't know what grownups do for bedtime and I want to know!!!

[gnometa233]

Hey, Nomi :)

I just wanted to say happy pride and that I hope you're having a great month :D

HAPPY PRIDE TWIN ILY SO MUCH AND I HOPE ITS GOING WELL FOR YOU TOO

[raibura]

It doesn't make sense that fandom people on here call people "Christian" for hating villains and redemption arcs. Literally all Christians are like "Tommy, I don't fucking care that your uncle beat your mom into a coma and tried to murder your dad! He is a man of Christ! So if you don't forgive him, you're gonna burn in HELL!"

Consensus

Agree

Disagree

Remaining time: 2 days 17 hours

[uptownthots]

crazy how many people legitimately don't think misogyny is like an actual form of bigotry lmfao

[uptownthots]

no actually one of the lesser known things about misogyny is that it is a real form of bigotry and therefore exists in real everyday life

[jerreeeeeee]

not every mutual fits neatly into an archetypal medievalism but there are some mutuals that im like yeah addressing you as “my liege” would come strangely naturally

[jerreeeeeee]

what mutual is prev

my liege lord

my loyal knight

my wise wizard

my evil advisor

my brother in arms

my lady muse

my wild mermaid friend

my fellow alchemist

my dashing rapscallion

my monstrous foe

Remaining time: 2 days 19 hours

[calamity-corner]

"a woman who's willing to fuck men is actually more queer than a lesbian" actually i think you just hate women

[calamity-corner]

i'm not interested in making space for trans men in lesbianism. there's no reason they have to suddenly give up their lesbian friends, their "community", but Lesbians do not need to make a special little bioessentialist seat at the table for straight men. it does not ever need to happen. this shit pisses me off so bad

[calamity-corner]

yknow what post i hate? that post about how "sometimes a dyke will mistake a twink for another dyke and vice versa and they'll make out and it's not actually straight it's Extra Special Queer, even more Queer than usual!" no what you just described is at best a silly mistake. it's not More Queer for a lesbian to make out with twinks. it's not Extra Special 5D Gender Chess for a lesbian to kiss a man. why are you so obsessed with making sure every lesbian knows she should really kiss men? why is making straightness Queer the hill you want to die on? why do you hate lesbians so bad

[r0zeclawz]

god adoptables really are the funniest fucking thing the more i think about them. imagine youre so excited to get a character and draw them so good with all your ocs but someone else wins the bid and proceeds to only do shitty ms paint drawings of them smoking fat joints

[lowhitpointspuppyplagueharpylady]

Noooo,, n-n... no, no no no, noooo..... can you? No, I-I don't think so, no, that, that can't be possible.

[r0zeclawz]

i tried once and thorns of dark force materialized agonizingly around my wrist

[r0zeclawz]

we gotta save these kids from copyright furry hell this cant continue. its just no good

[princesafemme]

BA BUM TIME TO POST ABOUT MY SHITTY EX FORMALLY KNOWN AS @/redactedbutch SINCE THEY DEACTIVATED THEIR TUMBLR AND NO LONGER IDENTIFY AS A BUTCH LESBIAN AND DETRANSITIONED AND NOW ARE ON TIKTOK SPEWING NONSENSE AND ARE ESSENTIALLY BEING A WOMAN HATER! (also i made this list a long time ago and at the time i used he/him pronouns for this person bc thats what they were most comfy with and they now identify as a man but the last pronouns i know they used for sure was she/her and we do not purposely misgender anyone so please be aware of that when reading this!)

things he lied about

- soft daddy dom

- didn’t tell me about talking to (groomed) a 19 year old when he was 31 and made my friend promise not to tell anyone

- possibly cheated/planned to cheat (made a dating profile the day before i broke up with him) (reblogged other femmes content with the tags openly admitting to being happy he could /now/ reblog the content he’s seen before) while actively trying to make me jealous throughout our relationship and needed reassurance that i didn’t romantically like my butch friends

- misrepresented the couple that let him live with them for free for over a year

- has a pattern of talking to femmes/lesbians/women under 25 but has claimed he won’t date under 30 (anymore)

shitty things he did (to me personally)

- infantilized me

- sexualized my enjoyment of girly/childhood things and activities

- pushed being yandere onto me and made me think it was a compliment

- told me i was a lesbian femcel and tried to convince me it was a compliment (then made a post bashing femcels post breakup)

