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Lan|18|asian|unlabled|autistic|he/she| personal: @adorableadorer **not active/posting anymore, but a main still**

[sweetpeauserboxes]

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[dadstielkline]

fun facts about sharks

[bisexuel]

lesbians and bisexuals 🤗

[bisexuel]

!!!!! :)

[naramdil]

i hate when girls feel dumb for trying to see the best in people and then end up hurt or disappointed like no!! it’s those people that were dumb for misleading you. they took advantage of your kindness and generosity, and they’ll rot for it 

[ordenna-deactivated20181024]

tbh the real advice I’d give to anyone is, do shit alone. go to a museum & go at your own pace & leave the instant you’re done. go somewhere you’ve never been and just wander around, duck into & out of places as it pleases you. linger as long as you’d like.

[lblis-remade-deactivated2019111]

white gays pipe the fuck down challenge! 

the lack of qpoc movies is astounding. this is a small list but i have searched for these movies from everywhere i could possibly, and watching them is a bigger dilemma. please add onto this list, especially the mlm section. 

[ note that i only exclusively watch wlw movies being a brown nb lesbian so im a bit lacking in the mlm movie recs ]

wlw movies

Rafiki | kenyen wlw

The Watermelon Woman | black lesbian

The Journey  | tamil wlw

Fire | indian wlw

Circumstance |  iranian wlw

 Caramel | lebanese wlw

Pariah | black lesbian

Yes or No & Yes or no 2 : Come Back | thai wlw

Saving face | chinese lesbians

Mosquita Y Mari | mexican wlw

The World Unseen | indian wlw

Margarita With A Straw | indian wlw

Appropriate Behavior | iranian wlw [ in relationship w a white wlw ]

The Secrets | israeli wlw

Spider Lilies | taiwanese wlw

I Can’t Think Straight | brown wlw

The Handmaiden | korean wlw

honorary mentions cause white women :shruggos: : 

thelma [ brown wlw is the love interest ]-itty bitty titty committee [ brown wlw ] - mystère à la tour eiffel [ black wlw ] - a perfect ending [ brown wlw ]

mlm movies

[ note that i haven't seen half of these movies ]

Mondial 2010 | lebanese mlm

Jumping The Broom | black mlm 

Blackbird | black gay

Mixed Kabab | turkish gay

The Last Match | spanish mlm  [ VERY TRIGGERING CONTENT ]

La Mission | latino gay

The Blue Hour | thai mlm

Fifi Howls From Happiness | iranian gay

Philadelphia | black gay

Moonlight | black mlm

[jewfrogs]

here are a few more movies!

The Way He Looks | portuguese mlm

Esteros | latino mlm

Hidden Away | spanish and moroccan mlm

Naz & Maalik | black muslim gay

Lilting | chinese-cambodian mlm

Eat With Me | chinese mlm

Love’s Coming | thai mlm

Spa Night | korean gay

Drifting Flowers | taiwanese lesbians

Schoolgirl Complex | japanese wlw

Miao Miao | chinese wlw

Baka Bukas | filipino wlw

A Girl at My Door | korean wlw [trigger warning for abuse]

The Chinese Botanist’s Daughters | chinese wlw

Being 17 | black mlm [in a relationship with a white mlm]

Akron | latino gay [in a relationship with a white mlm]

Drool | mexican and black wlw [trigger warning for abuse and murder]

The Incredibly True Adventure of Two Girls in Love | black wlw [in a relationship with a white lesbian]

[sunshakes]

some (e) asian ones:

Our Love Story | korean wlw

Blue Gate Crossing | taiwanese wlw

Butterfly | chinese wlw

Topless | japanese wlw

Kakera: A Piece of Our Life | japanese wlw

Murmur of Youth | taiwanese wlw

Love My Life | japanese wlw

Girl’s Blood | japanese wlw

Helter Skelter | japanese wlw

note that i’ve only seen our love story so i can’t attest to the quality (or lack thereof) of any of these

[totally-sapphic-posts]

I want to sit on the couch with your head in my lap and my fingers running through your hair, while you tell me about everything that’s on your mind

[queerism1969]

[acelessthan3]

While I enjoy a good polycule joke and will read fluffy daydreams of stable, supportive throuples/triads.

I want to be explicitly clear that I also support you if your polyamory looks different than that.

I see you solopoly folks maintaining your independence while engaging in a variety of relationships.

The metamours that barely know each other let alone frequently enter the same spaces together.

The closed-again relationships that are nurturing their own growth before maybe opening again later down the road.

The swingers and only sexually open couples.

And for all you young folks exploring polyamory, remember that at it's core, polyamory and ethical non-monogamy is defining your relationship(s) as the dynamic and sometimes-fleeting connections that they are and not having to rely on the cultural narratives around what a relationship looks like and how it develops. There is no one right way to be polyamorous as long as everyone involved is informed and consenting, so if you don't want to settle into a long-term throuple, that's okay!

Create the relationships you want.

