in a slightly better world, i would be radqueer, and i would be so happily. i support all transids, i support paraphiles whether they choose to be in recovery or don't feel the need to, i generally align with all the principles of radqueerism on paper. but i can't shake the contact discourse.
contact discourse shouldn't exist because the answers are blatantly obvious. a chronological minor cannot consent to sexual advances from a chronological adult (with the obvious exception of teens who have like 2 years of age gap), a theriform animal cannot consent to sexual advances from a non theriform, and it's been proven that sexual contact actively harms them mentally, regardless of physical harm. seems like a reasonable point of view, and it's not a point of view i'm ever going to be open to changing.
radqueers disagree. not every radqueer, but the radqueer community as a whole discourages this position. they parade around acceptance of pro-contact paraphiles, they turn a blind eye to predators openly using their tags to find victims and those potential victims seeking predators because they've been taught it's ok, and if you try to set a firm boundary against this, you have people swarming you to say you're not radqueer - you can't be, unless you learn to accept nonconsensual abuse.
then when someone in their circles is exposed as an abuser, they wonder how this could have happened, to pretend that their community hasn't been carefully crafted for the past few years to be a safe space for that behavior. it's horrible for potential victims, it's horrible for paraphiles being encouraged to offend, it's horrible for everyone.
once again, this is not the opinion of every single radqueer that exists. and i don't believe the community has always been this way. but i cannot deny that this is the way it is now, and that there is a problem with it, and that i am uncomfortable associating with the community as a whole until this changes.
