#ace joy

[umbrecrunch]

hi : ) can i request an ace/asexual joy flag based on your butch joy flag? please and thank you in advance!

asexual joy / ace joy

a term for asexuals who find themselves to be more joyful, excited and happy when they figured out they are ace! asexuals who are joyful, whimsical, full of excitement and happiness! no wrong way to use this:)) happy asexuals !!

[our-queer-experience]

being asexual feels freeing. I want to scream it from the rooftops. I Don't Want Sex. I hate sex! I hate it and I'm never having it! Ever! and obviously it's all good to people who DO like it. It's just ... I've felt so wrong and horrid for not wanting it but I finally have the words to explain why. I know that I don't owe anyone anything. again, to those who DO like sex, y'all are awesome! practice safe sex and all that, have fun with whatever you do. This ain't me ragging on y'all. This is me just being so happy that I got the words to say what I am, who I am. I'm asexual and proud. I don't want sex. I hate sex. I'm never having sex. I Don't Want Sex and that's OKAY!

<3

[ratzmatazz]

Hi, I'm here for the soup and knitted mushrooms? Here's my aroace card [a badge I made myself out of air dry clay]

More seriously yeah it's always about missing out on X Y Z and not like, how freeing it can be to realise you don't have to force yourself to do things you don't want. That's a bit personal but like, while I struggled to come to terms with being aro, I had the realisation that - I've had my own room since I was like 12, and I really love that, having a space that is entirely my own, mine to live in and decorate, that other people have to be explicitly invited to before they come in, where I can do whatever I want, and the general practice is that once you date someone you sleep in the same bed and share the same bedroom, which sounds atrocious if it's not temporary. I can't imagine not having my own dedicated space and I know it's small but being aro just frees me from that stress, and that just made it all better when I was struggling with it. There's all the loss and the difference, yes, but there's also the joy and the freedom, and every time I see people being aspec and happy it warms my heart. That was for the uh aspec positivity, a tangible little thing I personally love, since yeah feeling down about it gets depressing real quick. Good day to you!

A) I love you, 100% I will send you mushrooms and soup

B) you’re so correct and it’s so true !!! It’s so genuinely freeing to realize you don’t have to keep forcing yourself to be uncomfortable.

Tbh the best analogy I have is like realizing you don’t have to keep watering a plastic plant. Those background programs running in your brain telling you to keep putting energy into trying to get this plant to thrive and forcing yourself to see signs of growth gets to turn off, and you realize how much energy you’ve been putting into an outcome that was never going to happen. And that sense of responsibility falls away to the realization of “well, what do I do now.”

Like idk realizing I was ace let me explore so much more of myself and my relationships bc I wasn’t stuck on step one of “am I into this person”. And it means I can see them and myself more accurately. There’s real, tangible freedom in being ace, and I want everyone to realize that, especially questioning ace ppl.

[theridgebeyond]

Starting Ace Week 2021 off right by watching The Green Bean Podcast by one of my favorite ace artists, Katie Green.

Katie made a comic about asexual joy that continues to clear my skin and water my crops.

[our-queer-experience]

Asexual is freeing fr, like I can have sex, I can want it, but I’m also perfectly fine with it being nonexistent in my life!! Like yeah that sex stuff is fun but we can do more things!! We can spend our energy on more things and that means more to me!!

<333

[ayronaught]

The fun thing about my current situation is that because I'm arospec-ace and straight (attracted to girls) is that the girl I have a platonic crush on is very likely to move in with me when we're in our 20s because she doesn't ever want to get married and I don't think I want romantic relationships. So we can just be two people living together like a beautiful aroace platonic couple.

[queer-joy]

I find much joy in my url

It’s like so perfect cuz of its 2 possible meanings

1. I Stan dadwin being aroace

2. I am an aroace Stan of dadwin

Most of the time it’s the former but sometimes it’s the latter (the term aroace usually gives me bad vibes for some reason)

So like my url can serve 2 purposes depending on whether I feel queer/unlabeled fits me better or the term aro/ace

haha that’s awesome!

[sadmushroomgoblin]

I don’t think we talk about the sheer joy of being ace enough. Like, sure the culture sucks with a sexuality but think on this:

For me, realising I was ace was a “thank the mushrooms” moment and hell, I didn’t even realise sexual attraction was a physical thing until I had a friend mention it… 

Basically, I love being ace and we need more stories with ace being being joyful and our purest chaotic selves