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she/her | 22 | ace this blog is dedicated to anything queer that i read/watch

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Hearthbreak High

This series means so much to me for so many different reasons, but the biggest is definitely the character of Cash. Never have I seen a main character I could relate to more. He is the first fully fleshed out asexual character in a leading role in a big Netflix show. That is huge.

He is also not aromantic which is usually how asexuals are represented (in the very few instances that we are represented). Aroace characters are important of course but that is not the entirety of the ace spectum.

The complicated feelings of wanting love and wanting to be in a relationship with someone but not wanting to engage in sexual acts is a difficult thing to come to terms with. We have always been conditioned to believe that romantic relationships and sex go hand in hand and that you can't have one without the other. It makes us believe that we'll never find someone who's willing to "settle" for us because they'll have to sacrifice something so fundamental as physical intimacy and sex.

Cash and Darren are therefore a breath of fresh air. While their relationship is complicated, both are determined to make it work - because they love each other. That is what's important to them. Love. While they have very different feelings towards sex and physical intimacy, that ultimately comes second.

Many people believe that an allo-ace relationship is doomed because of the difference in attitude towards sex, but this show wants to challenge that belief. We are not destined to be alone. We can love and we can find people who can love us back.

Anyway, I love Cash so much and I will fight anyone that says anything even remotely bad about him.