how i became a pro at manifesting relationships
hello! i started consciously manifesting about 6 years ago, here’s everything i learned since then and the mistakes i made in the beginning that i now avoid, i hope this helps you :)
you are constantly manifesting, you have been since the day you could form conscious thoughts, up until this very second, we are all unconsciously manifesting 24/7, knowing this, we know that all of the tools used to manifest that are so popular online (affirmations, scripting, visualizing, etc) are good tools that can help you get in the mindset you need to be in to consciously manifest, but these aren’t required. you manifested successfully before you knew about these tools, you can also manifest successfully without them.
as a 14 year old girl who had issues with self esteem and self worth, i did what many did, i clung onto a situationship with a guy who probably didn’t even wash his socks, i based my own validation on wether or not he texted me, what he would say, how often we would hang out, etc. this relationship would end up going on for a few years, and it was very on and off.
during one of the first times we were broken up, i learned about manifesting through the internet, and saying i was obsessed would be an understatement, i would constantly script, visualize, affirm, and eventually, with a lot of persisting, i did end up manifesting this man back into my life on multiple occasions.
but each time i would achieve my desire, i found they didn’t last very long until we would once again be on bad terms, so what was the problem?
in my opinion, this is the most important part of manifesting, when i first learned about this, i shrugged it off, i cared more about getting what i wanted as fast as possible, than working on how i view myself, this is the REASON why my manifestations didn’t last, this is the REASON why i always found myself sitting in my bed, crying while doing the 369 method 😭
now, i’m 20, and i realize that when i focus on myself first, when i work on me and only me, my manifestations actually come quicker! i went from waiting months to hear back from my chosen sp, to waiting less than a week for my new one to reach out after a short period of no contact.
so yes, you can successfully manifest without working on your self concept, but if you want to keep your manifestation long term, it is crucial to look at the beliefs you have about yourself.
when you think about yourself and your view of relationships, do you see yourself as someone who always has luck in relationships, do you see yourself as someone who’s always chosen and loved unconditionally?
or do you feel the opposite? you might think things like “my relationships never last” “everyone always leaves” or “i’m not good enough to be in a relationship”
these thoughts are harming you, and your ability to effectively and efficiently manifest your desires, you might think the same as i used to, you might feel like you have no time to work on self concept, and that you need your desire right now, i’m here to say with certainty, there is always time, there is no rush, because you can change everything in an instant, regardless of your circumstances, but you need to let yourself believe you’re capable of it first.
this is the most simple part, here is an exercise that i find is very helpful.
first, write down every positive thing you desire from your sp, are they kind? considerate? loving?
after you finish this list, take a good look at everything you’ve written down,
then finally, give yourself all those things.
be considerate of yourself, take care of your mind and body, be kind to yourself, practice affirmations that are solely focused on you, say them in the mirror everyday, and most importantly, love yourself, practice self love every day, you deserve the attention you’re giving to yourself because you’re wonderful :)
the most simple explanation is that the universe is always mirroring you, all the love you give yourself will come back in the form of your manifestation, this also helps with living in the end, as you’ll feel as though you’re receiving the things you desire when you focus on giving them to yourself, practice this every day, and your desires will arrive
