queer joy

Griffin • they/nhw/he• share with me your happiness

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hi there! my name is Griffin, and you may know me from @notabled-noodle or @scrupulosity-et-al

this blog is here for sharing and discussing queer joys — things you like about being queer, things you’ve learnt from the queer community, or just something nice that’s happened to you

I want to hear anything from the tiny things to the massive life changing things! anything at all! being queer can be hard, but I think sometimes we focus too much on the suffering and that sometimes we need to remember that there is joy out there

I am an intersex multigender arospec lesbian, so this blog is not for discourse about queer identities. it’s for joy only, thanks

posts will be tagged “__ joy” according to which identity they apply to

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i told my mom that i don't like shopping with her because she always shops for herself instead of me. because of that, i don't actually know how to shop for myself or what "my style" even is, so she offered to hire a personal stylist/consultant to help me find what i like and actually want to wear.

that’s so cool! I’m so happy for you that you’re getting the chance to explore your own style a bit more, and I hope you find many cool things to wear!

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I cut my own hair recently. Its a choppy wolf cut with a shit ton split ends, my bleached ends are all grown out, and it makes me indescribably happy. I've finally let go of being a "pretty girl" that society wants. I dress badly- I make my own fingerless gloves out of old socks, I wear basketball shorts no matter the weather, and keep my smudged uneven eyeliner. I am weird looking but very pretty boy. I might not be totally there, but I am happier than I've been. So much happier.

that is such an important moment in a queer person’s life, and I’m glad you’ve been able to experience it recently! a haircut and letting go of “pretty girl” narratives really can be so so freeing

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Oh oh also i love stupid little pride stickers on my iPad makes me so happy

same hat! I have so many queer stickers on my laptop, and they bring me so much joy whenever I look at it

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told my friend i was aroallo and she was cool!

woooo! that’s great!

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i love placing rainbow and trans stickers everywhere and spreading a little queer positivity everywhere (and replacing them everytime they're ripped!!)

love that! you’re out here doing good work :D

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I find much joy in my url

It’s like so perfect cuz of its 2 possible meanings

1. I Stan dadwin being aroace

2. I am an aroace Stan of dadwin

Most of the time it’s the former but sometimes it’s the latter (the term aroace usually gives me bad vibes for some reason)

So like my url can serve 2 purposes depending on whether I feel queer/unlabeled fits me better or the term aro/ace

haha that’s awesome!

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queer joy is my sapphic trio of friends. the way we're all able to discuss our ideas of identity with each other and talk at liberty on the complexities of the poc sapphic experience knowing that even though our experiences differ, we all still learn and understand from each other and I think that's beautiful. Sapphic joy is having them in my life.

oh that’s amazing! I’m glad for you that you have those people in your life, and I hope they continue to give you joy for a long time yet

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trans joy: gender collective programs that provide free gender-affirming gear… they are out here doing glorious work

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I was talking to my friend about gender and shit and she said "I feel like a woman in every other context but when I'm attracted to a woman it's in a man way" and then I said "I feel like a man in other contexts but when I'm attracted to a woman it's in a lesbian woman way" and then we high-fived.

this is it. this is sapphic culture exactly, I’m so glad you and your friend were able to have that moment

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I love being able to be comfortably out as even a little queer it just makes me so happy i can do that even if it’s not the full story

yes! I’m so happy for you that you’re able to start to be open about your identity!

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Granted I'm still new to terms, but I was able to find both a shirt perfect for my butchy femme days and my masc/soft butch days which makes me so happy now that I have more things that actually fit me (in the gender/gnc sense)!!

that’s great! a good outfit can contribute to my happiness so much

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Queer joy is finding a pin your friend really wanted (but couldn't find) and mailing it to them as a surprise, and their absolute EXCITEMENT about getting it

that's great, and such a lovely thing to do! I hope your friend enjoys their pin!

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School started earlier this week, this year I'm going to an alternative school made for disabled students. It's very small with a maximum of 140 students on campus. I was scared that I would be the only trans person but in my first period of the day on the first day of school, I saw multiple visibly queer people (codes, pride pins, etc). During the second period, a non binary person asked me for my number. My art teacher is genderqueer.

I could not be more happy. There is finally an IRL place for me where disability and queerness intersect, and I do not have to choose between the two communities :,)

that's incredible! I love that you've found a place where you feel seen and like you belong. it's so rare to be able to find a place like that, and to find it at a school is just amazing. I hope it continues to be a great place for you to be

I'm really happy for you, and I wish you all the best with school this year!

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The strap for my bass guitar is the pride flag!! Queer joy whenever I play it :D (it’s just the basic six-stripe one)

that’s so cool! it sounds very funky, and very joyous

I’d also like to take this opportunity to send a shoutout to musical queers, you guys are doing great work!

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okay i’ll say it.

sometimes queer joy is queer cringe—to you. just like virtually all concepts, “cringe” is in the eye of the beholder. sometimes the way other queer people express themselves escapes you bc of a variety of differences between you and them. age, experience, ethnicity, region, religion, ability, etc. but ultimately, they are queer and so are you. do not put them down.

i don’t care how stupid you think their little tv show or mannerisms or pride merch or lingo or pronouns or whatever is/are. we are all queer in our own ways. i’ll admit, even i’ve criticized other queer people for, idk, projecting onto spn men or smthn. but whatever! let them! let them experience their own queer joy in their own joyful queer bubble! i do things as a result of my queerness that others might find ridiculous and “cringe” too!

we need a kinder experience. everyone else is already so mean, so we should be able to exist peacefully in a community. if they are not hurting anybody, leave them alone. celebrate all queerness, even if it isn’t your idea of it!! :)

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my older sister picked up a pronoun pin for me at an event she was at this week. yeah, it had the wrong pronouns on it, but she’s got the spirit