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[radfemverity]

To be honest I am sympathetic to the view that women shouldn’t be in the military, but for entirely different reasons to what misogynists say. It is not a straightforward subject and there are valid analyses on both sides, but if your priorities as a woman are physical safety and psychological wellbeing then I would worry for any female loved one joining the military.

Militaries are incredibly violent, warped and dysgenic institutions, and I’m not even talking about the broader geopolitics of them serving as vehicles for foreign imperialism – because not all militaries do that. I’m talking about sexual violence against serving female officers and civilians. From American women in the military raped and murdered by their colleagues, to Kenyan women raped and murdered by British soldiers at the permanent UK army base in northern Kenya. From Iranian women raped and murdered by soldiers of their own country’s regime, to Sudanese women raped and murdered by both the Rapid Support Forces and official Armed Forces in the current civil war.

Not to mention the incredibly dysfunctional, almost other worldly culture of an organised army. The regimented routine. The fact that you’re living far away from home and your usual support network. The specific type of men that armies in particular attract –aggression is a valued trait. The ways that such men will look to unleash their frustrations with the regimented lifestyle, bullying from male colleagues, lack of privacy etc. The preoccupation with optics if you are in a country currently at war — meaning that your army cannot afford any public scandals, and is incentivised to silence whistleblowers who speak up about abuse.

Then there are also all of the arguments that feminists and socialists would make about militaries turning women of different nationalities on each other, sending female soldiers to harm civilian women in a foreign country for their own country’s nationalistic agenda. I know this absolutely isn’t true in all cases though. Of course we can understand why a Ukrainian woman would want to join her country’s military and fend off a literal invasion. My concern though would be for her risk of facing sexual violence, not just from Russian men but Ukrainian men too. The same applies to both Palestinian and Israeli women. Hamas and the IDF alike are full to the brim with rapists. Why wouldn’t they be. What military ever hasn’t been full to the brim with rapists? Why would one army have some special immunity to these patterns, just because geopolitically they might be on the morally right side?

Admittedly I have a bias, given the only military-connected man I’ve ever dated (veteran of the British armed forces) was legitimately frightening and nearly trapped me into a coercive controlling relationship. But I also know many women who have dated soldiers or ex soldiers. It’s always the same story as mine. Control freaks. Sex addicts. Poor temperaments. Domestic abuse record. Speed-runs and coerces every possible decision in a relationship, without foreseeing the consequences. Utterly incapable of foresight. Frighteningly intense personalities. Because intensity makes good soldiers. But it doesn’t fucking make a good man.

I don’t believe militaries deserve women, that’s why I fear when they join. I’m not advocating any kind of legal ban, what I’m saying is that if you found out a woman you loved was considering joining the army or navy, I would seriously inquire further. I would treat it the way you would treat finding out a woman you loved wanted to start an OnlyFans, become a sugar baby, join a strip club or start street prostitution. It’s not about morality, it’s about it being fucking dangerous to her safety, health and wellbeing.

Equally I understand the counter argument one could give of “But if you don’t have women join the military then how can you expect the culture and treatment of women to change inside the institution?” The same argument has been made – and to a degree proven true – for the police, politics, academia and the corporate world. It’s a valid insight.

But the military is far more intense, life-altering and dangerous than any other walk of life (except sex work prostitution, which carries a far higher rate of PTSD and lowered life expectancy). I just don’t want any women to serve as collateral damage. This is admittedly speculative but from what I have observed, the sort of men who join the military (especially the Paras, as my own ex admitted to me) are just more fucking intense and mentally disturbed than men who go into other careers. There are a myriad of reasons for this: the structure of the job, how they break you down psychologically to condition obedience, the targeting of economically disadvantaged young men for recruits, etc. None of which are women’s problem to fix. Women deserve to be safe. Besides most men don’t want women in the military anyway. Think about the mentality of that. If they don’t want you there, what makes you think they will keep you safe or treat you as an equal?

