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Accept your own aloneness and stick to it, all your life. And then accept the times when the gap is filled in, when they come. But they’ve got to come. You can’t force them.

D.H. Lawrence, Lady Chatterley’s Lover (via theliteraryjournals)

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Things that were hard to accept 1. Your expectations are just that. Your expectations. People are not obligated to live up to them or abide by them. Even if they are in certain cases obligated to do so, there is no guarantee that they will. So don’t base your plans on that. And don’t base your life on that. 2. You can walk away. But so can they. You can be hurt and you can be mad. But they will still walk away. They have that option. They can exercise that choice. People can get toxic for you. Believe it or not, so can you. 3. People have bullied you. And teased you. And judged you. But the person judging you constantly and the most harshly is you yourself. 4. They don’t respect you because you don’t respect yourself. 5. Not letting go is only keeping you sad and frustrated and stuck. They are unaffected. They are living their life wonderfully. They are free. 6. Taking care of yourself takes effort. It’s not just good feel quotes and pretty aesthetics. It’s work. A lot of work. It’s doing things that take time and sometimes it’s doing things you don’t want to do. 7. It’s gone. The past. You can regret as much as you like. But you’re only wasting more time. 8. Sometimes you are going to use the word love even though you don’t 100% want to. It’s because like is too little and there is no word in between. It’s because we use the same word for fries and for people. It’s because love means so many different things to every individual. It’s because you do love them. In one of those several meanings. 9. Sometimes you have to suck it up. It’s okay. Not every situation is meant for you to show your ‘true courage’ or real feelings.

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It is questionable whether the concept of human nature means anything. People’s ‘nature’ can be described only by looking at the things we do. To try to abstract or reify a human essence from the ways in which different groups of people have grappled with issues of survival in the range of geographical, ecological, and demographic settings that our species has populated is a dubious enterprise, because what one labels as ‘natural’ depends on one’s experience and viewpoint. People with different backgrounds are not likely to agree. Margaret Mead pointed out years ago that in societies with different, even opposite, sexual divisions of labor, people tend to believe that what women and men do follows from inherent differences in our natures. Sociobiologists presume that certain traits are inherent in our biological nature. Primary among them is selfishness, since it supposedly gets us to perpetuate our genes. A variant on selfishness is altruism of the kind that benefits the altruist (something like, “I’ll scratch your back if you’ll scratch my children’s”). Then there are territoriality and a tendency toward establishing dominance hierarchies, which entered descriptions of animal behavior around the beginning of World War I, when a so-called pecking order was described among barnyard chickens, a not very “natural” population. There are also the sex-differentiated characteristics of male aggressiveness and competitiveness and female coyness and nurturance, which supposedly follow from the asymmetry in our reproductive interests that I questioned earlier. Wilson includes in ‘human nature’ various behaviors that make sexual relationships between women and men emotionally satisfying, such as fondling and kissing, religious and spiritual aspirations that generate the need to believe in something beyond oneself, and the incest taboo. He acknowledges cultural influences but insists that biology contributes a 'stubborn kernel’ that 'cannot be forced without cost. Because sociobiologists posit that 'kernel’ of biological traits, honed over eons of evolutionary history, their human nature theories tend to be conservative and portray competitive, hierarchical, capitalist societies in which men dominate women and a small, privileged group of men dominates everyone else as the natural outcome of inborn biological propensities. But competition and dominance hierarchies do not characterize all human societies, and there is no reason to believe that our biology determines the ways we construct them.

Ruth Hubbard, “The Political Nature of ‘Human Nature’” (via gothhabiba)

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