- tried to coerce me and my best friend into a throuple/make us fight over him

- loved our age gap/made me write an essay about why i liked our age gap and send it to him

- when watching a movie together and complaining about it for half of it turned it off before it ended (without asking me) and when i asked him a question told me to google it myself and that he was done but then randomly decided to turn the movie back on after continuing to complain about it

- claimed that femmes who were just talking to him were trying to take advantage of him

- made me feel shitty about being femme4femme/not exclusively femme4butch

- casually extremely fatphobic (especially towards femmes) complimented me by putting others(fat femmes) down regarding weight

- convinced me to be his domme when i have 0 experience and said multiple times that i never wanted too (and said he didn’t want to be my Dom because he said he didn’t feel ready/didn’t want that until we were in person)

- was weirdly sexual about my virginity

- used language for my genitalia i wasn’t comfortable with and told him about multiple times

- ran through my entire friend group

- lied to my friend about conversations we didn’t have to make things sound better than they were (didn’t know about this until post breakup)

- pressured me into telling my parents about him and letting him come visit

- pushed my boundaries over and over again

- got mad at me when i told him i didn’t wanna have a phone call one night and called me over and over and said he was gonna stay on the line even if i didn’t answer until it hung up manually and when i got upset he convinced me it was my fault and our phone calls soothed him so i was the bad guy

- got mad at me when i said i didn’t want to live together immediately/didn’t want to ask my parents if he could live with us and talked to me harshly over the phone until 3am because “it was my idea in the first place so what was he supposed to do now” and got upset when i went nonverbal

- made me feel like shit when i wanted his attention at night bc i was keeping him up too late and not respecting the fact that he had to work but night time was the time we got to talk without interruptions and it was only okay to want my attention but not for me to want his attention

- told me i had to tell him whenever i made a new friend

- got mad at me for teasing him about silly small things because it was ‘triggering’ for him

- got mad at me when i fell asleep during one of his favorite movies because “i needed to watch it so i could understand his feelings about me not wanting to live together right away” and harshly said my name over and over to wake me up to tell me that and got more upset when i kept drifting off

- always told me how proud he was about how not weird i am about the trans community especially trans women and once told me i have “Tgirl swag” only to then make a post calling me transmisogynistic post breakup

- tried to isolate me from everyone but him

- talked shit about my parents and texted me “fuck him, fuck her, fuck them” etc. when i gently told him my parents concerns about him and i’s relationship

- tried to use me for financial gain/wanted to marry me in secret (told me we could hide it from my family because he knew they would never allow that) just to get ssvf/government assistance

- sent me hardcore straight porn constantly (after convincing me to have PiV sex with him when we were ready in the future and me agreeing but only if it was always gentle and loving because the idea alone was scary to me, and having to reassure him that he wasn’t a monster for wanting that with me and him agreeing that it would never be anything but gentle and loving)

- tried to get me to send nudes that i wasn’t comfortable sending

- constantly tried to make all calls sexual even when he knew i wasn’t alone in my house

- called me at like 7am sobbing and yelled at me over something that wasn’t my control because i wasn’t trying to fix it for him (fixed it for him by letting him use my credit card 🥰)

- told my friend i was upset that my dog died because my dog reminded me of him (not true and i was just sad because my dog fucking died)

- got angry with me because i expressed i was upset with him for continuing to joke about vaping when he expressed multiple times that he quit and threw a huge fit about it and when i asked for space continued to message me and got even angrier when i asked for space again because he kept messaging me (and then after breaking up with him made a post about continuing to vape) (and while i was taking space made multiple manipulative posts on tumblr to try to get me to message him back)

- has made insane posts about me/directly lied about me and continues too ‘vaguepost’ about me

- tried to convince me that i scared him when i asserted boundaries that he didn’t listen to and that i held all the power in our relationship and he was a helpless street puppy

- asked me to stop asking about marriage and kids because it stressed him out because of financials (but has a pregnancy kink)

- told me on multiple occasions about how he likes to yell when he’s angry and has to resist the urge to punch things and proceed to tell me we would never have a house full of anger and he would never yell around me

- told me to stop asking how i could help him when he was having a bad day and to only ask if i could help if it was materialistically (send him money)

- tried to convince me he never asked for anything from me especially money (once told me i was gonna have to keep paying something monthly (before he had a job but was still living for free at a couples home) for him and i told him i couldn’t because i don’t have an income)