[magnoliamyrrh]

the year is 2035. the new beauty standard is for women to cut their ears off, as ears are a masculine trait which make the face look too big and hearing isnt necessary as it doesnt align with being demure. evil feminists say perhaps this is unnecessary and ears are natural. women are agressively proclaiming they are cutting their ears off due to sensory issues

[radfemverity]

The whole rhetoric of "haha feminist cat lady will die alone and miserable because they didn’t have a man" conveniently ignores how often wives outlive their husbands, and seems to take no issue with these widows not remarrying. So the real sentiment of the men who say this shit is anger at the women who live and die without fulfilling their ‘purpose’ to men: to serve as a natural resource to be mined. Whether it be by motherhood, sex, or housework.

[radfemverity]

The hostility towards women having lives outside of marriage/motherhood isn't just about men’s fear of losing domestic labour. The more women succeed outside the home, the less claims to superiority men have. Men were only dominating when things were unfair.

As women gain more access to opportunities they were once barred from, they continue to prove their competence. Now girls are outperforming boys at school, the education system is suddenly “unfair” and “society has been feminised”. Now women work more office jobs, they are suddenly “useless middle management.” (None of this is to negate the very real criticisms how our global economy is set up. But it obviously cannot be attributed to female emancipation.)

Now that women are fairly represented in fields like finance, psychology and biology, suddenly they are “soft” subjects, compared to the “real hard sciences” like physics and chemistry. Because the exclusion and devaluing of women was always by design.

Men have historically needed women to believe we were intellectually inept, in order to justify the design limits of the patriarchal society, i.e. their control over us in a pre-modern context. And further, to prove that we needed them. But if women are just as capable as men, particularly in intellectual and competence-based pursuits, the patriarchal illusion of male superiority shatters.

Patriarchy’s promise to men is unconditional access to women. Women pursuing and succeeding in aspirations which fall outside of that patriarchal framework n threatens the substance of the entire system. So keep it up ladies!

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(Post inspired by a blog I read years ago but cannot find, from someone called radfemcowgirl I think? If anyone has it please let me know!)

[perpleja]

Feminism was supposed to create empathy towards prostitutes to help them out of the situation, not to validate it.

[radfemverity]

Never let conservatives get away with claiming that men dominate all of the most dangerous fields of work. While this is mostly true, there is one major and taboo exception the world needs constantly reminding of: the sex trade. Women and girls are the vast majority of those trafficked in prostitution and pornography across the globe. They suffer rape, strangulation, sadism, coercive control, stalking, poverty, addiction, and scarcely few routes to leave the sex trade. This is the norm. This is in the role specification.

At least the men working with dangerous machinery can be compensated after sustaining serious injury. At least men in the army, construction and oil rigging can quit and pursue another career, without being deemed as unemployable and ostracised by wider society, or trapped in a controlling relationship with their boss (pimp). That is the default reality of women whose bodies are bought and sold to sustain the sex industry.

[lavendersbian]

why does “sexually liberated” or “in control of her sexuality” have to mean “has a lot of sex” I hate this sex positive bullshit what you’re essentially saying is that women who don’t have a lot of sex aren’t ~liberated~ which is some misogynist bullshit leftist men use to manipulate women into having sex with them

[lavendersbian]

i really believe women should go on a sex strike and refuse to have sex with men until they treat us properly

[femclasscirce]

Fun fact! Korean feminists are doing just that. They follow the movement of the 4 no’s, aka:

- no dating men

- no sex with men

- no marrying men

- no having children

Until men get their shit together :)

[illalwaysbehere]

After thousands of years of being at the mercy of her husband, brother, father, boss, or neighbors’ disgusting desires, sexual liberation for women means the right to say no. The right to have firm boundaries.

It’s a thousand times more freeing and revolutionary to not have sex with men than it is to have it. Your mothers and grandmothers wished they could say no. You actually can.

[marablake]

This. You’re not really “liberated” if you don’t have the liberty to refuse sex you don’t want.

