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mercuryfountain-deactivated2024

I don't mean any of this in a weird way but if we're interested in breaking down binaries, we can't cling onto the binary of cis versus trans. If gender expectations are as constrictive as we say they are, then this imagined class of people who are okay with gender expectations 100% of the time with no complications is just that. Imagined. It's similar to "neurotypical" as an imagined class of people who are completely comfortable with the social and mental expectations of their jobs and would never understand what it's like to get overwhelmed or feel out of place. The unintended implication is an obsession with labelling and pathologizing that says that it's not gender or workplace norms that need to be interrogated, it's you.

The truth is that you can be outside the binary without formally committing to calling yourself nonbinary. I am a cis gay man who feels most comfortable and affirmed when I'm free to wear earrings and garments I bought in the "women's" section. I tell people my pronouns are he/him because it's the simplest explanation, but they/them and even she/her are comfortable, even validating, in the right circumstances. There are a lot of cis gay men just like me. Am I actually nonbinary and just in denial? No. Being a gay man is deeply meaningful to me. Am I encouraging nonbinary to start calling themselves cis and questioning whether they're actually nonbinary? No, and I feel more comfortable in my own manhood knowing I have the option to leave. I just want us all to define ourselves on our own terms. I want celebrate common ground and shared queerness with trans people and not have to overstate our differences. We treat it as a political and moral obligation to fine tune our labels for the sake of establishing who's allowed to say what, who's allowed to relate to who, and I have to ask: Are we committed to breaking down boundaries or not?

scarletcomet

most evil college major?

business

engineering/computer science

humanities

psychology, political science, etc.

math, stats, natural sciences (chem, physics, etc.)

premed

theatre, visual arts, etc.

other (in tags?)

Voting ended onFeb 16, 2023

thedreadpiratecam

How do you like your toast?

Plain (you're wrong)

Butter

Jam

Butter AND Jam

British (beans)

a secret sixth option (leave it in the tags)

Voting ended onFeb 17, 2023

also put what kind of jam in the notes, I am curious about what everyone likes! I use peach preserves or hot pepper jam

#im dutch #so...

huffylemon

camomile-t

EXPERIMENT: do not vote on this poll. just reblog. torture your followers.

please dont ruin my experiment

PLEASE

Voting ended onFeb 13, 2023

psychotic-gerardway

I GOT POLLS SO UH TRY AND KEEP THIS AT THE RIGHT PERCENTAGES YOU CAN COORDINATE IN THE TAGS

10%

20%

30%

40%

Voting ended onFeb 13, 2023

mens-rights-activia

Uhm

The math ain’t mathing 🤨

zapsoda

FORTHUR I’ll do anything please

waa i love them so much i know i literally never draw them but i legitimately do think abt them like every day

#ITS SO CUTE IM NOT THE ASKER BUT TYSM #i love them so much <333

fordprefects

Who's your favourite HHG side character?

Fenchurch

Random Dent

Eddie the Shipboard Computer

Slartibartfast

Roosta

Colin

Prak

Frankie & Benjy Mouse

Wonko the Sane

Someone Else (leave in tags!)

Voting ended onFeb 12, 2023

zoestorm

The worst thing you can do, as someone who has recently realised they are transfem, is to let terves and transphobes convince you cis women will never accept you.

I was told that when I came out everyone would reject me. That I would find myself isolated from the world, and from other women especially, who would react to me with horror and revulsion.

In reality, within the first months of coming out, in no particular order:

My sister's reaction on my coming out was, "Right, so I have a sister instead of a brother. Cool. I'm taking you clothes shopping tomorrow."

A friend, when she learned I am a woman, immediately invited me to her women-only, girls-night-out birthday party the following week.

Another friend, when a friend of hers expressed doubts about my gender, immediately shut them down and reaffirmed I am a woman.

I went camping with a group of friends, and we had two tents, one for the boys and one for the girls; I was unsure as to which I should enter, to which a girl friend responded by grabbing me and physically dragging me inside the women's tent.

In the women's bathroom at a movie theatre a random woman, whom I'd never seen before and haven't seen since, stopped me as I was going into a stall, to warn me there was no toilet paper in there, because she'd just used the last of it.

All of these, and more, some from friends, some from complete strangers. All within a few months, as a trans woman who hadn't started medical transition yet, and was very visible as being a trans woman.

I've had some people reject me, true, but the vast majority, including almost all cis women, accepted me as a sister with open arms.

