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Hello and welcome to Queer questions & polls

On here i will be running polls for the lgbtqia+ community based on your asks, or you can ask me a question and i will answer to the best of my abilities!

Also if you dont feel comfortable sending in an ask or any other reason feel free to private message me!on here or on @eagans-world which is my main

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In regards to asking me questions:

you may ask me about questions you have in general about the community,

advice with your own exploration in the community

& questions about the categories I fit into &/or how i precive them in regards to myself (listed in the about me section)

Or if you really need you can just rant/vent I'm happy to listen and provide advice if you want it!

Please specify if you intend to ask about me personally or about the community or a mix thx

In regards to anon polls:

Really polls can be anything lgbtqia related from something broad to something specific like some trans experience or something like that.

If you just want me to post a poll and don't want your ask attached please specify that in your ask thank you.

If your poll ask makes me not able to come up with answers for the poll I won't answer it sorry.

Rules:

No homophobia, transphobia or any other kind of discrimination allowed

I'm allowed to refuse your ask

Generally just don't be a jerk

Fandom stuff

About me!

I go by Echo & sometimes mystic online and my irl name is Eagan

I'm a transmasc/demiboy/boyflux & go by he/they currently

I'm into everyone I think, I'm currently in a relationship with a lovely girl!

I'm on the ace spec so feel free to ask about that!

If you would like to know more about me you can follow my main tumblr

@eagans-world

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should i unblock my sperm donner to ask him to disown me?

yes!

No!

wtf would you think that's a good idea???

Voting ended onOct 29, 2025

@purpleblobfrompluto

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I might be here a lot so I'll be 🌆 anon :p

Anywhoooooo

I might b fallin for said bestieeeee idk. This is the same bestie as the bf and bff anon lolz.

Anywhoo.

I was calling bff and I got this fluttery feelings in my stomach I also got for my bf when I first developed a crush but idk.

(this is just an add on to my previous anon sorryyy)

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Your fine! I saw this before i posted your ask dw!

Also do i know you from somewhere? you feel familiar, It's okay if you don't want to answer :]

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Heyyyyyyyyy!

This is more of an advice ask lolz

Tbh I'm having issuesssss. Here's the sitch:

I'm dating a boy I really super like. Like. In love with. I wanna have kids w/ him and have heaps of anniversaries and stuff. To get the idea. I L O V E H I M.

buttttt...

I've had this bestie since I was a kid and *she's the issue*

I luv my bf but if she asked me to kiss her and my bf qas fine with it I would. I used to have a teeny fleeting crush on her but it disappeared (lolz not for long, I think)

And like...I love him but I love her too but idk if it's in a bff way or in a luv way but if it's in a luv way how do I deal W/ this???!!!

I'm panicking!

Ugh, id marry my bf but I'd also make out w/ bff. Idk if my attraction for bff is just sexual tho coz I kinda think ab dating her but also not really? Like...I could date her if bf was fine with it but I can't spend heaps of time w/ her like I can my bf (tbh she gets annoying after a few days, but I still luv her)

Advice????

(also I'm fine W/ smooching all genders)

You have two hands!

(Btw your life sounds like a polyamors fanfic I was reading last week lol)

I'm joking but seriously I would maybe ask your bf if he is okay with a type of polyamors relationship? If not maybe discuss your feelings with him, it's important to keep communication up in a relationship!

(Even if your bff isn't into you, it's good to know in case this ever arises again)

My partner hasn't asked me about this, but I know I'm open to trying a few types of polyamors relationships, and I would tell them if they ever asked! So, you never know if someone might be open to it!

(I didn't really know what advice to give sorry lol I'm the people in the comments could help you out more!)

Only point of reference I have for this sort of situation is poly fanfics and me having crushs on two of bffs for 2 years a long while ago, so not a lot to go on lol.

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(cn for mention of violence against queer people)

The term "gay panic" (originally used as a defense for murder of lgbtq+ individuals, now used for being flustered about queer attraction) should be

* only used in the original meaning

* used in the new meaning while recognizing original

* used in the new meaning, original forgotten (it's unimportant to remember)

* used in the new meaning, original forgotten (it's hurtful to remember)

* not be used in either meaning

* nuance etc option

Thx for the poll anon :]

This will be very interesting.

