for me, love is everything

We’re all fake, so let’s have beef, become distant, and then come so close you can smell my perfume

[topflobtch]

Octavia Saint Laurent in “Paris Is Burning.” (1990)

[madwomxxn]

Here's an FGM survivor's response to that girl on TikTok who claimed "people focus on FGM so much because they want to tie women's oppression to genitalia so they can exclude transwomen."

[captainvhdvhd]

Transcription of TikTok by @shamsa.araweeloo, responding to @sweenytoddsgf

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There’s a chick on this app that felt… appropriate to come and attack… It felt like an attack ‘cause it triggered the fuck outta me.

Not only did it trigger me, it left my mind cloudy. For two days. Like two days? Three days? And trust me… if I had replied, to you the day I saw that video that you made about, ehm “female genital mutilation being spoken about too much”…

Uhh, I cast you out. I cast you out. I still have the video. I’m not gonna post it though. I’m not going to post it. Because what you have said is so beneath me that any human being that utters that shit: I don’t respect you. Heh!

I have… zero respect for you. I will not consider anything that you say today, tomorrow, or ever! Do you understand?

The dehumanization of survivors has gone on for so long and is one of the biggest reasons why I am who I am today. Because I am sick and tired of knowing that I have suffered the same fate as two hundred and thirty million women and girls worldwide. Not only that, we don’t even consider the millions who have bled out. The millions who have contracted diseases. The millions who were left with disabilities. The millions who have been left infertile. Because of female genital mutilation. Because of societies worldwide are so fixated on the female genitalia that they purposely target BORN females.

Do you understand?

And it absolutely broke my heart to think that I have been advocating and fighting to humanize… a fucking human. Because that’s what I am: a fucking human…..

I have to tell the Somalian people that we are human to stop cutting us. I have to tell the Muslim community. I beg, “We are human! Stop cutting us! Stop misleading the ohmma.” I try to explain to the Western society why FGM continues. The fact that there are blocks, BLOCKS keeping FGM up. It is not a simple “Aw, let’s eradicate female genital mutilation”. It is far bigger than that. In order to eradicate something like female genital mutilation that has been happening since the AD/BC times…

And then you’re still dehumanized. The Western side. My identity as a Muslim, even the Black community themselves don’t give two flying fucks! About the thirty plus million little girls, Black little girls, African little girls, who are cut…

The percentage is a lot more than that, by the way. But you don’t care. You don’t talk about it! What you guys want is controversy. You want… you want something to stick your teeth in. That’s what y’all want. You guys want drama. That’s why this dumb bitch decided to bring trans women… into this conversation, by implying that the only reason why we (“those people” she said. “The only reason why those people talk about female genital mutilation”) is because… Um, uhh… is the only way “They” can link it to the oppression of women’s genitalia.

???

It is a direct link. 

There is a direct link or otherwise what are- a white fucking women?!?!? is going to fucking teach me about my fucking experience? Especially one who has not experienced it. Because let me tell you! White women have experienced female genital mutilation. I know one, myself, who has experienced female genital mutilation.

…

But you have not and you have the audacity, the guts, to… use the little percentage of intellect that you have to completely exclude one community. And include one. By telling me, that the fact that I was cut as a six year old little girl, wasn’t down to the oppression of women’s genitalia. In prevalence countries.

Oh! Why don’t you just teach us? Why don’t you just teach us… about our own trauma, why don’t you? Were you there when little girls were being bullied? Having rocks thrown at them just because they had a clitoris? Where adults and young kids were constantly having to tell them “You’re so dirty. You’re disgusting! Aw look, the girl with the clitoris: she can’t play with my kids. Don’t play with her, she has a clitoris!” 

To the point where those girls go and beg their mum and say “Please. Cut me! I want- I want good itan.” They don’t even use the term “cut”. They use the word “good itan”. They don’t know what the fuck that means. They don’t understand even- they can’t even comprehend themselves what it is. They haven’t been told that- i-i-in detail, “this and this and this is FGM.” 

“Oh, good itan.”

But when they are in that moment, even if they regret it… they will eventually think it was for the greater good. Cognitive dissonance. Mm? Where you are conflicted because you love your family, you love your faith, and you kinda want to justify that what happened to you- You have to kind of normalize it. Or it’s normalized for you, because if you live in a society where all of this shit is normal, then you’ll think it’s normal! 

But you do not understand FGM, and yet you’re here talking about FGM survivors. And trying to pit two communities against each other. But I know trans women who are allies fighting against female genital mutilation, and other forms of violence against women. So what you will not do is incite hate. Do you understand? 