Cis women are cool. It's terves who are bigots.

evil-wild-lesbian-wizard

I needed to see this today

#it's easy to lose touch with reality when only yhe most extreme ideas are spread #so it's really important for reassuring things like this to be shared and seen #thank you op for this :_> 💗💗

dan-mcneely-deactivated20210328

also while im waiting for my tea to steep, since im petty, and they cant fire me any more than they already have i can tell you about the Button That Makes You Lie To People because i CANNOT stop thinking about it and its driving me fucking nuts

i worked at a fancy gourmet coffee shop, but not everyone who came in knew that or cared, so we’d occasionally get ppl who got all their coffee knowledge from starbuckses. starbuckae? starbukakke

anyway sbux has this thing where they’re literally just wrong about what they call some drinks. for example, a cappuccino is traditionally a double shot of espresso with milk foam, like a few sips of drink, but at starbucks the smallest possible “cappuccino” is 8oz and espresso with that much milk? is really just a bastard latte.

but to explain that to someone who doesnt know better takes time, and there a line forming, and a latte… is close enough to what someone who thinks of a cappuccino as a 16oz drink is expecting. so if someone asked for a “large cappuccino” we were instructed to go “okay :)”, plug in a large latte, and then, before they could see, scroll down to the secret buttons, the forbidden buttons, the deceit buttons, and press the one called “cappuccino”, in “quotes”, which would not only put a cappuccino on their receipt, but would send a message to the barista, across the room, who would then make a latte, see the pink “cappuccino” indicator, and go

“large cappuccino? :)”

and i just, like, that’s just, i love how, food is made up and not real

the-real-numbers-deactivated202

that satisfied feeling when you write a custom class and get to construct it for the first time. Instance Gratification

#FJSKFKSLGK

strawberry-crocodile

Look, the fact is that for a huge chunk of our culture, a cis man crossdressing while continuing to assert that he is a man despite this is more acceptable than a trans woman asserting her womanhood. Yes, there are people to whom both are aberrations, but there is a very large middle ground whose problem with trans women is not the fact they wear skirts but the fact that we assert that we are not men.

strawberry-crocodile

Like hell I'm not even saying that f1nnster is bad. He's fine and he's doing his own thing but he does conform to bioessentialism and that gives him cis privilege.

C'mon, this is tumblr, I though we all understood that we're allowed to be bitter and frustrated about privilaged people right? Or are trans women and crossdressing men actually just the same category? I think he even understands this considering he's using his platform to support trans people.

strawberry-crocodile

And YES crossdressing men are going to be treated worse than a gender conforming man, but the distinction that he is not threatening bioessentialism is a layer of protection that trans women don't have.

strawberry-crocodile

Insane to me that we're having this discussion only six months after The Bridget Incident where game devs had to release an official statement that a character was transgender because chuds kept insisting that Bridget "I'm a girl" is actually just a crossdressing cis man

strawberry-crocodile

So for people who missed it; in August 2022 Guilty Gear released DLC of an old character for their newest game, Strive. The character was Bridget, who, in the past, was one of the first anime-style characters to popularize the "dresses like a girl for convoluted background reasons but teehee, actually a boy!" type character. Bridget was Chihiro before Chihiro and honestly a lot of modern AMAB "femboy" culture stems from characters borrowing from Bridget.

Except, well, in the official Strive patch, Bridget comes right out at the end of their arcade mode and says "I'm a girl!" This is the culmination of a whole arc that was taking place in the little pre- and post-battle cutscenes, and frankly it wasn't super in depth but it worked. So... confirmation. Bridget is a transgender woman.

Chuds... did not like this. What followed was a massive campaign by people (including gnc cis men like Dimitri Monroe) basically playing whack-a-mole with the I'm a girl line. First, they claimed it was added by the translation team. When someone pointed out that no, she very much says it in the Japanese, people just kinda... denied it. They got mad that "femboy rep" had been stolen from them, they insisted that this was some kind of agenda, they ran around threads just added "HE looks so cute!" to any Bridget art.

Eventually the game devs themselves had to announce that yes, Bridget is a girl, her pronouns are she/her. You may think that this put the thing to rest, if you are unfamiliar with culture wars. To this day I see people insist that it's "ambiguous" or that she's "just a crossdresser". Just to soell it out, a huge group of people- including a number of gnc cis men- used gnc cis men as a bludgeon to erase trans womenhood

And now, trans women are complaining about how being a cis crossdresser is being used as kinda a publicity stunt by a cis male streamer, and people are accusing them of being unduly mean and jealous, and how they need to understand that gnc cis men experience bigotry too. And I want to go fucking insane.

When you see a trans woman who does not like the word "femboy" or is leery about cis male crossdressers, let me be perfectly clear.

She did not start this fight.

strawberry-crocodile

I was in a semi-conscious fugue state when I added the Bridget explanation so let me just clarify; if you are a trans woman and you pay attention to the gaming/anime community (so y'know, most of us) then in the middle of last year you watched a massive wave of people plant their foot in the ground and say "being a gnc man is acceptable; being a trans woman is not," in the most undeniable terms, and it is insane that people are framing the f1nnster discussion as like, petty jealousy.

#thank you for saying this :_x yeah

truestoriesaboutme

Fox Mulder is such an amazing character, though, because on paper, he sucks: Wiseass federal agent with a porn addiction who is obsessed with conspiracy theories, thinks he’s the smartest guy in every room that he’s in, and is just hot enough to be dangerous.

But David Duchovny plays him with such dumb, gleeful kid energy that suddenly it all just…works. You can’t hate him. Look at him!

He’s got nonthreatening male sexuality of a Disney prince in the 90s. You look at him and think Look at this hot idiot, He’s trying his best. All he wants to do is get laid, infodump to his girlfriend, and meet a real life dracula. He’s like if you turned an orange male cat into a human. He definitely owns an album of Halloween sound effects. He’s six feet tall but he’s just a little guy.