It’s sad that young women still feel they have to impress and please men, because that’s a game you’ll never win. Males will shame and look down on women for having too much sex or not enough sex or the wrong kind of sex or who they do or don’t have sex with, and all of those categories are completely arbitrary.

The only real sexual liberation women will ever have is to stop caring what males think and do what WE want.

[lavendersbian]

why does “sexually liberated” or “in control of her sexuality” have to mean “has a lot of sex” I hate this sex positive bullshit what you’re essentially saying is that women who don’t have a lot of sex aren’t ~liberated~ which is some misogynist bullshit leftist men use to manipulate women into having sex with them

[radfemverity]

Gossip is often demonized by men in order to prevent community among women. Although gossip can be false and derogatory, at its best it allows women to spread vital information about red flags in male behaviour, talk about our experiences, share advice, and expose predators. The word ‘gossip’ is not just used to in reference to petty things, if it were that would be fine. But it is also used to portray genuine acts of alarm-raising as merely petty. Petty gossip is destructive, but women can also safeguard others in society through gossip.

Women cooperating as a network of intelligence could pose a huge threat to the patriarchy. But it has to be done right. What a powerhouse that would be.

They say “Bro code saves egos. Girl code saves lives.”

[radfemverity]

"Until the most recent past, historians have been men, and what they have recorded is what men have done and experienced and found significant. They have called this History and claimed universality for it. What women have done and experienced has been left unrecorded, neglected, and ignored in interpretation. Historical scholarship, up to the most recent past, has seen women as marginal to the making of civilization and as unessential to those pursuits defined as having historic significance."

— Gerda Lerner, The Creation of Patriarchy (1986)

[radfemverity]

You ever think about how men who enter female-dominated spaces (e.g. makeup, fashion, progressive politics) are welcomed, adored and celebrated, but women who enter male-dominated spaces (e.g. military, gaming, football, conservative politics) are sexually degraded and verbally abused to the point of quitting the activity altogether?

When you think about it, men always practice separatism. They only create and watch fictional media with male leads, they mostly listen to mens music, they exclude girls from playing football with them at school, they call womens sports and womens history worthless. Whenever they can, men stay among themselves in terms of hobbies and interests.

And yet, the moment a woman does the same, the moment women prefer female media or express a wish to only be around other women when pursuing their hobbies, she is either vapid, or needs to be more open to centering men.

[radfemverity]

Society claims to be against sex trafficking yet supports the very avenues that fuel it. We can’t fight sex trafficking without addressing the underlying mindsets that enable stripping, pornography and prostitution. These are where the demand comes from.

Every time in porn when a commercial sex act is induced by force, fraud, deception or coercion, that is sex trafficking. That is modern-day slavery. Porn does not condemn sexual violence, degrading women, or any other type of illegal and harmful activity, it normalises them. You only need to go on page 1 of any porn site to see that.

Even the term ‘buying sex’ understates the severity of the harm in these industries. Sex is supposed to be a mutually involved act, free of coercion and pressure. You don’t merely buy sex when hiring a ‘sex worker’, you're renting a body for masturbation. You’re using a transaction to compel that person to perform your fantasies, or submit when you enact your fantasies upon them. You can choke, berate, degrade. You can say ‘suck my dick’ and they will, and then you can choke them with it. You can say ‘I’ll pay extra for anal’ and they’ll sheepishly take your money, wince and bare it, because they are vulnerable – be it financially, physically, mentally, or all of the above.

You are raping. What you’re buying is their silence.

[radfemverity]

The schizophrenia of patriarchal ideology is that misogynistic men will blame us for not staying 'pure' virgins, but then tell us that if we give them our bodies, we will be their one and only. They claim to be noble, then they cheat on/dump us like we are disposable rags, then they blame us for being gullible enough to believe their lies. And then, to top it all off, they proclaim that we must defer to their authority – as men are society’s natural leaders, to be entrusted with traits such as nobility, integrity and honesty. After all, that’s what masculinity is, we are told.