- made me feel like shit in general over financials even though i can’t work because of my disabilities

- told me that i’d have to find him an apartment before he moved down here and he’d send me the money but i’d have to do all the work for it even though i have 0 experience doing that and don’t drive often

- constantly told me “i’m doing all of this for you” especially if i was ever sad and talked about missing him (then made posts, post breakup about how i was controlling)

- after breaking up with him and asking if we could remain friends because i was scared of what he would do if i cut him off completely, sent me multiple messages about how he wasn’t going to give up and still do all the plans we made (still move to GA) even though i told him i didn’t want him to do that (and essentially admitted that he was going to stalk me)

- had eyes on other femmes before and during our entire relationship

andddd this is all things they did to me PERSONALLY i know a lot more of what they have done but i am tired of being afraid of talking about my personal experiences with this person because im genuinely scared of them as a person and although they don’t currently have a big following on their other social media they do spew genuine nonsense and vague post about me and others so its my turn to speak my truth.

[pinkcarabiner]

Belle, I am so beyond proud of you for posting this. I love you so much and your friendship is one of the most important things in the world to me.

Like Belle has stated, Ivy's pronouns are unclear at this time so I will be using they/them. l do not tolerate transmisogyny and my experience with this individual may not be used to justify any transphobia. For some context, Ivy groomed and manipulated me into a kink dynamic I did not want to be in when I was 23. Ivy took advantage of me during one of the most vulnerable times in my life and consistently weaponized their marginalization any time I tried to establish a boundary. This included rejecting their sexual advances or me asking them to not blow up my phone while at work.

For years, I have been trying to keep this situation offline, but if you're going to start posting about how you're a misogynist and all women do is use you or whatever, I will set the facts straight. Ivy used femmes for free housing (for a year), food, hygiene products, clothing, money, and emotional support. The housing situation is not my story to share, but I will say that trashing the room you're given to live in for free is vile behavior.

I could spend hours listing out things that Ivy has done/said to me, but I don't want this addition to be a novel so here are the highlights

lied about their ethnicity and religion (claimed to be Jewish and mixed, they are very white and not jewish)

blamed sliding into the dms of a 19 year old on heavy surgery meds (idk I did some ridiculous things when I had a literal brain injury but it surely did not make me start messaging teenagers)

made up reasons to make me unfollow butch mutuals (I truly believe it all had to do with the fact that the butches in question were "conventionally attractive." If you were affected by this, I am sorry. One of the butches in the question is now a great friend of mine and at least took it as a compliment when I brought it up)

pushed hard kinks onto me without prior discussion or consent

drove several people off tumblr with their ridiculous behavior, then blamed it off me

Obviously not all age gaps are inherently problematic, but I specifically encourage younger lesbians (late teens/early 20s) to at least be wary of potential partners who are much older than them w a history of dating younger.

Anyway, I've dedicated the last three years of my life to therapy, healing, moving on, and solidifying my femme friendships (I love the two of you who went through this with me plus the wonderful butch who shared a home with Ivy).

EDIT: for some clarity, any time I had previously set a boundary with Ivy, they got angry and blew up on me as well as those they lived with. For their safety as well as my own, I tolerated behavior I was not comfortable with.

[clonerightsagenda]

I think this is just a trend everywhere but I've been very frustrated this week by how much admin work is being outsourced to me as the patient/customer.

My orthodontist tells me I can make an appointment with the surgeon. I call the surgeon. They tell me I need a new referral. I call the orthodontist. They do a referral. I call the surgeon. Referral didn't come through. They tell me about their special unique system we have to use. I call the ortho again and walk them through the referral. I call the surgeon. They say the referral was missing some details so they have to do it again. I call the ortho.

The insurance company calls me about repair shops. I give them the name of the repair shop which I already gave them yesterday. They say they're not in their system but I can use them, but I have to call the repair shop to ask them to contact the insurance company. I call the repair shop and they say the insurance company is supposed to email them.

I feel like at a certain point these constant fetch quests become unreasonable?? Is it too much to expect these groups to communicate with each other instead of making me run back and forth between them???

[clonerightsagenda]

Made this post and then the new property manager (who started on Monday and only finally emailed us today because I sent a vaguely professionally hostile email to her boss because I hadn't heard anything and was not convinced she existed) asked for a list of open action items which her predecessor should have had but apparently wasn't keeping track of, which I learned when I met her boss and provided her with the list of open action items, which I guess tragically died in a fire in the last 2 weeks since she was sitting at my kitchen table, being menaced by the skull. How many people's jobs am I doing now

[hlahlahlahlahly]

Executive Function Theft

The phrase arrived in my head so completely formed and concrete that I couldn’t believe it wasn’t already established in the lexicon, but at

[clonerightsagenda]

It has a name!!!

