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Benji. 22. they/them.

[unctuousrobot-deactivated202108]

Scott pilgrim is so funny because apparently when scott kills someone they just respawn back in their hometown. Imagine waking up on your moms couch and having to explain to your sweet mother that some canadian twink fucking decked you over a girl and it killed you

[aethersea]

#wait they don't die

yeah I’ve also been going around assuming scott pilgrim killed seven people and everyone was just like.....cool with it

[whitepeopletwitter]

[dankmemeuniversity]

[magnumpicactus-deactivated20230]

written by me

[corpsefaking-moved]

what if 😳 what if my b 😳 what if my back didnt hurt 😳

[ithelpstodream]

never forget

[progressivejudaism]

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[lookatthiscoolthing]

[aguasdelchavo]

trying to sound like a normal interested person in public

[boringthrill]

This is me

[1i73-deactivated20221021]

[killjoyfag]

[puts several things in my coat pockets] inventory

[utopicwork]

Desire

[lamb-of-dog-activated66642069]

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[utopicwork]

Do you have something you would like to share with the class?

[lamb-of-dog-activated66642069]

pebsis

[wizorab-deactivated20250827]

@rat–park

[mankillercalledbunny]

Someone: did you go to class today?

Me: I was physically present in the room.

[mankillercalledbunny]

[pelicanhypeman]

big mood

[whitepeopletwitter]

[sorekbekarmi-deactivated2022051]

My friend just sent this to me and said "you will appreciate this" and she was VERY correct

[iraffiruse]

[nessthebeautifulmess]

Powerful & creative imagery

[damnoosa-deactivated20190419]

the food and education made me sad.

[bottlesofnerdfightingelephants]

I have always been fascinated by these ‘world of 100 people’ things, I remember spending hours thinking through the ones on a poster at church when I was 9 or so. It really, really makes some really important stuff so blindingly clear, in numbers we can understand. And it should, I hope it does, inspire us to act. 

[quads-for-the-gods]

Amazing post.

[the-tin-dog]

The reason these work so well is because the human brain is actually incapable of comprehending the actual amount in people in the world. Our mind unassisted can only understand numbers up to a certain amount. Even 83% of 7 billion is difficult to grasp because we know that’s a Fuck ton, but on the flip side 17% of 7 billion is a Shit load. So our brain realy can’t comprehend the gravity of what exactly is the difference one fuck ton and one shit load. But when you take away the percent, remove this gigantic 7 billion number, and bring it down to 100, all of a sudden out brains go “oh! I know what 100 is! I can understand this!” And things are a lot clearer.

[prideprejudce]

here’s a hard pill to swallow: abuse does not just exclusively occur in romantic or family relationships. friends can be just as toxic to your physical and mental wellbeing as a partner or a family member. also, the aftermath of being in an abusive friendship can be just as traumatizing as any other abusive relationship. don’t boo me i’m right 

[prideprejudce]

for some reason people don't know this but toxic friends can mirror all the same behaviors as seen in an abusive romantic partner. i will use my own story of my ex-high school best friend who abused me for several years. signs of abuse include but are not limited to:

Humiliating or embarrassing you - my ex-best friend LOVED to try and make me squirm in any way possible to see my reaction. once she went up to a guy and told him i had a crush on him to watch me struggle to explain myself

Unreasonable jealousy - if i so much as went to hang out with any of my other friends i would have to let my ex-best friend know beforehand. i pretty much had to get her permission to see other people or she would be convinced that i was ‘ditching her forever’

Refusing to communicate - if she was ever angry with me or upset she would never tell me that so we could talk about it. instead, she would ignore me or respond to all my texts with ‘k’ or ‘ya’ and i would have to struggle for hours to get her to tell me what was wrong

Ignoring or excluding you - she would ignore me for weeks at a time as a ‘punishment’ knowing that it would eat me up inside wondering what i did wrong. i still remember spending nights wide awake crying in bed because i didn’t know what to do 

Mean jokes or constantly making fun of you - she would constantly poke fun at my appearance and personality to where my self-confidence plummeted. god help me if i ever said anything about her though

Saying things like “If you don’t _____, I will_____.” - she would constantly threaten to kill herself if i didn't do what she wanted

Guilt trips - she never apologized once to me in our seven-plus years of being friends. not once. every time we argued i would be the one who apologized in the end. once when i stood up to her and called her out on treating me like crap she would make up a story of how her life was miserable and that i was making things worse 

Isolating you from friends and family - been mentioned before but she was extremely jealous of all my other relationships and would override my plans with other people on purpose and would guilt trip me if i still went to see them

 Domination and control - also mentioned before but i needed her permission on everything. if i joined any group or extracurricular activity without her knowing she would be furious   

Extreme moodiness - after ignoring me for weeks she would contact me out of the blue and act as if nothing happened. she would also refuse to talk about why she ignored me for so long and did not care if my mental health suffered from it

anyway, abusive friendships need to be acknowledged more because they are not only extremely common but also very damaging to someone’s mental health. i personally had to go through years of therapy to unlearn the guilt and self-hatred that my ex-friend helped instill in me. stay safe yall

[prideprejudce]

a GREAT addition from @mememic-bry

#also- because sometimes I think people throw around words like ‘abuse’ a little carelessly on this site #people who aren’t abusive sometimes might do one or two things on this list #because people are flawed #and sometimes we screw up and hurt each other and it’s ouch and it sucks #if your friend does one of these things once they are not an abuser and please don’t bring it up by saying ‘you’re being abusive’ #instead say ‘hey this specific thing you did hurt me and here’s why it was p stressful’ #and a good friend will hear you out. maybe they will get defensive or sad (cause who *likes* being called out let’s be real) #but ultimately they will listen to you. they will own up to their actions. #and they will make a genuine effort to not act in that way that hurt you again

#ON THE OTHER HAND #an abusive person will do several of these things *repeatedly* and *consistently*. it is a pattern woven in your relationship #and it just keeps happening #and if you try to bring it up they will deny any ownership of their actions #they will either say they never did those things OR that they *DID* but it’s not their fault #every single time they will gaslight you or make themselves the victim and refuse to hold themselves accountable for hurting you #that’s an abuser. that’s a toxic friend 

[prehistoricmancunt]

person: how are you

me: waiting for death but not seeking it out so i could be worse