I called a friend yesterday, who ehm is a huge advocate for the trans community. And… I said “You know, this has happened.” I sent her your video. And… she was disgusted, to say the least. Absolutely disgusted, just as much as I was. And then I thought “Okay, let me change my approach. Cause if I come on the internet and I cuss you out, and then you didn’t learn anything.”

But… 

Learn. Learn about female genital mutilation before you’re out here talking about shit that you do not understand. Shit that you cannot comprehend, and you cannot trigger survivors and think that you can fucking get away with that shit.

You are disgusting. Absolutely disgusting. And if you wanna stand by what you said, huh? Come come.

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transcribed November 22nd, 2024

Note: I am unfamiliar with the terms "ohmma", "good itan", and "prevalence countries". I did my best to represent what I was hearing, rather than write (unintelligible) so that anyone with more familiarity may correct any incorrect transcription in reblogs.

[maledepravityarchive]

I don't think men who consume porn should be allowed on juries (for trials on sex crimes). If a woman who has been raped is "too biased" for cases involving sexual assault, then a man who gains sexual pleasure from violent, degrading, humiliating, misogynistic content that's been PROVEN to reduce empathy in men towards women who've been raped (and women in general) and leads them to believe victim blaming myths about women and sexual violence (ex. being hurt turns women on, women unconsciously want to be raped and put themselves in situations where they're likely to be hurt, rape is not that traumatizing and easy to get over, etc.) are also too biased.

[myfakeplasticlove13]

[feministfang]

Three brave women beat up a shopkeeper in islamic republic of Pakistan for harassing them and all the Pakistani men are so pissed off that they’re sending death threats to those women for taking action in their own hands instead of tolerating and calling some male authority or police. That piece of shit also filed a case against those women for abusing him and as a citizen of this trash country, i can tell he will win the case.

A 20 years old girl, Sania Zehra, was brutally tortured, raped and murdered by her husband, syed ali raza bukhari, when she was pregnant with her third child. This also happened in Pakistan on 8th of July. Now the same men are silent over this or trying to shove the issue of Palestine on feminist pages posting about Sania’s case because "far worst things are happening in the world". Meanwhile, Pakistani women are busy dick worshipping the victim’s father because "he must be so traumatised after losing his daughter like this. oh poor man!" As if that bitch isn’t at fault for making her daughter marry that old beast when she was probably 16.

Celebrities here are more concerned about men’s deteriorating mental health in this country as these lunatics think catering to men’s feelings will somehow fix them. What else can you expect from them when the entire world outside has progressed, but these dumbfucks are still portraying the same old cringe fairytale stories where a simple beautiful, but unfortunate girl falls in love with some ugly psychotic man and tolerates his abuse because "that’s true love 😍" and in the end, she’s successful in fixing him.

But when we speak a word against the atrocities women face in this country, all these people lose their minds and try to silence us to ensure the image of their fuckin country is not at risk of defamation and the lovely Pakistan can become an example of how peaceful islam is. Pakistani men (and most women here as well) are intolerant when it comes to the vilification of the image of their country and religion. And their asses start burning when they see someone ruining it. They even stoop so low to the level of satanism that they would not hesitate to send death threats to anyone making them look bad globally. A girl i was friends with on FB wished Malala another gunshot on her face by Taliban because of her anti-marriage stance.

This is why i urge y’all to please don’t stay silent on the issues women are facing in Pakistan. I never see global feminist pages talking about female oppression in this garbage country. Some feminists living in west also act like brown men are somehow better than white men and they’re more oppressed than white women because of racism, or that muslim men are better than christian bigots. Stop victimising brown muslim men. Not only are they hideous but also the misogyny the south asian society has shoved in their assholes is extremely disgusting and they keep shitting it on women everywhere they go, including white women.

I wouldn’t expect support from brainless libby feminists as they’re probably busy pulling their pants down on their favourite OF platforms or fighting misandry online, but i would love to see all the radfems speaking up for south asian women. Please make it known globally how the Pakistani islamic community is constantly oppressing women day by day.

Use the examples i stated above. Speak up for Sania Zehra!! Demand justice for her globally, and keep bashing corrupt Pakistani law system. Also, don’t forget to defame their religion. These people are most protective of their culture and religion. I don’t see any hope in this country for women, but there’s a chance they will start taking action and give proper justice to the victims in order to protect their so called dignity.

[vexingwoman]

radfems: women are female people

looney troons: so you think women are nothing but fuckholes? you think women are walking vaginas? disembodied wombs? incubators? baby-making machines? fuck dolls? cum dumps? your misogyny is showing, nazi terf cunt.