[blogfamousturtlecollector]

Damn, it's not that people are too conservative and against women wearing revealing clothes (although in shows like this, for some reason, only certain body types of women are allowed to wear revealing clothes), but it's about having a place and time for everything. They're not just relaxing on the beach; Kit and Miss Information are on a mission, and they've chosen the most uncomfortable and inappropriate outfits for it.

No one objected to Ragatha and Pomni's outfits in the beach scenes, and no one accused them of fan service, because it was appropriate, unlike GAMEOVERSE, where everything is designed to appeal to the most disgusting fan base.

[toy-of-me]

Hate when men use feminism and leftist beliefs to objectify women. Like that’s the craziest uno reverse psychology ever.

“Actually, woman, you not wanting this warrior to be in swimwear that shows off her conventional hour glass body is you being conservative and wanting to censor people. You are spreading fascist rhetoric while we are sexually liberating all women!….. As long as they’re not fat, tall, too skinny, too dark, don’t have straight hair-”

Mfs be like “What about crab girl?”

Like bruh so I’m either gooner bait or I’m not human at all. Like damnnnnnnnn. The two kinds of women, hour glass figure women with big tiddies or a fucking crab 😭 The bar is in hell

[suchusoid]

Oh my god yes thank you!

Sadly gameoverse isn't the only example of this kind of "faux feminism" used to justify constant fanservice.

I actually saw people compairng the summer skins for the female characters of marvel rivals to the womens rights movement.

I wish I was making that up

[gh0stinangels]

and for the lady, perhaps a clingy butch ?

[pinkcarabiner]

When reading/referencing lesbian history, I think some people tend to miss important historical context and do not account for how language and identities have naturally evolved over time. I think some people tend to get caught up in "well in Stone Butch Blues" in a way that lacks nuance and cultural understanding. For example, butch and femme are no longer direct indicators of someone's preference in the bedroom, and bisexuality is now recognized as a unique and independent identity. Adhering to strict 1950s definitions limits the complexity of real people's lived experiences. Does this mean that historical works are not important? Absolutely not, but I think people need to consider greater context before they start citing sources with no nuance on posts they disagree with.

[roadhogsbigbelly]

the thing is i don't think white queer creators should be exempt from being criticize for being anti-black or racist in general, but it is noticeable how cishet and/or male creators like hotdiggetydemon or zach hadel who have made more explictly racist jokes/art kind of avoid receiving any kind of criticism because they cultivated an audience that genuinely does not give a shit.

[roadhogsbigbelly]

i saw someone with a family guy profile pic go "i can't believe you guys are still watching tadc don't you know gooseworx is problematic" and it's like. does seth mcfarlane not also make jokes about pedophile, or jokes about black people or trans women. i think american dad is funny but it feels like seth mcfarlane has kind avoided having to repent for his sins because he's 52 and doesn't have a bluesky account.

[suckling-pig]

[bees-with-swords]

"Do you ever dream of land?" The whale asks the tuna.

"No." Says the tuna, "Do you?"

"I have never seen it." Says the whale, "but deep in my body, I remember it."

"Why do you care," says the tuna, "if you will never see it."

"There are bones in my body built to walk through the forests and the mountains." Says the whale.

"They will disappear." Says the tuna, "one day, your body will forget the forests and the mountains."

"Maybe I don't want to forget," Says the whale, "The forests were once my home."

"I have seen the forests." Whispers the salmon, almost to itself.

"Tell me what you have seen," says the whale.

"The forests spawned me." Says the salmon. "They sent me to the ocean to grow. When I am fat with the bounty of the ocean, I will bring it home."

"Why would the forests seek the bounty of the oceans?" Asks the whale. "They have bounty of their own."

"You forget," says the salmon, "That the oceans were once their home."

[hearnoweevil]

Last year I finally had an excuse to illustrate this simple little Tumblr story I've had bookmarked forever for class.

I hope you like it :]

[zmpl]

gen z new yorker: hey i’m gooning here!

millennial new yorker: hey i’m fapping here!

brony new yorker: hey i’m clopping here!

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