Maturing is realizing trans men are just women with internalized misogyny. Of course you would want to reject female anatomy and womanhood under a system that oppresses you for precisely that. Internalized misogyny is to be expected atp, but we should fight against it, not with it.
Maturing is realizing some women can't be saved and suffering from internalized Misogyny as all women do in some way shape or form doesn't entitle you to promote the erosion of single sex spaces and the medical abuse of gender nonconforming children while enabling abusive TiMs in their crusade to silence any woman who objects to their predatory ass movement
One of my bluntest opinions is that what TIFs (and various other female devotees to left wing men) are doing is the left wing equivalent of being a tradwife influencer. What makes tradwife influencers dangerous is that they're backing up their rhetoric with votes for far-right parties, and what makes TIFs dangerous is that they're backing up their whining about feminists with participation in activism to dismantle policies for women's safety and equity.
A related blunt opinion of mine is that this whole thing about "those big meanie radfems who mock TIFs' bodies" is probably mainly a deflection. It's entirely possible that there is some mocking happening and I don't condone that, but if it was happening that often, I'd have seen it. I can't help thinking about how TIFs are accustomed to a setup where they had to serve TIMs but they were told that they could dump on feminists and demand that feminists centre them as much as they wanted, and I suspect that some of them are bringing that attitude into radfem spaces.
None of this means I won't let a TIF switch sides, but the reception she's going to get from me is "are you still an asshole? No? Then we're good" rather than "you poor thing."