If you as a woman try to navigate traditionalist men's web of ever-contradicting lies, if you believe them when they tell you that if you do X Y Z you will be a 'high value' woman, all you'll be left with is confusion, a rotted self-esteem and complex trauma. Which they will then laugh at you for.

The survival of redpill, manosphere patriarchal ideologies hinges upon you being unable to observe these patterns in misogynistic males’ behaviour. But the moment you realise that their reward system (i.e. "do X thing we want and we will think highly of you") is a web of contradictory lies by design, that it’s not a bug but a feature, that none of these men practice what they preach because moral consistency or coherency isn’t the point, that they cannot gaslight you out of noticing what you notice, and that you are not dependent on men for your own validation... it is over for them.

[radfemverity]

The default program settings of a self-identified progressive is to assume that nonwhite men are incapable of doing harm. Any crime committed by a migrant, muslim, pakistani or black man must be some moral panic or rare fluke. They think the same about “transwomen” too. The days of leftists critically examining structures or cultures are long gone, at least in the English-speaking world. Except for the tiny number on the sidelines who haven’t been hollowed out by progressivism, leftists cannot adjust to the post-woke world. They have evolved (or devolved!) into a new outlook, which forbids pattern observation and cultural critiques by its design. They think it’s still 2016 where you can scream racist to silence debate. Stop waiting for them to get that very needed software update, it’s never going to happen.

[radfemverity]

I love the radical feminist community because it is full to the brim with cycle breakers.

Desi women who have been raised to see them, their sisters and their mothers stripped of their personhood in tightknit patriarchal families, and who have decided they will break with the tradition.

Closeted ex-Muslim women from countries like Pakistan, Iran and Somalia who quietly work towards a life of freedom in apostasy, risking shame and estrangement from their entire families for doing so.

Eldest born daughters who recognise that they should have never had to absorb the rage of their dysfunctional family, and who learn to find the balance between taking care of those they love, and taking care of themself.

Women who grew up around loveless marriages, domestic abuse and crime, who commit decades of their adult life to growing into a healthier person, pursuing a life free of fear, addiction and violence — to provide a better life for their children.

Underdog women who were made to feel that they could never amount to anything, because they were working class, a ‘trouble child’, disabled, undesirable to men, or struggled with their mental health, who then put in the work to psychologically disentangle their self-worth from these false messages.

Women who looked at the unfulfilled lives of their mothers and grandmothers, and who decided that the cycle ends with them; that they will commit themselves to knowledge, personal growth, compassion, fulfilment and adventure, to live the lives that their foremothers couldn’t, for those foremothers.

Cheers to all the cycle breakers out there. In case anyone hasn’t told you today, you’re doing great, keep it up. 🥂

[radfemverity]

Somali men mutilate little girls’ genitalia. Afghan men installed a gender apartheid regime. Black South African men murder women at the highest rates globally. Korean and Japanese men put spycams in womens toilets. White men worship politicians and footballers who are rapists. Hundreds of millions of men worldwide watch violent pornography of women and teen girls being brutalised. ‘Teen’ is the most commonly searched word on PornHub globally.

Misogyny is the constant across all cultures and races of men.

[niiwa-angel]

Chinese men broke their daughters feet and mutilated them to the point where they would never walk normally. Niger men sell their literal baby girls off to men as 'brides'. Pakistani men throw acid on the faces of women who reject them. Thai men sell their women into sex trafficking. Indian men kill their infant children because they're female. Mormon men are actively raising their daughters to be servants to church-chosen men so they can be breeding cows and maids for the rest of their lives. Muslim men are forcing their baby girls to wear burkas. Atheist men are watching women get beaten, spit on, and raped while jerking off. Disabled men abuse disabled women. Homeless men rape homeless women.

Men are men are men. Other factors don't change that. The most oppressed man still has privilege over women.

[radfemverity]

So-well put, lots of additional examples. ^^

[sealradfem]

"boys perform worse in school because there is a lack of male teachers!"

I don't care. If boys are too misogynistic to listen to and take female teachers seriously I really couldn't care less if they underperform.