You can't be anti-feminism?? Please tell me why u are anti feminism because i just can't comprehend how a female can be against it. Maybe you haven't had the experiences many MANY other women have had but that doesn't mean u should be against it...
Why Iām an Anti-Feminist
There are countless reasons why I am against feminism, but here are some of the main ones:
Manspreading: What a silly thing to whine about, a manās legs taking up space on a public form of transportation.Ā Of course, they should not take up more than one seat when the vehicle is full and others need to sit down, but sitting how they want is not oppression, itās not making fun of women, itās just how they sit comfortably, like how women cross their legs.
Cultural appropriation: I donāt see whatās wrong with liking other cultures and copying them. I donāt believe cultures are meant to be confined to the people who are involved in them. They have been shared and mixed throughout history, so itās dumb to complain about that. Now, people who imitate to make fun of cultures, especially matters that are sacred to a particular culture, I have a problem with that.Ā
Sexist emojis: What an incredibly stupid thing to complain about. The epitome of first world problems. Theyāre EMOJIS. I have nothing more to say about that.
Tampons/Pads beingĀ āfreeā: Tampons and pads are products which require labor to make them. That labor isnāt something that women are justĀ āentitled to.ā It is work that costs money. Itās kind of telling that itās whining, anyway, when people want free tampons/pads over free food/water/shelter.
Rape culture/Teaching men not to rape: In the first world there is no rape culture. Society does not encourage men to rape women. Men are taught that rape is wrong, and they know it is when they choose to commit that horrendous crime. Murderers know that itās wrong to kill, but they do it anyway. Robbers know that itās wrong to steal, but they do it anyway. And so on and so forth. Society does punish rapists. Society does teach men not to rape. But these things are going to continue to happen because criminals donāt care about obeying the law. Not saying we shouldnāt try to stop them. ButĀ āteaching men not to rapeā isnāt going to do that. Also, Iām not a big fan of the hypocrisy when it comes to female rapists, which are sometimes ignored by feminists, or by the more radical ones:Ā āwhen a female does it itās not rape.ā And they ignore male rape victims as well.
Making false rape claims: An alarming amount of people on this site think that itās okay to put a guy in jail based on a womanās word that he raped her. I value the law over feelings. A personās word should not just be taken for it when weāre dealing with crime.
Cat calling being an equivalent of rape: Yes, as a woman I know that cat calling can be bothersome. Itās happened to me before. But by no means does that make itĀ āoppression.āĀ
Guys giving girls compliments: What really makes me angry is when girls whine about guys genuinely giving nice compliments to them. That is not oppression. They are not wanting to rape you, they are just being KIND. How hard is that to understand??Ā
Disowning anyone who doesnāt agree with you on everything:Ā For example, lot of feminists claim you canāt be a feminist if youāre pro-life. Now, Iām not going to get into abortion politics, but it shouldnāt matter what your stance on it is, or whether youāre a conservative or a liberal or independent, or religious or not, you can still label yourself as a feminist.Ā
Going along with the last point: Feminists often label anti-feminist women as embarrassing or woman-hating. Itās happened to me loads of times and Iāve seen it happen to others. Feminists sometimes donāt want to understand why women are anti-feminist, they just assume that those women are doing it for the men instead of realizing that women have their own opinions. Which is why I thank you for asking me, instead of just making assumptions and leaving it at that.
Wage Gap: The gender pay gap isnāt due to sexism. There are other factors that constitute it, such as women willfully going into lower paying jobs, with more men generally looking for higher paying jobs. Claiming that itās sexism is beating a dead horse when the wage gap has been debunked countless times. (If you want sources for that, Iām more than happy to provide.)
Patriarchy: Women in the first world do not live under a patriarchy. They can have higher positions in jobs. They have freedom of opportunity. Itās up to them to get where they want to be, not anyone elseās responsibility. Itās called hard work and initiative. Itās not about facing sexism in the system.
Diversity: Iām not against having diversity in any form. But telling people to put it in their artwork is severely limiting on creativity. Itās not essential to art. And artists have the freedom to make whatever they want. They donāt have to pander to someoneās political agenda. And for example, voting for people to get in office based on their race or gender to get ādiversityā is sexism. People need to be voted in based on their ability to perform the tasks set before them, not based on physical attributes out of their control.
Putting down women who live different lifestyles: I see a lot of bashing of women who choose to be housewives, who choose to have kids instead of pursuing a career. As someone who wants this for my future, I can safely say that it really annoys me when someone tells me that this is a form of oppression and that I wonāt be living life to the fullest.
