aventures du maenad sauvage

cavale 26. portland. preschool teacher, psychonaut, hooker, photographer, abuse survivor, diagnosed with social anxiety and hashimotos, ttc with infertility, birth junkie, perpetual college student, collector of unicorn memorabilia, lover of all things rainbow i post things relating to these subjects and lots of pictures of my day to day life.

[televandalism]

You hacked

[emergentseas]

all their bus

[koscheivna-blog]

when the head too many thoughts

[rainbowstreasures]

when ur married to a 30 year old dude and you find the gum from his blowpop stuck to your fucking rug. what the fuck am i doing with my life?

[gyllenhawl-blog]

doing a few tonight 

[rainbowstreasures]

sam won’t give me one :’(

[realsocialskills]

“How do you know?”

“How do you know?” is a really useful question.

People often assert things very confidently, without giving a reason. Sometimes it’s easy to respond to their confidence automatically, and believe them without thinking about it. Which can lead to a lot of mistakes.

The question “How do you know?” can be very helpful. Sometimes it’s something you can ask directly — some people are very receptive, and will think about their reasons and give you a good answer. Sometimes they know their reasons; sometimes they haven’t thought about it before and do think about it when you ask the question.

Some people don’t respond well to that kind of question, and asking isn’t always a good idea. But you can still ask yourself the question. Sometimes thinking to yourself “How do they know?” helps. Sometimes thinking to yourself “How do I know whether or not that’s true?” helps.

For instance: Therapist: My client is engaging in a lot of attention-seeking behavior. You: How do you know she’s doing it for attention? Or you to yourself: How does he know she’s doing it for attention? Or you to yourself: How do I know if he’s reporting her motivations accurately?

Or: Teacher: This shard of pottery shows a king walking a dog. We can learn from this that dogs were associated with high status. You: How do you know that it’s a king in the picture? Or you to yourself: How do we know whether crowns meant kings? Or you to yourself: How do I know if the teacher is right about this being a picture of a king walking a dog?

tl;dr Sometimes it can be easy to believe someone because they sound confident. One way around this is to get into the habit of asking “How do you know” or asking yourself “How do they know?” or asking yourself “How do I know if they’re right?”

[sassafrassial-deactivated201603]

sassafrassial said:

I think we should add that this is not a good question to ask someone if they tell you something about their identity.

[realsocialskills]

realsocialskills said:

That’s a really good point, thank you. And I think it applies more generally: Sometimes the answer to “how do you know?” is none of your business, and in those situations, it’s usually a really bad idea to ask.

[rainbowstreasures]

Hi.

[studentmotherlife]

Why I don't support the video of the mother beating her rioting son:

Because violence begets violence. The mother resorts to violence in anger, and is then surprised to find her son using violence to express his own anger.

If you’re condemning the actions of the rioters while simultaneously cheering the actions of the mother, then you, my friend, are a hypocrite.

[grumpytrans]

super cute and cheap ideas for people who are scared of the dark! they also have other decorative lights and some great unbeatable flash deals! ❤  / ❤  free shipping on everything and coupons!

[timemachineyeah]

This is a jar full of major characters

Actually it is a jar full of chocolate covered raisins on top of a dirty TV tray. But pretend the raisins are interesting and well rounded fictional characters with significant roles in...

[echoboots]

Please do me a favor and reblog or like this post if you are a cis person who feels 100% okay about sharing restrooms, changing rooms, and other public spaces with folks who are trans.

(Sometimes I don’t know how to help the folks in my life who are trans and have to put up with bigoted shit like this all the time, but I thought seeing lots of notes on this post might help at least a tiny bit.)

[simply-quotes-deactivated202002]

I’ve got this tiny pang of regret when I think of how much I have probably missed out on in the last few years because I was too scared to take a risk, or too shy to speak up, or too worried to be bold.

Jessi Kirby, Golden (via suspnd)

[fer1972]

Today’s Classic: Water Nymphs

1. By Edward John Poynter (1903)

2. By John William Waterhouse (1896)

3. By Herbert James Draper (1912)

4. By William-Adolphe Bouguereau (1873)

5. By Gaston Bussiere (1902)

6. By Henrietta Rae (1909)

[videofame]

[toastoat]

[acebodhi]

[whatshouldwecallme]

When really healthy people judge me for what I eat

[lavidapoliglota]

A more detailed explanation of the Cornell Method can be found here

[wetheurban]

ART: Amazing Tunnel of Lights Made of Millions of LEDs in Japan

During the gloomy falls and winters we all need something to color and light up our lives. The Japanese devoted a whole botanical garden for that purpose, and transformed it into a 7 million LED light winter illumination. 

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