“the art of starting over, selene’s edition.”
alright babes, consider this blog as the start of your new era. think of it like a plan that you need right now to completely change your life and i mean it. i know it’s hard to believe, but trust me. i’ve done this before, and i’m gonna do it in real time with you guys too, just to prove that this is the exact routine that you need to do before you even start your glow up era.
we are going to call it the renaissance of the it girl (aka you and me) to give you a context of this particular post. basically, i’m gonna tell you the exact routine and steps that you need to take right now to align yourself with your future version real time. 
and trust me, i’m gonna tell y’all the very reason behind the purpose of doing these things, the science and the spirituality behind all the things that i say. so grab your favourite beverage of choice as we go in the depths of all the stuff you need to know in order to start your new era like a queen you are, mwah 💋.
step one: making a vision board
make a new board on your pinterest acc named “goals”. and i’m being serious i encourage you guys to name it “goals” or “aims” instead of “dreams”.
why? because when you say my dream is to be a millionaire (there’s no urgency you feel in your gut) but when you say my goal is to be a millionaire (there’s a unspoken urgency) which will result in you making more informed choices. thinking about ways, plans and sources to become a millionaire. ik i might look it’s not a big deal but trust me words have a lot of meaning.
now i want you guys to understand this one thing i.e if you don’t have a vision regarding what you’re truly working towards it won’t happen. and that is why making a vision board is really important, and it’s the first step because it helps you understand what you really wanna be and become and embody. consider this vision board as your direction anchor. so, when you’re making it, i want you to understand that don’t add more than 100 pins and be very intentional with whatever you add.
yes, you can later down the line add more pins and make it as aesthetic as possible. but for the starters, i want you to only go with 100 pins and that’s it. 
this is arguably, the most important and very crucial step in order to enter a new era completely. you need to close a chapter to start a new one. trust me my love, i know it’s hard, but it’s really important.
and by declutter, i mean decluttering everything that reminds you of your past self or this flop era, you’ve been stuck into for like… i don’t know since 2020 now? like truly it’s embarrassing stop.
so start by declutter of four delete the chats that are no longer serving you delete the contacts that are no longer serving you. delete anything that is reminding you of something that you don’t want to remember or you wanna let go off. get rid of your clothes as well. that does not align with the future self that you are trying to build.
and that is why i kept making a vision board first because now that you have a vision for future, it will be very easy for you to eliminate things in your life that does not apply to the future you.
and now here’s a little disclaimer. this is probably a step and topic that i will make a blog about in future separately because just how important this is in spirituality. “we say you need to get let go of something to invite new things in” it’s a continuous process and it not just applies to things or clothes. it also applies to habits and behavioural patterns that can become a hazard between you and your goals.
step three: the let go ritual
okay, so to all of my non-spiritual girlies, hear me out for once? cools? and to all of my spiritual baddies ik you’re gonna love this one. so as the name suggests, the let go ritual. what i want you guys to do is to let go of your habits, behaviour patterns, old self. basically, let go of anything that is holding you back from reaching your true potential.
so take a piece of paper, you don’t have to overthink. any paper will do trust me. i know all the influencers have influenced you enough thinking, only white papers or black coloured papers might work for rituals like these but any paper will work the same. it’s about the intention.
write down things that you don’t longer need in your life. since you have already made a vision board your future, it will be very easy for you to think about your own patterns, people, situations that might sabotage your goals.
for example, write down things like procrastination, being a negative pessimistic person, the situation-ship that sucks the soul out of you, people who are energy vampires. now fold this paper and place it between your palms, get in a comfortable position and then i want you to visualise that all the negativity in your body is being stored in that paper, like really take that paper in your hand and visualise that the negativity in your body is being transferred into that paper. now this is the most easiest and the most fun step of it all burn that paper burn it, you no longer need those negativity in your life anymore, burn the paper as the symbol of release and letting go and throw all the ashes away from you.
step four: letters to your future self
“future you is literally waiting for your letter. she’s sitting there, living her best life, because of what you’re about to write today.”
as a girl who always tries to find meaning and depth in everything and anything trust me this process, this specific step will literally make you so in tuned with the idea of really taking your life into your own hands
for example, writing letters to your future self, i really want you to pour your hearts out. if you really need some ideas, write things like
“i can’t wait to start this new journey.”
“i can’t wait to make you proud. i know we’ve been in a very awful situation lately, but trust me this time? this is it. we will come out of this, and i will make you proud twin.”
at the end of the day, whatever you write in this letter to your future self is up to you. you can write about your goals. you can talk about your current hardships and how you have decided not to let these things let you down, but rather rise from the ashes and really become the best version of yourself, not just for you, but also for your future self.
and trust me my love if you really do it with all your focus, energy and intention, you will end up crying. not to mention how therapeutic this session is gonna be, especially if you do it with all your heart, you will have that surge of self love and motivation you need in order to really start taking steps towards right direction.
you can write this letter on a piece of paper or you can write it on your notes app. you can also use this website called “future me” and set a timer so you will get this letter back via your email, but yeah, doing this really sets you a few steps further in terms of motivation because you just made a promise and it’s not to somebody else but to yourself and it’s a huge thing.
step five: making stuffs…
okay, here’s the thing i am completely understanding the fact that this particular part will take time. there are a lot of things that i am asking us (you and me) to make. and yes, this particular section, it will take time. so i’m giving us. (you and me) a week to do so. 