Ignoring menās issues: A group that claims to be geared towardsĀ āequalityā should be focusing on both genders, but there are not that many feminists who do this. And some claim that men have it alright already, which is certainly false, while also saying that misandry isnāt real, while spreading hatred of them on this site. Which utterly disgusts me and this alone would turn me against feminism.Ā
Sexualization Contradictions: I donāt like when feminists preach about how women should be able to wear whatever they want and that the female body isnāt inherently sexual (the human body inherently is, in fact, but thatās not the point), and then they go to say thatĀ āsexyā Halloween costumes arenāt okay, or that women in video games are not allowed to be designed the way they are - that theyāre being oversexualized by men in the gaming industry (looking at you, Anita Sarkeesian). I despise hypocrisy.
āFree the Nippleā: Feminists are correct in stating that the breasts are not genitalia, but that doesnāt mean they donāt elicit sexual arousal. I donāt know, call me old-fashioned, but I just wouldnāt feel comfortable walking around with my shirt off and seeing other women that way. I also think itās dumb that they advocate for a womanās ability to breastfeed in public while also saying that having children is oppressive and freedom-limiting.
On Racism: Ā Feminists often say thatĀ āyou canāt be racist to white people due to whatever reasons, like power+prejudice = racism or whatever. Which is really dumb. And then they go and hide behind the definition of feminism while blatantly ignoring the definition of racism, which allows for anyone being racist to anyone regardless of skin color.
Censorship: As someone who strongly believes in freedom of speech/expression, Iām highly against censoring something just because itāsĀ āoffensive.ā There are always going to be people who say stupid things, and I donāt agree with those kind of things, but I will defend to the death their right to voice them. Lately Iām seeing a lot of feminists advocate for censorship of things they donāt like. And to me, thatās just being childish.
Women in the first world are not oppressed: We have our freedoms. We can vote, we can get jobs, we can drive, we can dress how we wish. We can voice our opinions, we can practice whatever religion we want. WE ARE NOT oppressed. So I donāt like hearing all the whining about the issue.
Fat acceptance: Iām not against self-confidence in oneās physical appearance, but what I am against is pretending that being severely overweight/obese is healthy. Iām not going to shame someone for what they look like or bully them into exercising, of course. But Iām always going to support living a healthy lifestyle, because I believe it allows one to be happier and it prolongs their life. I know for me personally, living healthier - eating right and exercising regularly, has really helped me stay positive.
Privilege: The main way a person is privileged is by having a lot of money. Pretending that white people have all this privilege over other races just because of their skin is dumb, or that men have a ton of privilege over women, or that straights have a ton of privilege over LGBT, etc. Now, granted, there ARE people that favor whites over other races; there is definitely still racism against other races that needs to be stopped, and sexism in certain places. Iām not denying that. But in the first world ANYONE can be poor, regardless of race, sexuality, gender, etc. Defining a person by how muchĀ āprivilegeā they have based on features they canāt control about themselves is dumb.
Gender roles/Gender eradication: I donāt see gender roles as a bad thing or as oppressive. They can and are beneficial to society, in my honest opinion. Nobodyās FORCING women to follow gender roles, anyway. Maybe some people expect it, but itās not a law. You have the freedom to do what you wish. And gender canāt just be destroyed. It is scientific, biological fact that we have men, and we have women, and they are not exactly the same. Sexual dimorphism is something that feminists tend to ignore a lot. Now, Iām not saying men and women are COMPLETELY different, because there are definitely similarities. But pretending theyāre exactly the same aside from genitalia is very ignorant.
Political Lesbianism: Oh, boy. I really despise this one. Claiming that you are attracted to women just because some guy dumped you in high school is just plain pathetic. You canāt change your sexuality. And saying that you can makes light of the challenges that LGBT people face for genuinely being attracted to the people that they are.Ā
āBlack Lives Matterā: I agree that they do, but I also agree that all lives matter. If you believe both, then BLM is redundant. Also, I donāt agree with what the movement does in order to achieve their goals. Additionally, there is too much putting down of white people for my taste (like blaming them for the actions of their ancestors, for example).Ā
Delusions that men donāt like female gamers/metalheads/comic book fans: As a female metalhead, I have met PLENTY of guys who love seeing women who have their interests. And Iām sure that my male followers could attest that it does not bother them when a woman is a gamer, metalhead, comic book fan, into sports, etc. or likes anything else that is commonly liked by dudes. Sure, there are the bad apples (with regard to both genders) but for the most part I donāt think that it bothers people when others share their interest. In fact, a lot of people freak out and get excited. So I donāt believe that this is an issue at all.Ā
Bottom line: Women are not oppressed in the first world countries and donāt need to feel like they are. Now, granted, I havenāt said anything about third world countries, where women face death for disobeying orders. And thatās largely why Iām anti-feminist, in fact. Because I donāt see the need to complain about all these trivial matters while women are facing real oppression in other places.
Sorry this post ended up being so long. I hope that you understand a bit more as to why I maintain the position on feminism that I do.
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