To start this post off, not all of these tips will work for everyone! Everyoneâs dysphoria is different and everyone has different things that help!Â
Also, I am not a doctor or anything like that! And I am a trans guy, so thatâs what this is all coming from, I can try to look up how other genders deal with dysphoria, but I think a lot of these ones will also help other genders
- Showering (I know this doesnât help everyone)
Okay, so I know it may seem like confronting your physical form may not be the right thing to do, and it might not be, but for me taking a shower/bath really helps because I focus more on the routine and what Iâm washing than my actual body
Also! Using products that match your gender might really help!! I use the more âmasculineâ smelling products for my body and itâs super nice ^^ They also have products that are more âgender neutralâ if thatâs more your thing
- Do something distracting that you enjoy
For example, I love going on walks, drawing, writing, and gaming and any of things things could be distractions from things that you donât want to think about! You of course donât need to pick one of the things I enjoy doing, there are lots of things you could do like sports, blogging, listening to music, hanging out with your pets (they arenât going to judge you!), etc.
- Find someone who wonât judge you!
I know this might be hard for some of you, but I know that I have at least one person to talk to every time I get upset about this sort of thing! My friends will not misgender me, and they will reassure me that I am a guy and I do pass, and all that good stuff! If someone is hurting you and misgendering you and not respecting you, you can cut them out of your life! You are not obligated to keep these people around because of their feelings
Pets can be used for this too! Your animals will never judge you :3 Hell, they probably donât even know what gender is :D
- Find things about yourself that you like
This doesnât have to be about your body, but it can be! If you take the time to think about positive aspects of yourself, you might feel a little better. And if you can think about the positive things about your body, like the color of your eyes or the shade of your skin, or how great your smile is, or how cool your hair was in that one selfie, it might make you feel a little better about how youâre feeling about yourself right now c:
If you donât want to or canât think about positive things about your body, try thinking about things youâre good at or things you like about your personality! Like how great of a person you are, how nice you can be, how cool you are, or how dedicated you are! Something like that!
- Treat yourself
I know not everyone can go buy themselves their favorite dinner or anything like that due to money, but you can do simple things like watch your favorite movie! Or just let yourself eat that expensive ice cream you bought last week :3 Curl up in your favorite blanket with that one pillow thatâs just right, or put on that makeup/outfit that you love! Itâs in the little things
- Try not to think about âpassingâ
I know this is extremely hard, but âpassingâ is just a social construct. Nobody âlooks like a boyâ because boys can look like anyone, and the same goes for other genders as well! This is definitely a hard thing to tell yourself, especially since a lot of people donât get it, but it might help some of you!
- Find inspiration!
Find someone who you look up to, or who is transitioning/has transitioned. Some people (like me) might feel resentment at them for being further into their transition than them, but other might (and should try to) be filled with hope and positivity by seeing that things get better and that it is possible to change yourself into how you want to (or do) see yourself
- Look back
If youâve already started your transition, look back to months, or years ago! You will be surprised at how far youâve come
You might even feel more hopeful about the future after having seen how much youâve changed since before
- Find people to talk to
Find people who are, or have been, in the same or a similar scenario; they know what itâs like and they may be able to help you! They can share what it was like for them and what helped them
- Just. Stop.
Seriously, if you can, donât do anything that day. Sometimes, people just need a break or some time alone. So, if youâve been saving up those hours at work, take the day off if you can! If you know thereâs nothing important at school the next day, try to stay home and not put yourself through more stuff
Keep yourself safe and comfortable during your break! Maybe use this time to use one of the other techniques at the same time ^^
- Keep a diary
This might seem silly, but I keep a diary off and on and it really helps me! Sometimes people just need to open up, but not to a personÂ
I named my diary Tina, so it kind of felt like I was talking to a person, though haha
Also, just getting all of this down on paper (or on the screen) might help
- Wear your favorite outfit!!
Find that outfit that makes you feel like a hundred bucks and wear it! It doesnât matter if youâre staying in your house or going somewhere, wear that outfit and own it! Take a lot of pictures if you like the way it looks c:
- Selfies
Take selfies when you look hella good and how you want to look, so that when youâre feeling down and dysphoric, you can look back at your selfies and be like âdamnnn I look hotâ
- Workout
This might seem like a horrible idea, but Iâve heard that it works wonders! Just go get beefy or run into your legs feel like jelly
This might also help you sleep, which might help by getting rid of your thoughts
- Sleep
If you can take a nap, or just crash out, do it! You donât have anything planned and these thoughts wonât stop? Go to sleep. You wonât be thinking of anything if youâre unconscious
- Avoid negativity
If you know someone is going to bring you down, avoid them
Same goes with places! If you know that a certain place is going to be negative or bring negative thoughts on, itâs probably best to avoid that place
- Drink ice water
I find that the painfully cold liquid can really wipe the mind with itâs shocking temperature
- Meditate
If youâre into meditation, or want to try it, I hear it does wonders to find that inner peace and just forget you have a body or end up thinking more positively about that body
- Watch your favorite show
Focusing on something you love, like a series filled with interested characters who arenât you and find themselves in lots of situations can really take your mind off of things
- Burn incense or candles
Burn it right next to your bed (carefully tho) and make sure itâs a scent that you love! This way, if you donât get out of bed, you can still have something to enjoy
- Read
Read a book, or a fanfiction, or anything that will capture your full attention, so that you have something better to focus on
- Modify your body!!
Like piercings, and hair dye, and stuff! Hell, even those temporary tattoos are pretty cool :3 This way, you can feel like youâre doing stuff to your body on your own terms
You can even just draw on yourself with a sharpie or something!
- Clean
Maybe just do some laundry or put things in neat little piles! Any amount of stress taken off will feel super good and also you might find that one outfit you lost months ago! (if youâre anything like me haha)
- Name and pronouns
Write down your name and pronouns on things to make you feel a little better seeing that thatâs what you want to be called, and it can just be written down like that!
You could also ask some supportive friends to read them or just call you by them for no reason at the moment haha
- Â Take up a new hobby
You could spend the time you spend being dysphoric, doing something you enjoy! Learn a new language, or learn how to do arts and crafts, or buy some gardening supplies!
- Save up money
Just stick some coins from the dryer in a jar and start saving up for your transition! Itâll make you feel like things are going faster than they are
And remember: You are valid! No matter what anyone tells you, or how you feel, you are valid! <3
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