The term "gay panic" (originally used as a defense for murder of lgbtq+ individuals, now used for being flustered about queer attraction) should be

* only used in the original meaning

* used in the new meaning while recognizing original

* used in the new meaning, original forgotten (it's unimportant to remember)

* not be used in either meaning

there's nuance.

different opinion (plz tag it)

Voting ended onSep 2, 2024

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Hello,

My name is Calvin Phil, and this is my first time reaching out to you like this. I am a queer transgender refugee, originally from Uganda, and I represent nearly 300 other LGBTQ+ individuals here in Gorom Refugee Camp in South Sudan. I fled my home country five years ago, initially finding refuge in Kenya's Kakuma Refugee Camp, where I lived for four years before relocating to Gorom earlier this year. Unfortunately, life hasn't changed much for us.

We face daily persecution, discrimination, beatings, and threats, barely surviving each day by God's grace. The ongoing civil war in South Sudan, coupled with the strict laws against LGBTQ+ individuals, has made it even more difficult for us to survive. We are starving due to limited access to basic needs like food, proper medical care, and housing. Lesbians and transgender people are particularly vulnerable, often subjected to rape, while the surrounding communities remain hostile and homophobic.

I am writing to you in desperate need of help and support. We exist, but we have been silenced at gunpoint.

Thank you for taking the time to read🌈

^^^^^^^

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Okay enough serious stuff, I'm only responding to asks or funny things for the next week.

Anyway if you want some fun lgbtqia+ characters I'm currently finalising their designs and will be posting them soon to @eagans-story-chaos

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Ok genuinely I've seen too much of this bullshit fighting between fem & masc trans people on my fyp to not talk about it so here we go:

To all trans people:

your experiences are your own. some people are gonna have it worse than others and that has not a lot to do with if your androgens, fem or masc. Stop acting like it does.

Yes their are gender specific trans problems, and yes, we do need our own spaces to talk about and realise each others problems are incredibly real. but that doesn't mean anyone is better than anyone else or that anyone had it harder. We are all in the same fucking boat. Please hold this discussion until we are legally allowed to be alive & be ourselves almost everywhere, because if we just fight each other for this and not join hands to fight for our rights (or even fight to keep the ones we have), we're all dead.

On to another thing:

some people really need to stop idolising all fem alliend people. (As one myself) It's really ignorant and makes you rationalise anything a fem person does so you blame the masc person. Guess what? masculinity (that isn't toxic) actually isn't a big scary moster that wants to hurt you, neither is feminity

(I'm not talking about trans fems. I'm talking about people who present fem. That ranges from trans fems to fem boys and everything in between)

Now to my trans peps who have trauma with masculinity:

It's okay if you inherently think of masculinity as a bad think as a result of trauma, trust me it's okay I'm undoing that thought process at the moment. For a while I forced myself into the nonbinary label because I hated masculinity but feminity didn't feel right or like me. It wasn't good for me.

But please don't take that out on others. I promise you most trans people have had this problem at least once. We know how it feels but we shouldn't have feel bad to make others feel better.

In conclusion:

If you hate people based on gender presentation/gender in general your going to miss out on so many good opportunities & relationships.

We are all just people who have dealt with lots of sides of the gender spectrum and the way your treated in those groups as a newcomer.

But I'm only a silly boyflux person whose not going to pass until top surgery, so i guess ignore me if you want. I know most of you will.

I'm also sorry if I'm coming off as aggressive, that wasn't my intention. I'm just really tired of this.

Found this gem in the transadrophobia tag.

