quotes and coffee

“Maybe our favorite quotations say more about us than about the stories and people we're quoting.” ― John Green

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“Male fantasies, male fantasies, is everything run by male fantasies? Up on a pedestal or down on your knees, it's all a male fantasy: that you're strong enough to take what they dish out, or else too weak to do anything about it. Even pretending you aren't catering to male fantasies is a male fantasy: pretending you're unseen, pretending you have a life of your own, that you can wash your feet and comb your hair unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur."

Margaret Atwood, The Robber Bride

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“People ask me sometimes, “When will there be enough women on the court?” And my answer is: “When there are nine.””

— Ruth Bader Ginsburg

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“If you have a caring life partner, you help the other person when that person needs it. I had a life partner who thought my work was as important as his, and I think that made all the difference for me.”

— Ruth Bader Ginsburg

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Romantic love is not an ending, not for me or for anyone else here. It’s just a part of your story, a part of who you are.

Rebecca Bunch, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend

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"They mess you up, your mom and dad. They may not mean to, but they do. They fill you with the faults they had, and add some extra, just for you"

Philip Larkin

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“I’m afraid to ask for what I need. I’m afraid of my survival seeming selfish. I’m afraid of my mental illnesses. I’m afraid of my sadness. I’m afraid of my anger. I’m afraid of the things that I want. I’m afraid of what people will think of the things that I want. I’m afraid of what people think. I’m afraid of my voice. I’m afraid of saying the wrong thing. I’m afraid of saying the right thing. I’m afraid of not knowing what the right thing is. I’m afraid of taking up space. I’m afraid of public transit. I’m afraid of the dark. I’m afraid of what men have done to me in the dark. I’m afraid of cisgender white men. I’m afraid of saying not all men and then having my face held down in the dirt by another man. I’m afraid of sex. I’m afraid of never getting over my trauma. I’m afraid of putting things down. I’m afraid of letting things go. I’m afraid of the emotional abuse I knowingly allowed myself to endure. I’m afraid of what I will let myself go through for love. I’m afraid of global warming. I’m afraid of being queer."

Aphrodite Made Me Do It, Trista Mateer

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“women are made to appear crazy by the very men who drive them  to a place of insanity”

r.h. Sin, “Whiskey Words & a Shovel I”

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Accepting this body did not mean convincing myself that it was beautiful; it meant giving myself permission to exist regardless.

Trista Mateer, “Aphrodite Made Me Do It”

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"You forgive your mother for the things she did wrong, because of the things that were done wrong to her. You expect your children to do the same. Everyone’s backs ache under the weight."

Trista Mateer, “Aphrodite Made Me Do It”

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Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn.

C.S. Lewis 

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What about when someone doesn’t need a shoulder? What if they need the arms

Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower

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There’s a common misconception that artists have to be miserable in order to make good art, that art and suffering go hand in hand. I’m really grateful to have learned this isn’t true.

Taylor Swift

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So, I guess we are who we are for alot of reasons. And maybe we’ll never know most of them. But even if we don’t have the power to choose where we come from, we can still choose where we go from there. We can still do things. And we can try to feel okay about them.

Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower 

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At LeakyCon, a young lady asked me how I dealt with bullying. I wasn’t able to give her a very good answer, which troubles me. Well, there were lots of shouts of “It gets better” and “Stay strong” and “We love you”. But when I put myself back in time to when I was being bullied, none of those things would’ve helped me. Yes, absolutely it does get better. But when you are being physically and psychologically tortured, it is difficult to remove yourself from the pressingness of the moment at hand. Here’s how I dealt with bullying: I cried, I hated myself, I hated my life. I didn’t deal with it, I survived it, but I never dealt with it. So here are two tips from someone with lots of experience. 1: It’s not about you, it has nothing to do with you, it’s about the assholes doing it to you. 2: Your job is not to deal with it, your job is to survive it, which you CAN do because it WILL end. And then yes, it will get better.

Hank Green

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Just when you think it can’t get any worse, it can. And just when you think it can’t get any better, it can.

Nicholas Sparks, At First Sight

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We fell in love, despite our differences, and once we did, something rare and beautiful was created.

Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook

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When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn't healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs and habits - anything that kept me small. My judgment called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.

Kim McMillen