[vexingwoman]

[dumbas-writes]

[dunhamsolivia]

so, i’ll go. and i’ll stay. and we’ll be okay.

fleabag 2x6, 2019 | normal people 1x12, 2022

[dumblr]

Well it was different with you, it was just real.

[evilfeminist-deactivated2020042]

Me being gender critical doesn’t erase your identity and isn’t a call for trans people to be killed. Women are allowed to structurally analyize social theory, regardless of if you agree with them or not. If you can’t tell the difference between political analysis, and a call for a mass extermination, then you probably shouldn’t be given your own political platform.  

[radfemetc]

[dandridgegirl]

“She said her trafficker sent her to the Love Ranch North and the Moonlite Bunny Ranch brothels, owned by the late Dennis Hof, “as a form of punishment” when she wasn’t making enough money or gave him other trouble.

At the legal brothels, Charleston said, the conditions were deplorable.

“It’s a miserable daily existence, so drug use is rampant inside the brothel. … We would just sit around and get high [on meth] all day,” recalled Charleston, who said she no longer uses drugs.

She was also expected to be on call 24 hours a day and forced to sleep in the same room she serviced customers in, a practice she called “disgusting” and a “human-rights violation.”

Anytime she tried to leave the brothel, the house manager would try to prevent her from going, while other girls in the house “just never left.”

https://nypost.com/2019/06/02/former-sex-worker-dont-legalize-prostitution-in-new-york/

[soravagemecrazy]

I will NEVER get behind prostitution. Ever. The commodification of sex and the female body will never be ok.

[astraystayyh]

i dont think there is a word yet that can describe how absolutely vile israel is. they killed thirsty children by targeting a water tank.

how inhumane do you have to be to support this, to fund this, to excuse this, to ignore this and pretend as if it isn’t going on?

* news was originally shared by Ramy Abdul, chairman of Euromed Human Rights Monitor

it is also not the first time Israel has targeted water tanks . this is how some Palestinians in Gaza get water supplies since the IDF threatens to shoot them.

[saint-mabel]

even if women did find prostitution ‘empowering’ or whatever the fuck, i’d still be against it. there is nothing revolutionary in being empowered by something you are expected to do. there is nothing empowering about selling feet pics when the wins on the train next to you is being trafficked and raped hundreds of times a day. there are women dying, being tortured and enslaved and abused. you don’t get to take their abuse and try to flip it on it’s head when you live a comfy california lifestyle.

[sugas6thtooth]

It's unfathomable, even more so when you realize this isn't the first time Israel has done this. She was a baby. The men were so obviously red crescent medics, and still, Israeli soldiers shot and killed them.

It wasn't a misfired bomb. It was guns. They knew what they were targeting.

Anyone who defends this, for whatever religion you believe in, even if you believe in nothing at all, I can only hope the afterlife brings you your deserved suffering on a platter. You're disgusting, vile creatures, who must've snuck onto the Earth because there is no way in nature that you are human. Die.

نَّا ِلِلَّٰهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ

Save the children of Palestine. Protect the medics. Free Palestine. 🇵🇸

[hannbl]

People on tumblr when you write "woman on her period" instead of "uterus person on they/thems icky monthly thing"

[terfarchive]

“men are hurt by the patriarchy too!” women straight up cannot wear ANYTHING without being sexualized or infantilized

your daughter wears a pink shirt with a unicorn on it? aw, what a sweet little girl. nobody takes her seriously.

your daughter wears basketball shorts and a t-shirt? aw, look at her, trying to be one of the boys. pick me. an egg waiting to crack. insecure.

your daughter wears tight clothes and loves dresses and short skirts? whore. she asked for it. scandalous, unbecoming of a woman. perverted and unpure.

your daughter wears baggy clothes that hide her figure? she must be insecure. fat. a prude. a boy. show a little skin, men like that.

but not too much skin. unless you’re a famous woman, an actress, or a singer, because then you have to appeal to the male gaze. but then the males you are trying to appease will call you a whore, a bitch. you don’t have talent, it’s just your body that made you famous. but if you cover up, you’ll lose your male audience. your producers can’t have that.

yeah, men are soooo oppressed. a man crying is gay, a woman crying is hysterical. a man raging is “just a guy thing,” perhaps a little odd or unsettling if he’s homeless, a woman raging is toxic and mentally unwell. a man attempts suicide and is a tortured poet, a woman attempts suicide and is seen as overdramatic and crying for attention. tell me more about how men are wounded by their own creation.