you must be wondering “what the fuck are we supposed to make?” so here’s the thing. We are going to make a mind movie, affirming tapes, manifestation journal and subliminal playlist
note that manifestation journal will take a lot of time
so… the deadline goes like
manifestation journal- 1 month
subliminal playlist- only few hours
now, now… dw i will make a detailed blog about it step-by-step as well as on my instagram account. but the idea is very simple. basically, you need to make a video of your goals. so you need to find photos that resonate with your goal on pinterest (3-7 per goal) and then make a video of those photos playing one after the other after the interval of 3 seconds each while also layering it with affirmations that resonates with the goal.
and i want you to watch this mind-movie every single day after you wake up, and before you go to sleep. 
why this works? because of RAS (reticular activating system) there’s a flood of info hitting your senses 24/7 (like millions of bits per second), and your conscious brain would literally short-circuit if it had to process all of it. so your RAS decides what gets VIP access to your awareness.
and this system is prominently active right after you wake up, and before you go to sleep, so when you watch a mind movie that plays all of your life goes right in front of you, the first thing in the morning, and before you go to sleep. your RAS starts noticing opportunities you used to ignore. (like suddenly you “randomly” meet the right person or see the perfect job post — not magic, your brain just wasn’t filtering for it before.) and your subconscious mind becomes emotionally comfortable with your dream life. (if your brain sees it as familiar, it won’t self-sabotage it.)
your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors start aligning with that vision naturally.
again, this one is very simple. all you need to do is record yourself talking about your dream life as if it’s already happening. (basically in present tense) how i am planning to do, it is by writing down how a typical day of mine would look if all of my dreams came true.
and i really want you to bring out the voice actor hiding inside you while you record this because when you hear the small hint of amusement in your voice, while talking your dream life. you will start feeling as if it’s real, and it’s happening.
so take your time and just record, not just one tape, but as many, you want one for each day of the week, if possible.
how this works? episodic future thinking. your brain doesn’t actually know the difference between imagining and remembering both activate similar neural circuits in the hippocampus.
when the brain believes something is “familiar” it starts scanning for ways to make it real (this is deeper than RAS; it’s about creating a cognitive blueprint).
as i mentioned earlier, this will take a lot of time, but trust me the moment you are ready with at least the first draft of your manifestation. you’re gonna thank me really trust me
so i don’t want you guys to make a manifestation journal every single year. it’s way too hectic and truly, i don’t have that much time to make a manifestation journal every single year, neither do you. so this is something that you’re gonna make only once. and then keep it for life.
so really try and make a good investment in terms of buying the supplies for the manifestation journal. Because this is the book that you will show your grandchildren one day to make them understand the kind of diva you are and everything that you manifested.
so again, the idea is very simple. i want you to make a book that has everything that you want in your life listed down with photos, murals, fancy washi tapes doesn’t matter the way you want to decorate this book is completely up to you. but make sure that you add everything.
and trust me if you’re buying a journal and you dedicate even two pages for one goal of yours, you’ll still have a lot of pages left. so consider this as your journal where you will write down things that you want in your life. stick pictures about it. make it as beautiful as possible, and you’ll still have a lot of pages left to keep on adding things as you progress and your goals to change with your evolving lifestyle.
so don’t worry, i’m not telling you to completely fill 200 pages journal in one month, make sure the important goals of yours are listed, pasted, loved and written down.
make sure that you really keep this book like your it’s sacred belonging. don’t let anyone touch it and ruin it. only you’re allowed to touch it. if you are a spiritual baddie like me. you can also keep your crystals like adventurine or jade on top of it to amplify its manifestation properties. but truly it’s your book that has your goals in it. so keep it really safely. 
i’ll document my process of making my manifestation book on my instagram
a subliminal is basically audio with affirmations layered under music or sounds. the affirmations are either at a super low volume or sped-up/hidden so you don’t consciously register them, but your subconscious mind still does. think of it like sneaking little “you’re hot, rich, successful” cheat codes into your brain while you bop to your fav tracks.
you can easily find some great subliminal channels on youtube all you need to do is basically write down your goal, which will be very easy for you, especially if you have done the vision board part already. search for (your goal+ subliminal) for example if your goal is to be a singer then (singer subliminal) and you’ll find tons of subliminals
and then make a playlist of all your subliminals and listen to it daily while working out, scrolling, doing makeup, or even sleeping. consistency > intensity.
step six: routines and rituals
okay bestie, listen up. you’ve got the vision board. you’ve got your mind movie. you’ve got your manifestation journal. amazing. but none of that will mean a damn thing if your actions don’t align with your dream life. manifestation isn’t just “think pretty thoughts and wait for the universe to deliver.” it’s becoming the person who naturally attracts that life.
1. reverse-engineer your dream self
ask yourself: what does the version of me with all my goals do daily? if she has a toned body, what’s her workout schedule? if she has glowing skin, what’s her skincare ritual? if she runs a million-dollar biz, how does she spend her mornings?
write it down. make it that specific.
2. pick non-negotiables, not 1000 habits
don’t overcomplicate it. you don’t need an 18-step morning routine. pick 3–5 key habits that will actually move the needle.
3. ritualise it – make it special
routines can feel boring if you treat them like chores. romanticize them.
• light a candle and play music during your skincare.
• make your workout a “hot girl walk” with your subliminal playlist.
• turn cooking healthy meals into a vibey self-care moment, not punishment.
4. track & stay accountable
use an app, habit tracker, whatever keeps you consistent. consistency > perfection.
anyways that’s all my loves i hope y’all achieve all your goals and live you best life ever