[queerism1969]

[fagesque]

remember that if you're allosexual and demi- or greyromantic, or something in that vein, you do not have to wait until you feel romantic attraction to have a sexual relationship with someone. it's your choice, and you shouldn't feel guilty if you pursue any kind of nontraditional relationship.

[arospecvibes]

you say to aromantics that the phrase “just friends” isn’t bad because it’s pointing out the absence of romance, or that it’s not that deep, but have y’all ever heard anyone say that they’re not friends and “just dating”? yeah no. so maybe just shut the fuck up then

[arospec-daybook]

People should stop assuming that everyone draws the same line between friendship and romance. The list of what is 'acceptable' and 'unacceptable' to do in friendships should only exist for people who decide to set those boundaries for themselves, not for everyone else to feel obligated to use it and blindly apply those rules to their own friendships. Everyone should have the freedom of building their friendships in a way that makes them happy and fulfilled and no one should have a say in it except the people involved in that friendship.

Hugging, cuddling, hand-holding, any form of intimacy, kissing, (platonic) dates, getting married, having sex, sharing the same bed etc. are not the acts exclusively reserved for romantic relationships. Anyone who tells you otherwise is just too used to these acts being classified as romantic and therefore has a hard time believing you would do these things with someone you're 'just friends' with. For this reason, they think they have the right to tease you and convince you that you're just in denial because these should be clear signs you want more than friendship with that person.

The worst thing of all is that they actually say these things with so much confidence and enthusiasm, because they think that you just don't want to admit it or are yet to realise that your feelings are romantic. And again, the reason why they're ever so excited about your feelings possibly being romantic is because, according to them, these feelings are more valuable than anything that they consider platonic feelings to be.

I honestly wish I was exaggerating but I genuinely see people acting this way a bit too often. I haven't personally experienced this but I have still randomly been asked multiple times by my acquaintances if I had a crush on someone and regardless of saying no every time, they would never believe me and try to make me admit it. Whenever I was deep in thought they would ask me if I was in love, I would say no and they would start to tease me again because apparently, no means yes and I'm just too shy to admit it. So even when there is no other person you're acting 'suspicious' with, people would still assume these things and it wouldn't even cross their mind that it's wrong and that it might even make the other person uncomfortable.

No matter what you do, you can't stop people from believing whatever they want to believe. But even though it might be true that many won't respect or understand your relationships, that shouldn't make you change anything about them or yourself to please those people. Don't let them make you doubt yourself or question the validity of your relationships. The things that you know that you want can never be wrong just because others don't also want these things.

Furthermore, whether you want or do not want to do these commonly perceived as romantic acts with your friends, that still isn't what determines the value of that friendship. Doing these acts is not what makes it not 'just friends', it's your appreciation and devotion to that friendship that makes it valuable and worthy of respect. On a side note, having intense and profound feelings for your friends is also not something that necessarily makes your love for them 'more romantic' and you deserve to be respected and believed for that too.

One more important thing I want to mention is that qprs deserve this same respect and are just as likely to be treated as 'not worthy enough' of these acts as they're very often seen as 'just friendship'. People who say this disrespect both friendship and qprs at once - by saying that qprs are no different from friendships, they deny the existence of qprs and believe that they serve no purpose. And by saying 'just friendship' they're implying that both friendships and qprs are, again, less meaningful than romantic relationships. The funny thing is that there is a very important difference between them but many don't care enough to educate themselves and instead just decide to make these comments that make absolutely no sense.

Lastly, I want to mention that all relationships are of equal value. Many people might prefer romantic relationships (with sex or without it), some might prefer purely sexual relationships, some people prefer friendships and some prefer qprs. Some people prefer engaging in polyamory (of whatever kind) and some prefer to not define their relationships. We all have our personal preferences but none of these relationships is inherently superior and should be treated with respect regardless of the ones we personally value and understand the most. Long story short, everyone should have the freedom of creating, defining and prioritizing their own relationships but also be aware that others have just as much of that freedom.

[arospecvibes]

not everything is going to be able to fit into the binary of platonic vs romantic and that’s okay ya know

[polyamorous-intentions]

Adorable poly things

One of my favourite, and adorable, aspects of non-monogamy is metamour interactions. Specifically when they start to pickup little habits of each other. I call these -isms. Little turn of phrases, or body language things. Usually small and mostly humour, but so cute.

Example: Today I made a post linking my wife with a light humoured meme about her introversion. She replied with the typical laughing emojis and a big “Rude!”. She has never done the “rude” before. But it is the normal response for another partner of mine in similar situations.

These little -isms bring me so much joy. The compersion and togetherness it feels to see metamours getting along and adopting each others mannerisms is just too cute.

Side note: watching two partners ignore you to go over makeup and have large discussions on their favourite is amazing.

[evil-dog-girl]

No, not every person is loved in the same way. No, not every crush you experience has the same intensity.

Everyone loves people in different ways and expressions. Feeling this towards (potential) partners is part of the polyamorous experience.

You are not broken for loving someone differently.

[existential-screaming]

I don't get all the secrecy with crushes. Please tell me about how you wanna make out with my boyfriend, i'll be your wingman buddy.