Edit: I'm sorry if I was transadrophobic or transmisognstic in this post at all. I was trying hard to be neutral, because I have an extremely positive experience with feminity and a horrible but slowly healing one with masculinity which is detailed here

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Do you like the aroace flag? Yes (I am aroace) Neutral (I am aroace) No (I am aroace) Yes (I am not aroace) Neutral (I am not aroace) No (I am not aroace)

Ty anon <3

Do you like the aroace flag?

yes (I am aroace)

neutral (I am aroace)

no (I am aroace)

yes (I am not aroace)

neutral (I am not aroace)

no(I am not aroace)

Voting ended onAug 15, 2024

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aro/ace people, do you feel the need to have a qpr?

im ace and i want/am in a qpr

im ace and i feel pressured by other aroaces to be in a qpr

im ace and i dont want a qpr

im aro and i want/am in a qpr

im aro and i feel pressured by other aroaces to be in a qpr

im aro and i dont want a qpr

im aroace and i want/am in a qpr

im aroace and i feel pressured by other aroaces to be in a qpr

im aroace and i dont want a qp

NOTES:

when i say “feel pressured to” it means you wouldnt normally want it but feel like you should

when i say “ace” and “aro” please read as “ace-spec” or “aro-spec” if thats how you better identify as

no “allo button” bc i feel like theres more allos than aroaces and it would skew the results. allos pls dont vote

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Thank you for another ask 🫧 anon!

aro/ace people, do you feel the need to have a qpr?

I'm ace and i want/am in a qpr

I'm aco and i feel pressured by other aroaces to be in a qpr

I'm ace and i dont want a qpr

I'm aro and i want/am in a qpr

I'm aro and i feel pressured by other aroaces to be in a qpr

I'm aro and i dont want a qpr

I'm aroace and i want/am in a qpr

I'm aroace and i feel pressured by other aroaces to be in a qpr

I'm aroace and i dont want a qp

Voting ended onAug 21, 2024

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hi!!!!! question about being aroace. so I'm ace and fine with that, but I think I might be aro and I don't want to be. I respect aro ppl, of course, ya'll are awesome, but I don't want to be aro bcuz I want to be in romantic relationships and feel romantic love and be romantic. do I like have a choice? do I get to choose or nah? is there an identity for this? thx!

Pretty sure that's not a choice.

I'm pretty sure there is an identity for that but I can't remember the name of it right now if I don't update this post with an answer, I'm pretty sure the aromatics that vist this blog would be happy to help!

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how do you feel about the gender you currently identify with?

positive, cis

neutral, cis

negative, cis

positive, trans

neutral, trans

negative, trans

Here you go anon!

Edit: it's meant to say neutral 😭

how do you feel about the gender you currently identify with?

positive (CIS)

naturally (CIS)

negative (CIS)

positive (TRANS)

natural (TRANS)

negative (TRANS)

Voting ended onAug 15, 2024

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aroace people are you here??

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Idk if this was meant to be a poll but I'm doing it as one.

Ty for the ask 🫧 anon!

Aroace people you here?

yes

no

you'll never find me! /j

see results

Voting ended onAug 21, 2024

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Enough serious stuff lol

I'm just trying to get though the asks and as I'm writing a heartfelt message autocorrect is suggesting:

Cock

Dick

Sex

& other things along those lines

🤣

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I'm just answering some asks for polls.

And i want to clarify something: this blog is for queer people to relate to and have somewhere they can ask for help and give help to others.

Please don't bring fandom questions here that could turn this blog into queer fandom discorse.

Fandom stuff is okay but just be aware if I think its going to cause a fight on my blog I will delete the ask and move on.

(And to the anon whom I'm sure knows this post is about them: I promise I'm not trying to be mean but I've seen discussions about the thing in your ask in my own fandoms and it developed into death threats. As a previously suicidal person I don't think I could handle that.

Thank you for respecting my boundaries <3)

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can demiromantics (such as i) have the aroallo flag?

I'll let the community talk about this one in the comments/reblogs

I'm unsure myself 😅

But I'm pretty sure if you identify with something it's for you to decide what flag you use.

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Anyone who likes the same gender:

Looking back on before you realized you like the same gender are there any people you probably had a crush on but didn't realize because you thought you were straight?

-Yes, definitely

-I think so

-I have no clue

-No

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Looking back on before you realized you like the same gender are there any people you probably had a crush on but didn't realize because you thought you were straight?

yes, definitely.

I think so

no clue

no

show results

Voting ended onAug 15, 2024

Thanks for the poll anon!